Man-thango
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Anytime you leave a guy's dick throbbing and twitching -you know you're a "powerbottom".
I've heard it tossed around a few places and it always seems to have a negative connotation.
It seems to suggest a person who knows what they want in bed and tend to come off as sexually aggressive.
I just want to know what is so bad about knowing what you want in bed? Perhaps why people are choosing to use this term in such a negative way, similar to Slut/whore.
Any thoughts?
Whenever I hear people talking about tops and bottoms, I notice this hint of disdain for bottoms. People to think of bottoms as inferior for taking the "passive" (i.e., feminine) role. If talking
about a couple and not just a casual encounter, there's often the
assumption (sometimes true, often not) that the top is dominant in the
relationship, that he's in control, the "boss," as if the bottom were
"owned" by the top the way a woman was once considered to be the
property of her husband. Bottoms, I think, are a little bit looked down
upon because they appear to be choosing the inferior role that women had no choice about. Given these attitudes, it's amazing to me how many men are able to be proud, happy, self-confident bottoms.
I'm a top by default, but there's a bottom in my dying to get out. I
think a lot of tops are uptight and in desperate need of a good fucking.
Their attitude about being penetrated is much like that of a straight
guy: uh-uh, no way, ain't nothing going up there, nothing's going in
the out hole (etc., etc.). The use of terms such as "shit hole" and
"poop chute" suggest a level of disgust at the idea of being anally
penetrated. I can almost understand this among straight people, but
among gay men it seems hypocritical. Why is it OK to fuck some other
guy's "poop chute" but no thing will ever go in or near yours?
I also think a lot of tops are afraid of losing control. They've
probably seen pornos where the bottom lets go of all shame or modesty
and moan, "oh god, fuck me" and begs for it harder or faster. Their
pleasure seems almost blissful, ecstatic, trascendent. That implies a
degree of nakedness that goes beyond merely taking one's clothes off to
being truly exposed, and emotionally vulnerable. For many of us, that's
terrifying.
Thus I have tremendous admiration and respect for power bottoms.
That's really just your opinion. Not all gay sex is predicated on dominant roles, passive/agressive.
A power bottom, to me, indicates someone recieving anal sex who is just as active in creating pleasuer for both top and botom, as opposed to being a passive bottom, who just lays there and gets fucked. A power bottom may ride the top, or fuck back against him, or, as others have indicatedotherwise generally indicate the tone and direction of the sex. A power bottom isn't hung up on the role connotations of top or bottom and knows his body well enough to extract the maximum amount of pleasure from the expierence
This is more or less what I said but in a different way, except when you describe bottoms as "proud, happy, self-confident" and that you "have tremendous admiration and respect for power bottoms", you lost me there.
...No matter how you look at it, it's still a dominant/submissive act. A recipient is submissive. When I have sex with my wife she's the one being penetrated not me.
...People who equate receptive and insertive participation as a metaphor for male and female roles are woefully mis informed and lagging behind the times, in a way that unfortunately reinforces their own stereotypes. Expressing these views as the benchmark standard of sexual comparisons is demeaning, out-dated and lacking insight...
Why not? Care to elaborate! Anal is incredible. It doesnot matter if your male ,female, str8 or bi. You need to understand it.I never understood the whole top and bottom thing, and I especially dont understand how someone can love taking it up the ass.
Why are you here? You keep posting extremely negative anti-gay crap and it's most annoying.
Does anyone else smell a troll?
A woman can do exactly what you described above, but she's never called a power bottom. Italian978
But; she could be if she had the aptitude, talent or desire to be so called.
1, I am confused as to how a person who claims to have a 99% hetero rating has all this insight into the world of, sexual politics of and understanding of the gay scene and it social morals. Aren't you just dressing up your own personal opinion as "fact". Your opinion of Bottoms, POWER or otherwise is way off the mark. Bottom's are neither revered or reviled, but remember, without a Bottom there is no Top. Not that I use your labels myself but I hope you understand my point.
2, and I feel very sorry for your wife; if the option to take control in the bedroom (wherever) is never an option for her then she is being "used" in the sex act, never given the choice to "get on top" or take you as she'd like, to take from you what she'd like- if she is unable to act equally with you and your "dominance of the insertive participant";....this sounds to me a VERY unsatisfactory relationship and controlling too.
Why not? Care to elaborate! Anal is incredible. It doesnot matter if your male ,female, str8 or bi. You need to understand it.
Tops can still get herpes or the clap...so I don't know what you call that?
Anyway, I've always believed a power bottom to be a person with either complete control over their hole, meaning they are able to please their top in ways beyond most average bottoms...or being someone who lacks feeling in their ass; making them able to take alot of stress, no matter what from.
I'm not posting negative anti-gay crap, but it looks like you think you're the troll patrol.
True. A top is less likely to get an STD, but it is possible. I'm sure a lot of tops do fear getting something and that's why they are tops. And as far as disease goes, it's the same thing in straight sex. It's more difficult for a man(the penetrator) to get an STD because of his obvious physiological differences from a woman(the recipient). And if the guy has no feeling left in his ass, then we go back to square one, and the bottom is the one who has everything to lose, even feeling. Doesn't sound fun to me.
...And don't feel sorry for my wife. We have a very active sex life, but I am the man and she is the woman, and she is penetrated by me...