The term St8 Acting.

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I guess I'm plagued by that. I like 'straight acting men' and for some reason dislike flamboyant. Not sure why. The manlier, the better for me. I don't mind a man having feminine features, but I like my women women and men men. Yes, you can have varying degrees, I'm not arguing that. It's just weird when I see a flamboyant muscular guy. Blows my mind every time.
 

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OC has a really good point. It's always better meeting people in person so that you can check out the full package. We all have our preferences about what we like but putting it in writing can appear shallow. I just think at least there's someone out there for everyone.
 

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Fuck Off Troll.
we're communicating through the written word. it's hardly trollish to point out that, in order to put your point across and to avoid misunderstanding, it's important that your words make sense. it doesn't need to be perfect but it does need to be clear.

we're not teenagers updating on facebook. we're adults having a debate.
 

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OC has a really good point. It's always better meeting people in person so that you can check out the full package. We all have our preferences about what we like but putting it in writing can appear shallow. I just think at least there's someone out there for everyone.

Oh I'm not disagreeing that meeting someone in person is better. I was just wondering why the term was considered offensive but from all the (productive) people posting, I understand mostly lol
 

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we're communicating through the written word. it's hardly trollish to point out that, in order to put your point across and to avoid misunderstanding, it's important that your words make sense. it doesn't need to be perfect but it does need to be clear.

we're not teenagers updating on facebook. we're adults having a debate.

So he couldn't understand were from we're? If EVERYONE understood, he's just bitching. I even asked him for his input. I don't need a spelling or grammar police. I didn't force his eyes to read anything I wrote. He can so easily move past this.
 

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So he couldn't understand were from we're? If EVERYONE understood, he's just bitching. I even asked him for his input. I don't need a spelling or grammar police. I didn't force his eyes to read anything I wrote. He can so easily move past this.
it made me frown and reread.

ok, i can make out those posts if i read them twice and consciously make an effort to figure out what you meant, but isn't it easier for you to use the right word to begin with.

if you don't want people to understand you and take you seriously then what is the point of posting your opinion.
 

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it made me frown and reread.

ok, i can make out those posts if i read them twice and consciously make an effort to figure out what you meant, but isn't it easier for you to use the right word to begin with.

if you don't want people to understand you and take you seriously then what is the point of posting your opinion.

Okay, Sorry I didn't adhere to the 10% of people that can't understand simple shorthand and miniature typo's. I'll do my part next time.
 

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i'd guess it's more than 10%.
and i'm pretty sure my lack of capitalisation irritates the hell out of a lot of people. but with that one i can say it makes a post no harder to comprehend.
 

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Yea I agree with everyone. Masculine is just a less offensive way to say it.

i'd guess it's more than 10%.
and i'm pretty sure my lack of capitalisation irritates the hell out of a lot of people. but with that one i can say it makes a post no harder to comprehend.

And Those people are pretentious elitist and in that case who needs them. Everyone's not a scholar. This isn't a book club.
 

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And Those people are pretentious elitist and in that case who needs them. Everyone's not a scholar. This isn't a book club.
indeed.

i'll reread my own posts before i hit submit, because i want my point of view to come across clearly. but i'm still too lazy to use my shift key.
 

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I guess I'm plagued by that. I like 'straight acting men' and for some reason dislike flamboyant. Not sure why. The manlier, the better for me. I don't mind a man having feminine features, but I like my women women and men men. Yes, you can have varying degrees, I'm not arguing that. It's just weird when I see a flamboyant muscular guy. Blows my mind every time.

This thread is about the term "str8 acting" but this comment points out another issue that is a huge pet peeve for me. "Flamboyant" is not the opposite of "straight acting". "Straight acting" is a poor substitute for the word masculinity which really only refers to traditional masculinity (which varies depending on where you are from). "Flamboyant" has nothing to do with being effeminate or "less masculine". Flamboyant is used when something is showy, bright, ornate, over the top, etc. Not every gay guy that falls on the more effeminate side of the scale is "flamboyant" and there are plenty of so called masculine gay guys, or even straight guys, who can be categorized as flamboyant.
 

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*sigh* This is one of the dumbest things about I see occur amongst gay/bisexual guys. First, there is no such thing as "straight-acting", you are likely some degree of masculine than androgynous or feminine.

Personally, if that is a deal breaker then I wouldn't even waste me time being friends or associated with such shallow individuals. Like another poster said, people have lost the art of connecting with one another on a personal level in-person. It seems the internet has fed into this shallow complex that so many have these days to the point of destructiveness.
 

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Meh, it's a term i've got mixed feelings about. On the one hand I can't stand the anti-camp streak some guys have got but I am in a slightly hypocritical position. I dislike the term "straight acting" but I sometimes call myself fairly straight acting. I think it's because I couldn't think of anything else, and many people initially mistake me for being straight. I have a camp streak and like to be in touch with my feminine side, it just doesn't surface that much.

My main problem with the term is, precisely what is straight-acting about sleeping with another man????!!
 

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It's all one cliche after another on Grindr - str8 acting, hung, muscular, chill, generous, no fats, no fems, blond hair, blue eyes, smooth, shaved ass, perfectly arched eyebrows, flawless skin, this only, never that....

I imagine them all to be a bunch of obese, furry, 60 year old men who still live at home with their mothers, all pretending to be something they aren't :)
 

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Personally think
straight acting males are just burgeoning strutting males intent on expressing there sexual prowess, that they know they are capable of ...
 

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we're communicating through the written word. it's hardly trollish to point out that, in order to put your point across and to avoid misunderstanding, it's important that your words make sense. it doesn't need to be perfect but it does need to be clear.

we're not teenagers updating on facebook. we're adults having a debate.

Thank you, Dolfette, for your thoughtful defense of my grammatical nit picking here. I have always been a proponent of accurate and effective communications, so much so that I often view my own criticisms of poor grammar as "nit picking." But your observations have given me a better understanding, i.e. that the badly misspelled messages, multiple typos and fragmented sentences that are so characteristic of today's society are actually inconsiderate acts. To require so much interpretation on the part of their readers is both inconsiderate and lazy on the part of the writer. It would be so much better for the writer to be considerate enough to offer their views in an intelligible manner.

But I digress, and apologies to the rest of you for my straying from the subject at hand. As for my own views on that subject, I can see how many would be offended by the term "Str8 Acting." I can also see how it is an accurate and compact way for others to express what they like and/or are looking for in a person. Like anything else, one simply must be sensitive to the circumstances and the audience when using language of an informal nature. And, like so many other threads in this forum, it's really a problem of labels and the applying of those labels to individuals.