the thing about cocks is.......... :)

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doubtless_mouse: Ok here goes, you asked for comments...not trashing you but giving you my take...

You asked your wife a loaded question. When she first saw your dick she didn't have "the look of "shock and awe" that most of the fucking bimbos had...[you] got no such thing..." So I imagine you were probably thinking she wasn't impressed, so you had to ask. You probably thought that she had seen at least as big if not bigger than yours, so you had to ask...Why are you suprised by the answer you got? She was honest with you, that should tell you something. She married you, that should likewise tell you something as well.

You state that women lie, granted you did not say all women lie, but the statement you make, "sometimes girls are nice, and they LIE to you, " oh babe, your the biggest I have ever seen!" and [for] some of the guys on here, its probobly the case, but for average guys like myself, its rare to have that happen..." implies that all women lie, but when your wife tells you the truth you freak out...

You say that she doesn't have a problem with your size then why do you? It works, it brings her pleasure, it brings you pleasure, what more could you want in a dick? 8"x7" is not average, it is bigger than average. Your problem lies not in the size of your dick, but in the amount of insecurity you have over the size of your dick. Dude, all I can say is get over it, move on with your life, if your wife is happy (you have been married for almost 5 years right? Don't think she would stay if she wasn't fulfilled sexually), it functions normally, you don't need viagra and that damn thing doesn't pose some sort of health hazard then be happy with it.

You seem to be like most men who want to have the massive crank but don't understand that the grass ain't greener on the other side of the fence. Imagine what it would be like not being able to have sex because most women couldn't take the 14" monster even if they wanted to.

My wife is small, I am medium sized, it sucks. We have a good sex life, but due to the size issues not as good as I would like. I would almost be willing to reduce (almost but not quite) if it meant more sex with the woman I choose to live my life with. So since our relationship isn't based on sex (well not completely) I find value with what we do have. You might be better served to do the same. Be happy with who you are. If you were smaller than average and found a woman who was happy and didn't have issues with your size I would tell you the same thing. But you are not small.

You have some issues with women in general and likewise with penis size. You might want to find someone to talk to. You express that you were traumatized growing up becasue of your experiences, then, again, you might want to seek someone to talk to (pastor, priest, rabbi, bartender, shrink, whatever) in an effort to get rid of the chips on your shoulder.

Lastly, be happy with who you are and what you are.

 

[jonb]

I agree. If you have issues with women, it's important to deal with them. I mean, "do damage to every god damn bitch I could"? Yanno, if I were female and that was how the first man I'd been with thought of sex, I would be such a lesbian right now.

Heh. I always thought misogynists ultimately all had little dicks: Thanks to punkkore for testing my hypothesis.

 

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ssu: I don't care about your "attitude" - just your point... Which is kinda moot anyway. Mate your dick is big enough already - be happy with what you've got. Like 5" in the actaul average, which you are waaay above. Be happy with what you got - treat your women with respect and I think you'l be a very very different man afterwards

 

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C. Myjunk:

Originally posted by jonb@Aug 24 2004, 06:45 PM
I agree. If you have issues with women, it's important to deal with them. I mean, "do damage to every god damn bitch I could"? Yanno, if I were female and that was how the first man I'd been with thought of sex, I would be such a lesbian right now.

Heh. I always thought misogynists ultimately all had little dicks: Thanks to punkkore for testing my hypothesis.

See Myjunk,, hahhaaha that is sooo clever, see, you took my SN and put a "See" in front of it in stead of a "C." you are soooo funny, did you come up with that yourself, or did you have help?
hahhahaha your sooooooooo funny, really you are.. have you ever thought about becoming a comic, you should, with zingers like that, the sky is the limit..
hahahahah

 

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TripodMillenium: I posted my pics on another board I go to.....


And this 35-36 year old lady who is a friend of mine said I had the biggest one she ever saw.... ((she's obviously excluding porn))


You are NOT average in your size.....


Average for LPSG..... But, keep in mind, we are a group of LARGELY ENDOWED PEOPLE.......


Good to hear that you and your wife get along well.... even if you have that past experience of hers itching at the back of your mind.....

But keep this in mind.....

SO F#%KING WHAT?!

So she had one bigger than you..... Many times.... the biggest happen to be just that..... a memory in the past..... a fantasy fulfilled...... Since there are so few people so large out there...... You do NOT HAVE to be the largest she's had! And, hell, you're the third largest she's had! If it were the Olympics.... you'd still be wearing a damn medal! She has had one that big before.... and you're still in her top three..... THINK ABOUT THAT......

And, also.... remember that being with one that big will not leave the poor girl stretched out for the rest of her life...... Childbirth could do that..... but the only difference she still carries from her ex is the memory..... I doubt he's ruined her for less prodigious monsters...


In short.... CHILL! Many people would be smiling and happy to be in the top three of a girl who's had such a member in 1st place..... You're still wearing an olive wreath in the member size event for her..... so smile -- you're on the podium.

 

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ssu: A bit shallow to be "smiling and happy" just to have the wow- I'm top 3 thing isn't it?

I would of though a better accolade would to please a woman alone

C. Myjunk - I think you just gotta show the woman a good hard fucking time (literally) because 12", or 8", or hell, 4" if she gets her pleasure and you get yours - surely that is insurance enough?

Trust- there are enough guys with dicks too big/too small (at least, in their minds) and guys with enough medical dick problems to put your well into the higher percentage if you can actually show a woman a good time, right?

But I think when you do- and learn to accept yourself and all that, you'l realise -> this whole thing is just in the mind

 

[Xin]

Ok, it seems to me that because of the way you were ignored and treated as a teen, and laughed at by women has seriously mucked you up and traumatised you (subconciously at least).
When you had this sudden growth spurt and the women started making 'positive' comments, this, combined with your already defined issues and insecurities, effectively set a new high 'standard' in your head as what to expect and what the response from every woman who sees your penis should be.
Taking into account that you had all this set in your mind, I can perfectly understand how you reacted when your wife told you she had been with a man of 12". However, this is not to say I condone it.
As pretty much everyone else has said, you need to seek professional help in order to sort out these issues in your mind.
Just remember, you do have a large penis either way and you should be proud of it. At least it's not so enormously huge that either she can't manage sex very often at all or that it's hurting/damaging her, right?

 

[jonb]

No, punkwhore, that was just a typo. And now you're a plonkkore.

http://plonk.endemic.org/ascii.html

 

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suaige: Reply to your message.

There has been a lot said about your attitude. You did say that your wife was a doll. I hope you really feel that way. My dad's opinion of women is they are satanic - yeah that really makes my mom feel good. He gets this mostly from his own issues he refuses to deal with but it affects his marriage a lot.

So if you really believe your wife is a doll. I hope you treat her that way and she knows that clearly.

2nd - penis size. I was very obsessed with the size of my penis oh for a good couple of decades. I was molested by 2 men and come to the conclusion the only reason I was important to anyone was the size of my member. I was prepped for the experience as you were. After moving into a new school somehow the rumor got started I thought a guy in my class was "fine". When your 12, never had an inclincation toward homosexuality, and its not yet politcally correct to be gay & living outside San Fransisco - life can really bite. Just mostly wanted to die, but never dared bring it about. Then I started being molested. It was all about being a sex toy. 2nd guy with a 3" willy hard or so actually measured me, went on and on and on and on about my size.

Needless to say- I HAD ISSUES- I wanted - no needed to know how I compared and felt threatened by anyone who was bigger. a few years later I found out my bro and I were basically identical in size and shape. I literally felt threatened.

Like yourself being about 8in, but less girthy, I know I am in the top few percentile and well known that for years, but made no difference. Went to counseling for 5 years after my issues helped destroy my marriage. I found out it really does not matter.

I have pretty much the biggest member I have ever seen, and yet when I finally dealt with everything else I finally realized it does not change who I am as a person unless I choose to have it do so


As for having sex, I was longer than my wife and I hated it, SO DID SHE, so I agree with what others have said. If she loves you, and you love her thats what is really important. If you are able to have a great sex life -- all the better .

I also agree with what has been said. Getting rid of a lot of deep seeded resentment - though it souds like you are doing better - and learning to accept yourself as you are is extremely liberating. 5 years and a few $1,000 of counseling later I consider it the best thing I ever did.

And as my urolgist says, be proud of what you got and be happy. You can work everthing else out. and as he said, you have a very long eurethra.

Wishing you the best.

 

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kudo451: I think you might want to consider what will happen if you do what your planning. first your bigger than average, 2nd your wife and life partner is very happy with you, and 3rd she doesn't really care about size.

So if you go through all the trouble of changing and the years and possible damage you could do to yourself, do you think any of that will change?

Are you risking the wonderful relationship you have with your wife by introducing an obvious obsession that in the end she has already told you doesn't matter to her?

The really sad thing is, you have her! She is probably the number one reason in the world that you have any positive attitude toward women.

She is already teaching you what matters and you are not listening. She has proved it with her life: Because she is with you and she is not with either of the other two bigger guys.

So ask yourself: "What about you is so much bigger than both their cocks, that she would stay with you?" Now grow that part of yourself.