The thread of holiday depression

Discussion in 'Et Cetera, Et Cetera' started by DevonTexas, Dec 20, 2011.

  1. DevonTexas

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    Most people enjoy Christmas, hannauka or whatever you celebrate this time of year. This thread is for the rest of us who can only find despair this season
     
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    My mom died on Christmas Eve. Makes it hard to think of anything else when the holidays roll around. I dread them.
     
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    Well, count me in. First Christmas alone ever. Recently divorced, wife is intolerable and I will have my three kids on Christmas Day, but lose all the Christmas Eve and Santa morning traditions this year. Starting over sucks.
     
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    This thread is for the rest of us who can only find despair this season

    dont want to be a kiljoy for your thread of depression & despair, but dont go looking ....
    and be aware
    we ALL go thru pretty much similar things, at varying stages
    perhaps its mindset, and how we choose to handle it.
    Admit its more difficult for some, and yes there is ALWAYs many more in a worse situation than ourselves..
    Keep your spirits up folks
     
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    I'm more indifferent about it than really depressed. If I were partnered, maybe I'd feel differently (unless he was humbug as well...). The holidays are for the kids, which I don't have...

    One of these days, I'm just heading to some non-baby-Jesus island somewhere and chill...
     
  6. Mr. Snakey

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    I will find joy this Christmas, however its going to be very hard. Last October my mother was killed in a car accident. Almost a year to the day my father died on October 23rd. I am thankful. I have a wonderful wife, kids and grandchildren. I also have two brothers i love very much. So as a family we will get through this together. I am counting on them to hold me up. This Christmas is going to be very hard on me. Very hard.
     
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    Ugh, first of all I am deeply sorry for the loss of both of your parents. I can't even imagine what that must feel like. This is the first Christmas without my Grandma who died a few months ago after a year of being one of her sole caregivers. Things were so hard on all of us physically and emotionally before her loss. But I miss her so much and it hasn't even been very long. I've not missed anyone I've lost as much as her at this point in my life.

    I have been watching war movies all day and rather than making me suck up my own physical and emotional pain right now with what I'm going through it just made me more depressed. I don't mind being laid up in bed, I'm pretty used to it actually. I'm used to medications galore and some of which have side effects. But i just feel extra helpless and extra down this year. Holidays or not. And I'm not sure how to get out of this rut.

    I try to watch comedy that cheers me up, I try to watch things that are so much worse than I have it to give me perspective. I wish I could blame it all on hormones and changes in that area since the surgery. But I'm not sure I have just one thing to blame it on.

    Right now I'm moody and I hate looking in the mirror. I hate that anyone even has to read that this is what I'm dealing with. I fear it will be held against me later but I don't have very many outlets to throw this at to see what sticks. I'm not a people person and I like my solitude. I like my LPSG.

    Ugh....what I am trying to say is hugs to all and to all a goodnight.
     
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    I hear you, Big Man.

    Remember to smile and see the joy.
     
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    Eleven days ago a friend I was helping to move jumped out his seventh floor window. He was depressed over being evicted and having to give up a bunch of furniture and stuff, as the eviction was effective in a few hours. He wasn't a close friend, but we had done a few things together since the summer. He passed away later in the hospital.

    My mom also passed away November, 2010. She was 83, so it wasn't a big shock, but very difficult to see her the last days with a heart pump and respirator. My two brothers and father are very supportive.

    On the brighter side, December gigs have been plentiful. I had five music jobs last weekend, and four this coming one. January still looks bleak, though.
     
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    I loathe the the way most of Western Society and Culture behaves this time of year. The depression doesn't happen much since I've gone out of my way to travel -- and stay -- in a part of the world where the whole judeo-christian thing isn't observed. Going on 12 year now and life has been much better since being active about moving my ass away from the commercialism and nonstop weirdness.

    And I also involve myself in positive activities to help the locals while I'm trespassing in their world.
     
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    Kind of like Santa Claus then. :tongue:
     
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    It does, and the first Christmas after we separated. All holidays are weird now, ten years down the road, and sometimes in a good way. I hope it gets better for you.
     
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    I feel for everyone who has difficulty this time of year. The year my mother died I just could not get up from it when the holidays came around. I took a leave of absence from my job and went away for a couple months. I know that's not possible for everyone to do; but try to find your way out of the holiday blues any way you can. One year I volunteered at a soup kitchen, and another year I helped a friend who has a catering business and cooked for rich, spoiled, ungrateful people. Both of the experiences helped me appreciate what I have now and once had with my family. Subsequently I now have a partner and we are happily creating our own holiday traditions.
     
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    Try Christmas Island! :tongue: :biggrin1: :smile: It's possibly the LEAST festive place on Earth!
     
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    This is a funny and accurate description of how it feels to be depressed. I can relate to the voice in your head part.

    Hyperbole and a Half

    I'm feeling it. I miss too many people who are far away and feeling lonelier as a result.

    I am looking forward to spending a few days with my family.
     
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    I didn't say depressing...just not Christmasy :)
     
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    Really? So maybe that two week Christmas Island resort vacation that I just purchased as a present to myself wasn't such a good deal then, huh?
     
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    Yer fookt.
     
  19. monel

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    Like that's a first.
     
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    I have read every entry in this thread and each has its own personal twist of life and how some have dealt or are dealing with it. I suddenly decided to step back and just look at the true feeling of each persons comments and how some relate to my life or anyones life. The old saying, the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence, made me ask myself where is that fence. That fence is a creation of the mind where you choose to say, I can never get there or past there.
    I guess what I'm saying is never put that fence up. Something that I am guilty of many times in my life. Have a happy holiday everyone whatever that may be.
    This was probably off topic and a complete ramble.
     
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