[quote author=AOX3 link=board=meetgreet;num=1065497460;start=20#27 date=10/10/03 at 08:12:51]
"...I play baseball in a city league. Last season, we had a new guy tryout for first base, but we desperately needed a backup catcher, so the coach asked the new guy, right in front of the stands where our respective wives, kids and girlfriends were gathered, if he wanted a shot at catcher.
... then the coach asked him if he had a cup for protection, at which point his girlfriend exclaimed very loudly, "he doesn't even NEED a cup". The guy looked horrified and embarrassed, told the coach he wasn't prepared to tryout for catcher that night but would make sure he had all the right gear for the next practice. She burst out laughing, no one else did.
I felt so sorry for the guy.
...Nobody ever mentioned it, but we all noticed in the shower that he would wait til we all were finished before he would even change clothes, and he never showered.
anyway, thats my story and I'm sticking to it.
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And, AOX-3, "stick by it" you should!
I believe this incident DID occur and it occurs everyday -- one way or another. For many, (MANY!) men, it's the worst possible nightmare. It's bad enough to have such a slam come from our male peers. But, it can be and, indeed IS the ultimate insult (IMHO) when it comes from a woman! --And, in a public place at that! Gosh.
But, lets (ALL) step back here for just a moment....
ALL of us! From the "hung" to the "not so hung"....
I even want (for the time being, that is) to even overlook the feelings of perhaps the most self confident of us around here (if I may do so in all due respect!)
I don't believe ANY of us men would want our "manhood" (i.e. our PENIS!) to be ridiculed or made fun of....in ANY way. Maybe there could be found some "equivalent" to insulting a woman---I dunno. I wouldn't hazard a guess, here. (Secretly, I kind of doubt a woman can REALLY relate to how important a matter our penis is to us guys!) We're speaking about the very core root of our fragile (VERY FRAGILE) male egos here.
For the man in today's society who finds himself "not so hung" at average or under, (and surrounded by all kinds of hype from seemingly every direction about the advantage of toting a big one), having ANY reference to being less than well-equipped can be and often is, well--DEVESTATING!
It's all so easy for those of us who have had the good fortune of being above average most of our lives to dismiss the concern and the anguish of (THE MAJORITY OF THE WORLD, folks!) who are at average or under average...(that is, if we believe those statistics.)
We larger guys may NEVER really be able to relate to the turmoil and the deep inner struggles of these fellow brothers who are less endowed. And, often, there really is nothing one can readily say to another to "cancel out" his less than adequate self-esteem issues. --I know I have tried! These negative images, ideas, and values have taken years to "set up" in men's lives...often from a very early age. They don't go away overnight. Sometimes, they never do.
And, whether (we say) that we might have the right perspective about "what makes a man" (i.e. the size of his penis versus his intellect and inner heart, etc.) somehow all that stuff seems to become dribble (unfortunately) when we're messing with a man's deep inner self-worth. --Every man wants his penis to be a big one. And, NOTHING else will do, somehow.
Personally, I don't believe I will EVER figure all this out.
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--And all quite the obvious, I'm in good company, too!
