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Discussion in 'Women's Issues' started by dolfette, Apr 12, 2009.
for experiences, tips & insights.
let's be all educational & shit.
Vaginismus - Introduction
So just as men, ongoing or occasionally, can't get it up, women, ongoing or occasionally, won't be able to get it open.
ain't life grand?
but it can be treated! and, seeing as lots of women are too upset to talk to their doc, it's good if guys know it exists.
really?!? this is real?
pardon my ignorance but would more lube do anything?
you'll get it in, she'll be in agony.
there are treatment kits.
too many women suffer in silence.
sounds like you want to mention sex, stick your cock in before the store closes.
i'm informed that the sensation, from a guy's point of view, of an attack mid-boink are, 'OUCH!!!!! SHIT!!!'
so maybe you'd best not :smile:
Having been on the receiving end of said attacks, I can attest to that. In mid thrust, it is akin to someone stroking your cock so hard the skin rips off (not that it does, it just feels like that). Having been in a relationship with a woman who was not only a sufferer of vaginismus but also naturally quite narrow down there, this can not only damage a couples sex life, it can make someone you love tenderly and try and be ever so gentle with associate sex with pain as to break the trust bond of the relationship itself.
I wish at the time I'd known more about it, so that I could've understood what was going on and I'm glad now that other people reading this who end up in the same condition will have a chance.
thanks for sharing that.
it's no fun for the guy either.
hopefully this thread will help someone.
i should add:
best of luck to any women who struggle with this and hopefully you will find a way to get better.
Thanks for posting this. So many folks are under the impression that the woman is just sexually repressed. Vaginismus is an involuntary muscular response to the body registering entry and associating it with pain. It can also be caused by sensitization from a previous yeast or bacterial infection. The best thing that can be done for the unlucky woman with it and man or woman who loves her is to be patient and kind in the face of frustration. On the vaginismus.com site there are dilators that can be used to slowly recondition the vagina into being able to open up enough to enjoy intercourse again or at all.
Oh great, another thing to worry about :redface:
including some of the women, who blame themselves.
Sadly, even on this site I have seen women, who in their all knowing ignorance, have accused other women of being manipulative with their men and have advised them sight unseen to leave them because of this problem. I hope the situation never affects them. If it does I hope someone will be more compassionate to them than they are to others.
you get ignorant shit heads in both genders.
One of my former girlfriends suffered with this. She enjoyed sex very much but found it difficult to get started. And as you can imagine, it doesn't help if her partner is large. So it would take us about 15 minutes before I finally had my whole cock inside her and she was relaxed enough for me to begin thrusting into her. Yes, cumbersome and (oftentimes) frustrating, but worth taking your time if you truly care about the person and their sexual satisfaction. She was my squirter too!
So yeah, this does exist and yes, it is good if men knew about this so that if (when) this ever happened they would know how to conduct themselves accordingly.
anyone experienced this and succesfully overcome it?