The way you treat hung men

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  1. Dorset

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    I have noticed an odd phenomenon amongst women I've known, no matter what they think of me or how long they've known me, when they find out I have a big dick the way they act around me changes - basically they are a lot nicer - not flirty but they definitely want to talk to me more and give me a lot more respect

    Have any women notice that they do this or have you seen your friends do this?
    I assume it's not a deliberate thing as some women who have changed in the way they act around me really don't seem attracted to me

    Any women have any ideas why? Maybe because they didn't see me in a sexual light before?

    I have only really realised this in the past few years and i have to admit that I use it to my advantage now, like a girl who first notices that her breasts have power over men I suppose. I have to admit to 'accidently' exposing myself to a girlfriends mother who didn't like me much to see if it worked on her and sure enough she was as sweet as pie to me afterwards

    Also, are there any men who have also discovered this?
     
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    I think because of the vast majority of knuckleheads out in the world women usually start off assuming a guy is just another immature manchild. Once a woman learns of a mans talent in any respect she tends to respect him more as a man and becomes nicer.

    Whether it be success at business, or an unlikely sexual prowess, once a woman finds out a guy is special she is more likely to treat him less like a kid brother and more like a man.

    Doesn't mean they automatically all want to sleep with you, just means they see you in a new light. Youve separated yourself from the herd.
     
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    I think what you are experiencing is a natural curiosity to that mythical creature “the well-hung man.” Much like the dragons of yore, tales of the nocturnal beast that dwells in the nethers, are thought to be fictional. Fabrications of boastful knights of the realm spinning yarns to frighten the young and entice the fair abound. As mine male prodigy said to me “All guys lie about their size.” Though certainly not in this public forum. (wink, wink)

    Key to your post is “some women who have changed in the way they act around me really don't seem attracted to me.” I say hip hip hooray! This means that though they might be curious about your size, they are resisting the urge to treat you like meat. Casual sex aside, don’t you want to be wanted for you and not what you are packing? It is my opinion that it is not so much respect as genuine interest you are getting from the women in your life. If you’re lucky, a few of them might get to know you well enough for your relationship to move further. Sure, you might get a few who want to see the toy and then not want to play, but some might be more adventuresome.

    I have to say that I do take exception to eireblev’s post “Once a woman learns of a mans talent in any respect she tends to respect him more as a man and becomes nicer.” I equate a larger penis size garnering respect with the equally atrocious assumption that women with large boobs and big blond hair lack intellect. I don’t care how big a guy’s dick is, if they are stupid and disrespectful they get (and do) nothing from me.

    Now where did I put that cat-o-nine tail, I’m off to capture me some dragons!
     
  4. Dorset

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    Ah, I think you might have it there, they might be very curious as I can be very much a 'shower' and will be 6-7" limp, maybe they expect it to shoot out to the 12" mark when erect.

    I can't see any need to correct them though
     
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    Pretty much hit the nail on the head with this right here

    Just recently I actually found a major in college that I am intruged with and wouldn't mind doing for the res of my life, sexology, yes it's a really major and no I'm not doing to so that I can walk around and tell everyone I'm a sexology to get laid.

    It's actually a VERY intresting field of sociology/pyschology and it suprized me HOW much more open women are about their sexuality then guys are, once a women can realize she can talk to you about sex other then you just trying to get into her pants they open up a lot more to you and you learn a lot more about what women actually think about in the bedroom.

    well the word got out around my work about my major change after I help a friend of mine (female) get over a few issue she was having in the bedroom with her current boyfriend. Now personally speaking I'm a very open person I like to hug and give kisses on the cheeks to girls friends or intrests when I say hi, thats just hte way I've always been, and it helps to know that all the girls realize that it's just hte way I am and I'm not trying to just get with them.

    It's more of a respect thing once women start to realize that you treat girls with respect or you have sometype of non-asshole additude towards the whole sex thing they will be more friendly to you.

    As for the find out you have a big dick thing its more of the fact that you probably didn't waltz around trying to get all the girls to notice that you had one, most women don't like a guy walking around crotch first everywhere trying to advertse his dick size. so when word gets around that you hanging low and they realize that your not showing it off they respect you for that, it doesn't mean to misabuse that respect but they realize your not just for jackass like some of the guys out there.
     
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    I can surely add the one or other "victim" report to this subject, since I have actually gotten a lot of "special treatments" after I hinted at what I have to offer. Mostly when I go to stores and something requires ordering, or waiting time, I flirt the saleswoman until she shows more engagement in my affairs, or use this tactic to get a reduction. I was surprised myself too at the beginning, but once I found out it works, I made it my main tactics to get through life: Flirt the women until they give you what you want, and intimidate the men until they give you what you want. Maybe nothing very moral, but I have found out that it works, and don't see anything bad in exploiting that weakness.

    Maybe the best example of how I exploited this different treatment was how I got on my company's college extension program. I wasn't good enough to make the top 20, who have secured places, so I was put on rank 6 of the waiting list, which is a pretty hopeless rank - I mean, what are the chances of 6 guys quitting? So I did some research, and found out that the list was managed by a woman. Just my luck - I went to her, pretending wanting to discuss other possibilities, and during our appointment, I started flirting and charming her, invited her for dinner, got her into bed after some dates... and then got to my real desire. She admitted to feeling a bit used, but agreed - the expectation of more hot nights seemed to arouse her too much, and she promoted me from rank 6 to rank 1, one guy indeed quitted, and I was on the program.

    However, that's maybe the best thing i can contribute to this thread.
    Bruce
     
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    You're my new hero :bigsmile:
     
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    I take exception to that sentence in eireblev's post on different grounds: a large cock is not a talent. And possessing a large cock does not endow the bearer with any particular talent.
     
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    I think the term 'talent' was used in a different context, maybe similar to refering to the 'local talent' when visiting a new town

    Anyway, does anyone else have any examples of this?

    It's just a shame that we only have male managers where I work, so I can't pratice my skills here
     
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    How does it work ?
     
  11. madame_zora

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    You're my new hero :bigsmile:
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    My new hero too! That's hilarious.

    Women learn early that a lower cut blouse in a job interview may increase your chances of being hired- well why not? It's not like most men are actually EAGER to work with a woman for any reason other than the fact that they may get to see some cleavage. Please feel free to take exception to that, but in most (not all) cases, it's true. Smiles open doors, flirting opens up opportunities of all kinds.

    As for the original post, I think it's a combination of things. Society does seem to equate a larger dick with being more masculine, so there's that. Then there's also the fact that women don't often get to talk about sex with men unless we are fucking them, so if you open up to a woman in this way, even in a off-hand comment, we feel "let in to the circle" of people you share intimate secrets with. Even if it's not for sex with us, we feel promoted. I love it when a guy just randomly announces his masturbation schedule or talks easily about some encounter he's had, it means he doesn't see me as a prissy uptight bitch and will talk to me like a real person.
     
  12. BigBen

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    Candidly, I can relate many times where I either knew, or suspected that I got some sort of "special" or "extra" treatment because someone was aware of my endowement. Many times it is simply being remembered when I again encounter someone. Some examples are easy to relate. I posted once about how I found a lump one morning and was tested immediately. Luckily it was not cancerous but benign, but I had to seek out a urologist for a surgical removal of a spermicile within my testical sac. This was several years ago. I found the best clinic/board certified doc I could for the procedure. After the surgery was successful, I was advised to come in yearly for an annual exam and to get tested. This is a large, nationally recognized urology clinic with several board certified urologists on staff. I earlier related how my urologist verbally responded to my endowement when he first examined me, and the experience I had with the nursing staff in the hospital where the surgery was performed. In any event, to this day, when I call for my annual appointment after receiving a card in the mail, the admin staff remembers me on the telephone and when I come in they instantly recognize me and address me by name. They must see perhaps a hundred patients or more a day. But they all seem to recognize me and know me, smile, and address me by name, even though now I visit only once a year. Even when I am escorted to an examination room, several members of the staff always seem to be in the hallway and smile and nod and say hi, address me by name, even though I have no idea who they are. Same thing on the way out the door. A few years ago my urologist had to clear the exam room when he came in because several staff members where hanging around chatting with me. I don't doubt that the information about my endowment has circulated to the staff. Am I treated differently? Not by medical care, per se, but they are nicer to me, recognize me, and while it is a small thing overall, I noticed that the staff did not even check my id when they swiped my credit card for the copay. They knew exactly who I was.

    In a related issue, once some time back, I was attending a large fund raiser for charity. I was mingling and walked by a group and noticed several faces from that clinic. They recognized me and stopped me to say hi. It was a group of perhaps 10 or 12 people. I knew some of the faces, but none of the names by sight. I gathered that some of the group were on the medical staff at the clinic and some were spouses. We exchanged idle chit chat for a moment. As I was taking my leave, one lady asked someone near her who I was. There was giggling from a couple of the women and I turned to see her say "oh, he's the one?"

    In my current professional life I have encountered some positives and negatives. Some clients I have met have openly stared at my bulge when they first meet me. Others have made great effort to avert their eyes. I don't know that I have lost any clients because I am very endowed, but I think on occassion I have met some by referral because of it. An example is when I meet a new client whose first words are something along the lines of "I have heard so much about you" or something similar.

    I was in the military for some years and it was very common knowledge of my endowment. Never had any overt favoritism or negativism because of it, but the comments were said now and then. I did have some interesting experiences because of my size then, and have previously related a few on other posts.

    In college, it became well known on that I was unique. People I had never met seem to know who I was. Sometimes when walking across campus I would see others just turn around in the hustle and bustle and look and stare. Other times I would be approached by strangers and engaged in conversation. When I moved off campus after my first semester, it was not too unusual to have someone knock on my door and introduce themselves. Usually they were in a group, and/or drunk, or high, or whatever, but it did happen. After I graduated and moved to another city in the same state, similar experiences happened. I know all about identity theft years before it became common place...not in that someone would steal my id and use it for financial gain, but rather would take my address and name off a check or whatever at a store, etc, and then show up at my door to meet me. This happened several times. Again this was long before id theft was common and home computers were prevalent. I have had complete strangers show up at my door and still do on occassion.

    Once, about twelve or so years ago my car developed problems and I found myself stranded for a few days while a part was ordered and the work was done at the dealership. So I camped and waited. On the day the part was to arrive and the work was to be done, I was wandering the dealership because I could not just sit in the waiting room any longer. I happened to overhear several comments and discussions among several members of the staff as to who they thought would win. To make a very long story short, it turned out that two of the staff, a mechanic and a salesperson, had been arguing for sometime who had the biggest penis and much of the staff had seen either or both and had an opinion as well. It was well known in the dealership at least that they were both very big. Apparently the matter had become personal and was now was going to be settled that night after closing and bets were being taken which is why it was being discussed so much and almost openly. The wife of one and the girlfriend of the other were both going to show up and be there to witness too, and apparently, besides pride and bragging rights, there was some serious money being wagered, and most of the staff was making bets and/or was planning to show up to just see for themselves who was biggest and how big even if they were not betting. I was facing a repair bill of close to a thousand dollars. (Imported red sports cars are not inexpensive when something breaks). When I discerned what was going on and what the staff was so excited about and the topic of discussion, the two salesmen I had overheard were at first very apologetic that they had not been discreet in their conversation. I offered up that it was ok, I was not offended at all, and that rather I might like to take some of that action. Their mood changed and they laughed. I told them that I would like to participate by not only betting, but betting I was bigger than both of the two guys who worked there. I offered that if I won, the other two guys would have to cover my bill at the dealership and if I lost, I would pay my bill and give $300 cash to either of them if they were bigger. I told them to propose it to the two other guys and let me know. A bit later I was approached by the those two sales men and another guy and told ok. When word got around that I was participating, several people there approached me to make a side bet that one or the other of the two would beat me, but I declined to take any more bets. To shorten the story, later that evening, after closing, in front of a crowd of folks I got my check back for the repair on my car and kept my cash.

    Coincidentally, at another car dealership in a different state a couple of years before that, I met a salesman who saw me in the mens room, apparently I learned later he went home and told his wife what he had seen of me, and they did the id theft thing from my bill at the dealership and contacted me later and invited me to a pool party at their home. Another story.

    As I previously related in another post, I am a long time nudist....years. People are nice to me, and while not interested in sex, as a single man I am often engaged in social conversation by groups, couples, and singles when I might otherwise not be noticed. I seldom drink alchohol, but instead bottled water. It is not unusual to have the wait person offer up that it is no charge. This has happened at regular restuarants as well as nudist resorts. I have been slipped more phone numbers over the years than I can recollect. Most I have politely accepted with a smile and then not called.

    So, do some folks treat me differently? Sometimes, yes. Not always, and mostly it is just being nicer or remembering my name. I don't know what others have had for experiences, but those are a few that have happened to me.
     
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    How does it work ?
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    You stumbled over the non-sexual part of this thread here. "Intimidating" men is the contrary of the tactics I use with female salespersons (flirt them, charm them, give them hopes to get a piece of you), namely being firm, confident, assertive and from second one on let them feel that you are in charge. Maybe that's dick-related in a farther sense, but not directly.

    Bruce
     
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    OK, I'll bite. Since I make it a rule to avoid romantic entanglements with coworkers, my ogling of a few of them is almost always of the "wow, she's pretty and I'm glad she shows it off" type. Usually it doesn't even get to the stage of imagining her naked.

    I'm a little confused by the first part. What difference would it make to me whether a coworker is female or male? Since I'm not going to fuck them either way, who cares? Whether I'm eager to work with someone has far more to do with their competency, intelligence, sense of humor, and honesty. So many men and women have failed those tests that it's not worth separating them by gender.
     
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    Thanks for the posts guys (& girls), I see it isn't just something I'm imagining then

    One other issue though, do any of you ever feel awkward about it?

    Sometimes I like people noticing a big bulge in my jeans but more often though I feel a bit insecure about people staring down there which has reached the point now where I won't wear some of my jeans because they can be a bit tight at the top

    Is it something you just get used to?
     
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    No, I don't at all feel awkward about a bulge showing down my pants. There are actually worse features you could sport (body-wise) than a showing bulge. When I started showing a bulge, I was really into showing it off, wore tight pants or went commando to show it off, but now I just accept it as being there -and if it shows, well, it's not my problem, but the problem of the starer who can't avert his eyes.

    Bruce
     
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    Evil but effective. Trust me on this. An Indian almost six and a half feet tall can be pretty intimidating.
     
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    i think your on to something there ! Women are definitely more attracted to well endowed men and i'd have to aggree with zora on society finding the well endowed more masculine! Because when a woman finds out i'm very small , they usually treat me like one guy said in an earlier post, like a kid brother or most treat me kinda like the reporter in the movie bedazzled, when elliot takes off his towel and realizes as he later puts it he has a teeny weenie! She makes tracks out of there! So i definitely think theres a difference in the way women theat hung men
     
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    I'm not sure if this has happened to others or not, but I revisted (in my mind) past relationships after someone remarked about my size the first time.

    My wife admitted that a former girlfriend told her about me. She said that it didn't influence how much she liked me, but it did influence her to want to actually see me naked.

    The result of this introspection is that I have begun to wonder if I was treated differently because of what people believed from what they had been told vs. what they wanted to find out for themselves.

    Do women who know find a man more interesting because she knows what's below? I suspect it only matters if they were sexually interested in the first part.

    I am a breast lover, always have been always will be. However, I never treated women I knew differently for it, unless I had an interest in them beyond friendship in the first place. I can only believe it's the same for women.
     
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    A close friend of mine was over my house and I asked him to get me something out of one of my drawers...he opens the wrong one and finds a drawer filled with magnums. Ever since he's been all curious and thats opened up tons of our discussions. I've caught him staring a few times too right after that.
     
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