Dolfette, I find you one of the more intriguing women here and I love reading your posts because you come around from the other side of the mirror, if that makes any sense.
I am an old fashioned Texas girl, so there's background for you. But I gave up on happily ever after when my husband left me when I wasn't yet 21. I aged out, I guess. Had a child and was soiled goods. Good riddance. I've had very little contact with him over the past 20 years, and that's a very good thing.
But that shaped my life more than anything that came before it. I could have been a nun for the next four years until I discovered that I was more than Pris' mom. I reawakened sexually, but I still required a relationship to make it more that just rutting. Those old fashioned values rise to the surface again.
About 12 years ago I found myself faced with a man who would become my soulmate. I wasn't looking, I didn't have a shopping list. And if I did have a list he wouldn't have matched up real well. Maybe that's why it seems to be magical. He was also the victim of a cheating partner and had no use for another ball and chain. But yet, there I was ready to shackle him, and he let me!
It's not perfect, that's for sure. It takes a ton of work, but it's so worth it. We both give each other huge amounts of space. We know that helps make it work. He never gets in my business and I stay away from his. He's a musician, I'm a designer, both of us extremely right-brained. I think what also helps is that he treats me like a princess, and I treat him like the slob that he is. Well, not a slob really, but a regular guy. He smells, forgets to pick up after himself, and makes wild and crazy sex. OK, that last part makes it very easy to accept the other two.
So, now we come to the crazy sex part. All I can say is that there's a lot to be said for experience. We both come to the table with an extensive portfolio, his quite a bit thicker than mine, and you can take that any way you want it. He was certainly more indiscriminate than me in his past relationships. I expected my relationships to last for more than 45 minutes; he wasn't so much of a stickler for time.
He is the reason that I'm on this site, and I've always said he could be crowned king here, but for all that he has equipment-wise, he's never relied on size alone to do the work for him. Variety, role-play, humor - oh, lots and lots of humor and laughing, and just plain damn fun!
OK, ok, I'm rambling now, but I just wanted to say how much your post made me think, Dolfette. Thanks!