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Today my psychotherapist and I had our last session after 4 years together. He has moved to Europe. I cried a lot during our last session. I told him everything, things that I have not revealed to another male in my life. I felt really ashamed of my tears as I was distraught but he was outwardly supportive. I would think that he was surprised at how upset I was. One shares so much with therapists and then they are gone. I feel like I have had a romantic relationship end. He is straight and I wish that I could find a man like him. I just need to share how painful this is. He listened to me for the past four years and suddenly he announces that he is leaving. I feel abandoned and rejected and am ashamed of these feelings.

I feel that I should be more mature but I'm heartbroken. I cannot go to a new therapist after this experience.
 

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i hear ya.

theres a fine line between a professional listener/therapist and someone who trust and share your feelings with, your thoughts and fears.

i think you need to remind yourself that for him, its a job that you are paying for.

it sounds cruel but u cant long after him, it will put u in a more difficult spot.
 
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I am unsure about this. I do hear you too but isn't it inevitable that one forms a closeness with their therapist and misses them when they go? I did cry too much but I have never opened up about somethings with anyone else that I did with him.
 

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Today my psychotherapist and I had our last session after 4 years together. He has moved to Europe. I cried a lot during our last session. I told him everything, things that I have not revealed to another male in my life. I felt really ashamed of my tears as I was distraught but he was outwardly supportive. I would think that he was surprised at how upset I was. One shares so much with therapists and then they are gone. I feel like I have had a romantic relationship end. He is straight and I wish that I could find a man like him. I just need to share how painful this is. He listened to me for the past four years and suddenly he announces that he is leaving. I feel abandoned and rejected and am ashamed of these feelings.

I feel that I should be more mature but I'm heartbroken. I cannot go to a new therapist after this experience.
Nothing last forever. I don't know if you feel guilt or what your situation is but after 4 years I'm sure some of that baggage that you are carrying helped you to understand yourself. I'm sure he not only listened to you but gave you advice and now it's time to take one step at a time and move on. We are not all perfect, we have flaws and some guilt of things but we must carry on and put those issues behind us. Find a place of solitude and walk alone and speak out loud of your problems . I do this often and find it helps me to cope with life, stress and other things. A therapist hears you and may understand but YOU and finding a place of solitude and speaking out loud you will hear yourself and just maybe you can feel free and release some of that anxiety.
You've had a crutch for 4 yrs now and I'm sure he gave you some positive answers so now it's time to take those 4 years of therapy and really put it together. Life is not fair and its a bumpy road but I'm sure , even though it looks impossible you can find relief and a way to cope. What ever you have on your shoulders must be brushed off and put in the back of your mind. Think positive, go to your PLACE OF SOLITUDE and speak out loudly so YOU can hear yourself. Things will change. Good luck in your endeavors for only YOU can see the light, no one else can see.
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