There aren't many women here who can answer this question.

[StraightCock4Her]

Drifterwood I think you need to choose a gender already.

 

[whatireallywant]

I actively seek out bigger guys. I like the way they feel. :smile: I do this online, because that's about the only tactful way I can think of to do that.

In a more conventional dating situation (Yes, I do that too!), I don't ask about size at all, but just hope. My longest term relationship was with a guy I met in a more conventional way (as you might guess), but who also happened to be big.

 

[Patchos]

A woman friend whom I have known for some time made a comment to me the other night. It has been a recurring issue for me and I think I have just got to understand it.

Your second comment is very interesting Patchos. My friend said to me, "Everyone fucks you because you have a big dick".

Now some people are going to laugh and think isn't that what all guys want. Well yes and no. As with Patchos, women choose partners to hopefully satisfy them, their choice, and as my friend put it, they are fucking me, not vice versa.

If a woman behaved like me she would be called a slut, by men and women, but the difference here, I hope, is the attitude of the woman to the male slut compared to the attitude of men and women to the female slut. But should there be a difference in attitude and is there?

I don't have a problem with women or men having casual sex.

I have several casual sex partners who i've been seeing long-term. If a guy can satisfy me in bed, I try to keep that going for as long as we're both single, rather than always sleeping with someone new. But that's just my preference.

What I have noticed with quite a lot of men is they use deceit and dishonesty to get women into bed, because if they were upfront, they'd have far fewer casual partners. I don't like the idea of using any means necessary just to sleep with as many partners as possible. That's a pretty shitty thing to do.

 

[Drifterwood]

I don't have a problem with women or men having casual sex.

I have several casual sex partners who i've been seeing long-term. If a guy can satisfy me in bed, I try to keep that going for as long as we're both single, rather than always sleeping with someone new. But that's just my preference.

What I have noticed with quite a lot of men is they use deceit and dishonesty to get women into bed, because if they were upfront, they'd have far fewer casual partners. I don't like the idea of using any means necessary just to sleep with as many partners as possible. That's a pretty shitty thing to do.

Would you have any sort of problem if one of your long term lovers was seeing a lot of other women?

 

[StraightCock4Her]

No body cares what Patchos thinks. May as well be listening to a wall speak its mind

 

[Patchos]

Would you have any sort of problem if one of your long term lovers was seeing a lot of other women?

Of course not. I don't even ask about that stuff.

 

[Patchos]

No body cares what Patchos thinks. May as well be listening to a wall speak its mind

I wish I had a penis, I swear i'd make you moan and you'd love it. Gets me horny just thinking about your hot tight hairy hole.

 

[3664shaken]

I specifically pick larger guys because they are the ones that satisfy me; why get all frustrated and get no satisfaction with an average or small guy.

As to some of the other questions, I let all of my partners know that I see other men and I don’t mind them seeing other women. I don’t want or need a “relationship”, that doesn’t mean we don’t go out on dates, dinner, dancing, movies, etc. we do, I just am not looking or commitment.

I don’t like one-night stands either, been there done that, so what I want is a long term well endowed FWB.

 

[Ethyl]

Your second comment is very interesting Patchos. My friend said to me, "Everyone fucks you because you have a big dick".

Now some people are going to laugh and think isn't that what all guys want. Well yes and no. As with Patchos, women choose partners to hopefully satisfy them, their choice, and as my friend put it, they are fucking me, not vice versa.

I think what your friend meant is 1) there's a reason you're getting so much nookie, and 2) it's the reason they return for more. It may not be the only reason but certainly one of "biggest". It's probably not the initial reason (unless you're pulling it out for display on the first date) which means you possess other qualities that draw women to you. Everyone you have sex with brings something or some things you desire in a lover to the table (or bed), no?

 

[Drifterwood]

I think what your friend meant is 1) there's a reason you're getting so much nookie, and 2) it's the reason they return for more. It may not be the only reason but certainly one of "biggest". It's probably not the initial reason (unless you're pulling it out for display on the first date) which means you possess other qualities that draw women to you. Everyone you have sex with brings something or some things you desire in a lover to the table (or bed), no?

Thanks MB, I also received this via PM from a friend who doesn't post so much now. I am fairly sure they won't mind me adding it to the debate.

And yes, I have pulled it out once or twice :redface:, but only when asked. I also think that it is interesting that others have said that they don't like one nighters. I think that there is an issue that I need to get right. The difference from being a lover to a one night novelty. I keep saying yes to the one night novelty which is what my friend was saying. I am easy.

"On the 'women fucking big-cocked men' issue you asked about the female to male slut / male to female slut attitude difference. I have a theory on that that goes hand-in-hand with your friend's 'everyone fucks you because you have a big cock' comment.

To know you have a big cock the women who fuck you have to know you or at least know of you via your friends, right? I mean if you just walk in to a bar and say 'hey, I've gotta big cock.... who wants it?' chances are you won't get too many takers. So there is a certain intimacy between you and your lovers before you even become lovers - they either know you and know you have a big cock because you have told them or they have been recommended you by their friends. Those women (probably) want casual sex and want it to be something less run of the mill than just fucking their husbands or some bloke from the hotel bar. Which is why they want the guy with the big cock.

If you get together with a complete stranger and your cock size is a surprise to her you probably find the whole experience - both the pre-sex flirtation and the sex itself - rather different, right?

On the other hand, casual sex for most 'slut' women is quite different. It isn't a case of 'everybody sleeps with her because she has big tits / blonde hair / a great ass / whatever' - it is usually a case of 'everybody sleeps with her because she will' - and that's it. Rightly or wrongly (and it's wrongly, IMO), women who openly sleep around are given a hell of a lot less respect and therefore the men who sleep with them have little or no respect for them. I don't believe that's the case with the majority of women who fuck you, or men like you. I think they do have respect for you.

Personally I have experienced both attitudes - ...

The problem is when the slut, male or female, loses respect for him/herself - or perhaps starts out with none. Because of western attitudes to women and sex that is an issue for women far more than men. That may be another thing that differs for your lovers - they don't always hold 'western attitudes'.

Hmmm, having re-read I'm not sure I have a point :biggrin1:"

I think they know what they are saying :smile:

 

[3664shaken]

On the other hand, casual sex for most 'slut' women is quite different. It isn't a case of 'everybody sleeps with her because she has big tits / blonde hair / a great ass / whatever' - it is usually a case of 'everybody sleeps with her because she will' - and that's it. Rightly or wrongly (and it's wrongly, IMO), women who openly sleep around are given a hell of a lot less respect and therefore the men who sleep with them have little or no respect for them. I don't believe that's the case with the majority of women who fuck you, or men like you. I think they do have respect for you.

Very true, I was an 'everybody sleeps with her because she will' girl my last year of high school and first part of college and I think you right. There was no respect and sex was just an act with no real meaning or pleasure. For the guys they knew sex was coming and just expected it, some didn’t even want to go out on a date, just come over and get laid. It took me a couple of years but I learned and grew out of that stage.

"On the 'women fucking big-cocked men' issue you asked about the female to male slut / male to female slut attitude difference. I have a theory on that that goes hand-in-hand with your friend's 'everyone fucks you because you have a big cock' comment.

To know you have a big cock the women who fuck you have to know you or at least know of you via your friends, right? I mean if you just walk in to a bar and say 'hey, I've gotta big cock.... who wants it?' chances are you won't get too many takers. So there is a certain intimacy between you and your lovers before you even become lovers - they either know you and know you have a big cock because you have told them or they have been recommended you by their friends. Those women (probably) want casual sex and want it to be something less run of the mill than just fucking their husbands or some bloke from the hotel bar. Which is why they want the guy with the big cock.

I think you have a good handle on how some of really think: I search out men who are endowed and the men who fit the bill know that is why I am after them. Sure they need other qualities but of primary importance is the size. Most men I sleep with have had girls who screw them out of curiosity and while they like it as release, they much prefer someone like me who craves what they have and we can have a longer term relationship where we get to know each other’s like and dislikes.

 

[EllieP]

I don't think I qualify for this question because while I have recreational sex on a very regular basis, it's with one guy. And I sure didn't pick him because of his size. Like someone said, that was a very pleasant surprise. A scary surprise, too!

I can't think of one man that I slept with that I knew his size beforehand. It's just not something I thought about or was even interested in.

And as far as being large making you confident, well, you haven't met my husband. He's almost apologetic for his size sometimes. Darling, you have nothing to be sorry about!!!

 

[Rubenesque]

I don't have recreational sex if that means casual sex. But I do prefer hung guys.. well I prefer guys with girth, purely because it makes the sex we do have more pleasurable for me. But I still enjoy the sex I've had with less hung boyfriends, the mental connection beats the physical connection.

 

[Octavarius]

Ha, ha. I don't have an opinion on guys based on their penis size. Their personality is what gets me in bed...

It just so worked out that 3 of the 4 guys I've been with had pretty big penises. @.@