cop out answer.talk about it.....communication will take care of alot of your problems
does that apply for all four situations?Find out her favourite sex act; then work out a compromise to please eachother. One time you get your wish; another time she gets hers. But maybe only once a week for each. Other times you have the usually mutually satisfying sex.
i need details. lots of details.FIND ANOTHER LOVER......I have had this problem long time...it does not improve...or learn to live with it....which still does not solve the problem....THUS i have found my vice in another person...which has its own set of problems.....FUCK ME...i am doomed.....Please do not follow my path.
it gives you pleasure above all other.
it takes you to heaven.
it makes your soul sing.
but your partner doesn't like it.
either:
#1, it doesn't turn them on
#2, it actively turns them off
#3, they find it uncomfortable
#4, they find it painful
what's the solution?
woohoo! a straight answer!! :tongue:When compromise is not possible, you may have to move on..
The difficult solution would be to use psychology and with the right words and actions, convince them that it is possible to enjoy giving such pleasure and the reward for trying will be worth it for both partners. (#1,#2)it gives you pleasure above all other.
it takes you to heaven.
it makes your soul sing.
but your partner doesn't like it.
either:
#1, it doesn't turn them on
#2, it actively turns them off
#3, they find it uncomfortable
#4, they find it painful
what's the solution?
hmm...you don't think it's a little arrogant to assume he/she has something wrong with them just because they're not into what you're into?The difficult solution would be to use psychology and with the right words and actions, convince them that it is possible to enjoy giving such pleasure and the reward for trying will be worth it for both partners. (#1,#2)
Once the person's mind has been prised open, every effort to avoid discomfort and pain will be required, lots of preparation, being extra sensitive to their reactions, using lube or other aids to keep everything pleasurable. Rewarding that person for making an effort by doing something that they would like, for example (#3,#4)
It is a more positive solution than moving on, especially if everything else in the relationship is worth keeping.
it gives you pleasure above all other.
it takes you to heaven.
it makes your soul sing.
but your partner doesn't like it.
either:
#1, it doesn't turn them on
#2, it actively turns them off
#3, they find it uncomfortable
#4, they find it painful
what's the solution?
OK for the examples: I heard that hemorrhoids can be treated or removed, the body will eventually repair a jaw injury and surgery can improve the action if there are further complications, many things can be fixed and attitudes can change.hmm...you don't think it's a little arrogant to assume he/she has something wrong with them just because they're not into what you're into?
i'm sure there are acts which repulse you. does that mean you just need fixing?
and some acts are painful to some people regardless of attitude and preparation...for example, i know a girl with a jaw injury, and another with hemorrhoids.
so enough with the wishy washy!
should they put out?
The only answer to this question, shitty as it sounds, is this: decide the sex act is so important to you that it trumps your love and need for this person, and leave them. Or, decide the opposite and get over it.
Prolonging this question in your own mind does you no good.
so you think someone should have possibly risky surgery to something that otherwise causes little issue, for the sake of one sex act? ...assuming it can be fixed.OK for the examples: I heard that hemorrhoids can be treated or removed, the body will eventually repair a jaw injury and surgery can improve the action if there are further complications, many things can be fixed and attitudes can change.
They should put out if they are 100% sure that it will be worth it - will making their partner happy be better for the relationship than making them unhappy due to refusals, frustrations and arguments etc.
Is a sore arse or jaw better than bitterness or a broken heart?
it gives you pleasure above all other.
it takes you to heaven.
it makes your soul sing.
but your partner doesn't like it.
either:
#1, it doesn't turn them on
#2, it actively turns them off
#3, they find it uncomfortable
#4, they find it painful
what's the solution?