Um, hey guys:
I need the general consensus here to put an end to a debate I've been having with a friend. This debate has been going on for quite some time and we've almost come to blows because of it (okay, not really, but whatev...). This is my question: how long do you date a guy/girl before you call them your boy/girlfriend?
The person I'm with now I dated for one month before they "officially" became my boyfriend. My good-friend says this is "WAY TOO SOON", and many people agree with him. However, many other people say this is ample time to make that kind of decision. I honestly don't know any more...
For the record, I personally take exception to the "you guys should be friends first" response. I just don't see where that's entirely necessary. In my humble experience, very rarely do you remain friends with the person with which you've ended a relationship. I know it's very possible (and it does happen), but still somewhat rare. I think "friendship" will naturally develop once you guys are seriously seeing each other ... in fact, I find when "friendship" is treated as a prerequsite, I lose a great deal of sexual interest in the person. I would never date a friend, that is.
So, how it is for you guys? Are you ready to marry the person after a one-night-stand or after twenty-years are still hesitant about holding hands?
Do tell...
I need the general consensus here to put an end to a debate I've been having with a friend. This debate has been going on for quite some time and we've almost come to blows because of it (okay, not really, but whatev...). This is my question: how long do you date a guy/girl before you call them your boy/girlfriend?
The person I'm with now I dated for one month before they "officially" became my boyfriend. My good-friend says this is "WAY TOO SOON", and many people agree with him. However, many other people say this is ample time to make that kind of decision. I honestly don't know any more...
For the record, I personally take exception to the "you guys should be friends first" response. I just don't see where that's entirely necessary. In my humble experience, very rarely do you remain friends with the person with which you've ended a relationship. I know it's very possible (and it does happen), but still somewhat rare. I think "friendship" will naturally develop once you guys are seriously seeing each other ... in fact, I find when "friendship" is treated as a prerequsite, I lose a great deal of sexual interest in the person. I would never date a friend, that is.
So, how it is for you guys? Are you ready to marry the person after a one-night-stand or after twenty-years are still hesitant about holding hands?
Do tell...