Now he's gone and done it, ruined it for the rest of us. I hold the opposite, fit and trim need to be properly displayed and the larger and obese need to stay in the confines of their own private walls. I am shallow and superficial in that regard, I'll admit to being guilty of that. This isn't Walrus beach !
I usually don't get into conversations about weight because I'm so sensitive about my extra baggage
, but I just can't help it - please forgive.
He's proven himself to be an asshole before. I just remembered I have to have to put him on my ignore list.
One thing that I always get is that men (and women) can be brutal to women for having 15-20 extra pounds or even be healthy and they get all sorts of shit for it. Men, on the other hand, are routinely accepted and forgiven extra weight as long as they aren't morbidly obese.
I've given up a lot of pleasures in my life because of my self-consciousness (yes I realize that it's mostly me), but guess what - I'm really tired of doing that! But it's comments and attitudes like this that just make people with weight (or any body image issue for that matter) feel like shit. I've heard it my whole life - from cruel kids to my mother to just being ignored. I'm not a very vocal person - I tend to internalize a lot of things, so I'm totally not the person to easily laugh and brush off the looks and comments.
You know, fuck 'em. Or don't fuck 'em as it were.
Unfuck them, actually. But anyway, some people are naturally inclined to be heavier and gain weight more easily. It's up to you, not anyone else, to decide if losing weight will make you feel better about yourself. Many people are completely happy being bigger than average. I was for years. No one else should make you feel bad for your decisions. The best thing you can do for yourself is be comfortable is your own skin. It's hard. I'm still fighting to do that myself.
Anyway, I guess my point is that why should it be any different for people who are overweight. If we want to be naked, then dammit we should just do it! Now, if only I could muster up the courage to take my own advice
.
Way back in the day about a year ago, if I put up lingerie pics of myself in a size 16 on LPSG, I got all sorts of good comments from the men here. Now, I wouldn't dare put a photo up even though I'm a size 10. It's too bad that's changed since LPSG really helped me deal with my body issues in a healthy way.
Ah, the old days.
If a girl is a little chubby I don't mind as long as shes smooth. It grosses me out when a girl has random bumps of fat and places stick out that shouldn't. I hope I don't offend anyone with this.
Well, this confines you to both never being with a woman who with children and never being with someone older than 45 or so. Pregnancy and age do all sorts of fun stuff to bodies. Good luck with that.
Then I was also thinking on a more personal note...
that you want to have crazy monkey sex with me?
Actually I think some of it has to do with photography. In painting an artist can take some license and paint out cellulite and the like and emphasize the roundness, curves, and countours of a female body while downplaying the other stuff that comes with having all those lovely contours and surfaces. Artists are whores for interesting, rounded shapes because they have endless possibilities for playing with light and shadow.
Photography, on the other hand, has a tendency to accentuate imperfections-- something you'd never notice on someone in person becomes terribly apparent in a photo. I've seen women who are stunning in person look awful in photos because of what photography does. Lighting and lenses can be terribly unforgiving. In that manner, very young, very thin women look better in photos because they generally have smoother, younger skin, less cellulite, fewer stretch marks, fewer bits of fat that stick out in odd ways in various poses. Remember that Photoshop is relatively new and doing things like getting rid of cellulite and smoothing skin was much harder before then.
Also, at some point, fashion designers decided that 6' tall and 110 pounds was the standard for female models.
Regardless of all that, everyone should just admit they want to have crazy monkey sex with me. I already know.
