So as I have said I am a gay man in my early 30s, and although I'm gay I have never been part of the gay scene or shall we say lived that lifestyle. I have worked with man gay men in relation to mental health and had my eyes opened to alot of things still many I can't get my head around. I have always found the behaviour of most gay men to be wreckless and risky which many are open about. The main one being their relationship with sex and their carefree approach to it in terms of safety. I have started to notice a vast increase in gay men pretty much advocating for bareback sex, even ones who are HIV positive most on ART and undetectable also many who are HIV and detectable but still engaging and many willing to engage (bug chasers), even when given the diagnosis they are still willing to engage in unsafe sex either it be undetectable or detectable. Why are so many gay men willing to engage in this? Most of it seems to be happening in gay saunas, dark rooms, or chemsex parties. Why has we not learnt anything that happened during the 80s. Of course not all gay men lead this lifestyle but the vast majority do. What are other peoples thoughts on this topic?