Thinking of trying a guy out but worried

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OK even though I consider myself 60% Gay, 40% Straight, I have never acted on that gay side before. I do find a lot of guys attractive but I've always ignored it. I'm not saying I want to do a guy this minute but I'd like to kiss a guy and see how it feels or maybe a blowjob. Before I get people sending me messages to meet up, I'm not really into that and I'm going to go to a gay club soon with a friend and see what's going down. I have a huge huge worry though about what might happen. I know it sounds pretty dumb but my concern is is even if I don't like it and it's a one-off that I might be with a guy who has an STD or AIDS. My luck to be struck for life just trying it out. The question is what's the likelihood of me catching something bad from kissing a guy or receiving a blowjob? I'm trying not to be ignorant here or offend anyone, just a bit concerned.
 

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Well if ur dat worried about catching something from a guy then dont get wit one from a gay club cuz ur chances of catchin somethin r really high just meet guys da normal way and make sure u tell the dude dat ur just experimenting so he wont take things to far to fast, dont forget da condom
 

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I would encourage you to do some serious reading up on STD's so you know what's out there, what the risk factors are, and what to worry and not worry about. I can tell you right now that you run no risk of "catching something bad" from just kissing/making out with someone. Yes, you can possibly contract HSV-1 (the brand of herpes that causes cold sores) from kissing, but the fact is that most adults have already been exposed to HSV-1 whether they are symptomatic or not. If you are worried about that, you might as well resign yourself to never kissing anyone.

There is some risk associated with oral sex, but for the really bad stuff (HIV), it is pretty minimal. Still, you should read up and be selective in who you chose as a partner.

I should also mention that the risks associated with kissing and oral sex are equal whether you are dealing with men or women.

Good luck!
 

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First of all, not all gay people have STD's, so try to put that idea aside :smile: Not blaming you a thing, that is just how STD's are related in the past and still related now. What do you exactly expect in a gayclub, that they immidiatly want to blow you? Don't know what happen there, but I also believe that gay people justhang out there and have a drink and a dance. But don't believe me on my word, don't know :rolleyes:
You can start maybe with jerking each other or getting stroked by a guy. The chance on an STD is small by getting a blowjob, but still be careful. And for your own healthy, ask the guy if you start things. Can't add more, not home in that environment.
Good luck
 

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Just remember to take it slow. And if you are super worried/paranoid, definitely don't hook up with the first guy you meet at a club. While there are tons of nice guys out there, there are equally a lot of other guys who may or may not be the most careful and cautious people when engaging in sex.

Find someone who you feel comfortable with! And let it progress naturally. Wait until you feel ready to try something out with the guy, don't rush into it. And of course, be safe!

As WideAndDeep stated, your risks from kissing/oral sex are the same as if you were trying to hook up with a woman. So don't let that turn you off.

Hope to hear great results!
 

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Make you sure you know the risks, but you can relax a bit. It might seem a bit nerve wracking but I always think its exciting when you're on the verge of doing something completely new. Have fun!
 

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Well if ur dat worried about catching something from a guy then dont get wit one from a gay club cuz ur chances of catchin somethin r really high just meet guys da normal way and make sure u tell the dude dat ur just experimenting so he wont take things to far to fast, dont forget da condom
What is the normal way of meeting guys? Honestly I've tried to figure out some way of possibly meeting a guy other than going to a bar/club (which I still have never been to one) or the internet (which doesn't work anyway). But you can't just walk up to a cute guy you see and ask him out because at least 90% of the time he's not even gay and then there's a good chance he won't take kindly to being hit on by a guy.
 

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What is the normal way of meeting guys? Honestly I've tried to figure out some way of possibly meeting a guy other than going to a bar/club (which I still have never been to one) or the internet (which doesn't work anyway). But you can't just walk up to a cute guy you see and ask him out because at least 90% of the time he's not even gay and then there's a good chance he won't take kindly to being hit on by a guy.

Tada.........I'm in the same box. Not sure if I should put 80% gay 20% straight anymore since I have been seeing girls more than guys

Don't like bars since not really into gay crowd
 

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I know it sounds pretty dumb but my concern is is even if I don't like it and it's a one-off that I might be with a guy who has an STD or AIDS. My luck to be struck for life just trying it out. The question is what's the likelihood of me catching something bad from kissing a guy or receiving a blowjob?
I wouldn't even do anything with someone I don't already know and like, but that's me.

I agree it is hard to meet people. Never got to know anyone in a bar, so gave that up long ago. It's a place to go to drink, not to get to know people in their right mind.
 

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OK even though I consider myself 60% Gay, 40% Straight, I have never acted on that gay side before. I do find a lot of guys attractive but I've always ignored it. I'm not saying I want to do a guy this minute but I'd like to kiss a guy and see how it feels or maybe a blowjob. Before I get people sending me messages to meet up, I'm not really into that and I'm going to go to a gay club soon with a friend and see what's going down. I have a huge huge worry though about what might happen. I know it sounds pretty dumb but my concern is is even if I don't like it and it's a one-off that I might be with a guy who has an STD or AIDS. My luck to be struck for life just trying it out. The question is what's the likelihood of me catching something bad from kissing a guy or receiving a blowjob? I'm trying not to be ignorant here or offend anyone, just a bit concerned.


you do realize you can contract STDs from women too, right?

if you have gay friends who are understanding they will help you along.
 

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Well if ur dat worried about catching something from a guy then dont get wit one from a gay club cuz ur chances of catchin somethin r really high just meet guys da normal way and make sure u tell the dude dat ur just experimenting so he wont take things to far to fast, dont forget da condom

dat? wit? cuz? ur? catchin? somethin? r? da? to?

WTF? Which planet are you from?




and WTF is the meaning of "normal way"?
 

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dat? wit? cuz? ur? catchin? somethin? r? da? to?

WTF? Which planet are you from?




and WTF is the meaning of "normal way"?

He is from Planet Earth, The Normal way he means is to find a guy through dating and relationship as priorty, not just going to a gay club and fuck any guy he sees.
 

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JUST DO IT

or don't if you're going to worry about it for the rest of your life
 

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You should educate yourself about STDs, how they spread and how they can be avoided and then maybe you won't be so worried.

It's possible to get STDs through straight or gay sex just the same. In a nutshell, kissing and oral carry minimal risks and if you use a condom for fucking that minimises any risk too.
 

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You should educate yourself about STDs, how they spread and how they can be avoided and then maybe you won't be so worried.

It's possible to get STDs through straight or gay sex just the same. In a nutshell, kissing and oral carry minimal risks and if you use a condom for fucking that minimises any risk too.

I was surprised some still think pussies have less virus and/or bacterias than anuses

Sorry guys/girls neither produce anti-virus/bacterial lubricant