This is a thinker....

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by Ty101, Apr 5, 2009.

  1. Ty101

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    So you and your wife is expecting your first child....but she is having complications. Its either, save her and the baby dies or save the baby and she dies...which would you choose???

    FYI..this isnt a real life event that happened, it just came up n a convo
     
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    Duh.

    Save your wife. You can always make another baby.
     
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    Not necessarily. The better question is what if your wife has instructed you to save the baby? Do you still save the baby or disobey her and save your wife?
     
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    I wouldn't even have to think about it. I'd save my wife.
     
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    you would so miss out on all the widower sympathy ass.

    ml
    let them both die. use the grief as an excuse to sink neck deep into booze, women of questionable virtue and bad poetry.
     
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    You're a horrible person, but I'm inclined to agree with you. Haha no, actually I'd ask her what she wants, and also why she wants that- taking into consideration her mental stability, her personality, etc. If you save her, she may not want to have anything to do with you or life in general. Then you've lost both...which is apparently what Mickey Lee would want. The logical, terrible bastard...
     
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    so you save the kid, now you're stuck taking care of a baby by yourself. that whole single dad thing barely plays out in a bad sitcom, so not going to work in real life. even if you can spin it to the bleeding heart floozies you'll be too sleep derived to enjoy it. and you'll smell like similac or baby poop. maybe a combination of both.

    i'm not even getting to how much you'll have to spend on the little tyke's therapy sessions. abandonment issues cost a pretty penny, new friend.

    ml
    oh and if they both kick it, one word - settlement.
     
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    I knew there was a reason I liked you... :biggrin1:
     
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    Ty, in that moment, I would remember every part of my wife's pregnancy. All the way back to the lovemaking session of conception and everything in between. Hoping that she'd get pregnant. Waiting to find out if she was pregnant. How good it felt when she WAS:biggrin1:. Spreading the news about the baby. Shopping for the baby. Holding her belly and rockin' them both to sleep, patiently dreaming.

    Weight gain, shopping for maternity clothes, watching her eat the oddest things, & that platinum sex drive that she got on her at about 4 months, yeah. I would remember every little incident up to that very moment. Specifically, the night I asked her this very question that you're asking me. I think I held my breath after I asked her, "...You or the baby?" because I was so afraid of losing either one of them that I couldn't bear her answer.

    She said, "Baby, I love you. In spite of our complications with trying to have this child, we've been blessed with this baby. So, you save our baby and you love them like you have loved me from the very beginning and everything will be just fine. Okay?"

    Then I look so very deep into her eyes, tell her I love love her, kiss her goodbye and do what she asked...or suggested. I would honor my wife.
     
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    I'm far too selfish. I'd save my wife.
     
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    This is a no-brainer. Save the wife. You can usually get a new baby, but you can't get a new mommy. Better to have two parents to raise a future child.
     
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    1st baby or sibling?

    1st baby needs a momma more than a sibling, imho.
     
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    I didn't factor in a sibling in my post. The OP didn't say anything about a sibling. Brothers & sisters are cool.



    I think I would've been fine being an only child though. I love my siblings, but I can't remember a day when they didn't get on my nerves. Hmmmm?
     
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    You can always spew out a dozen more kids
    but you get only one of that particular wife.:tongue:
    Nice pix 8060 and a really beatiful post about honoring "your wife".
    Where she at? Where you hiding her?!:rolleyes:
    cigarbabe:saevil:
     
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    So, I wonder if the concensus is that another child, a new child would be just like the last one?

    I disagree.

    If I chose to save my wife and have another child after losing the first, those are two different people in my eyes. I'm taking those that say 'have another kid' like this new child is no different than the previous child. IDK...what kind of impact is that?

    Hmmm. I like this question for some reason.
     
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    It depends on how healthy the baby is too, if there were severe complications and the baby couldn't have a healthy live because of those complications, the choice would be a bit easyer too choose for your wive. But you also have to listen too what she wants. Because if she wants you to save the baby and you save her, she will blame you for loosing her baby...
     
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    the new life takes precedent. and the child is a lasting memory of what you created with someone you loved dearly.
     
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    A complicated question. I would urge anyone in this situation to discuss the situation with their Doctor, their Clergy person and also a professional in the field of therpy (sp).

    Taking all this counsel and advice into consideration I think that the choice would have to be made by the couple. A difficult situation, but one that has to be developed by both parties or else the future can be very complicated. At least more complicated if the choice is left to one person.

    I would not enjoy or like being put in this situation, yet, there are people who endure this type of situation on this planet.

    I wish them all well.
     
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    You sick fuck...... Why is this a throw away link on here? Experience it and u will know. Twat!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
     
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