7"24;3779480 said:Hey bud. I am in a similar relationship. I can tell you that the best advice is to play it cool. I used to feel like my boyfriend didn't want to hang and just wanted sex. I came to realize that wasn't the case. First of all he initiated the terms of us being boyfriends. I realize that at least in my case, I am my boyfriends longest relationship (1.5 months ) and he isn't one to speak what he's thinking. Anytime I was freaking out that he didn't like me or whatever I would just ask him. If I didn't ask him flat out a couple times if he really likes me. I wouldnt have known he was madly in love with me, and now I can see it more and more. Communication is the key to a relationship. Don't come on to strong for him either. Basically mimic how he is treating you and if it's true relationship you'll see him act different
Yeah, I'm trying to tone it down a bit. It's just..I have 2 weeks and he'll be gone for 2+ weeks, and who's to say he'll even care to a) talk to me when he's gone or b) want to talk/see me when he comes back lol Idk...
Favorite dessert, red rose, very sweet of you if you ask me. Some guys though don't feel that way and he might feel you are cornering him when he isn't sure he wants to be cornered just yet. I'd back off myself, not be distant per se, but try not to appear (I truly am not saying you are) so needy. He may not come back around but if you push push push you will most definitely push him away it seems to me. Just my thoughts, could be far off base.
I was trying anyway. He told me no one has ever done that kind of stuff for him, and it was a way of showing that I listen to him. Because he told me this stuff awhile back and yeah.. I guess it could be too much too fast, but isn't this the part where I should be courting him and finding ways of getting him to like me? I probably am coming off needy. I'll admit it, no need to sugar coat it lol. This is my first everything, and it's something that I've wanted for a long time...so I'm sure it's what's is happening. *shrug* Hard to tone down the emotions bouncing around =/
Hey, pinkpineapples, I hope that everything works out well for you, but I also think you should prepare yourself should the worst occur.
Is this the same guy who has encouraged you to go to clubs and get with at least five other guys? Now he is non-committal about meeting you today, knowing that you have something special planned. It's sounding like he is less interested in a serious relationship than are you. I hope I'm wrong.
Good luck.
Thanks. I'm trying to keep the possibility of badness in the back of my mind. I know it will still mess me up though lol. Be the sad little school girl in her room listening to Sarah Maclahlan (sp) crying her eyes out lol.
He isn't pushing me to go clubbing, i was just thinking about going to maybe meet some more people (i just lack the...confidence to do so?) But yeah, he says he wants me to experience other people and allow me to make sure i know what i want. Doesn't want me to get years down the road and regret that I didn't have my 'fun' . The not being eager to see me knowing i have a surprise planned is kind of a downer though... Maybe he'll decide today. Who knows ~_~
All I want are for things to work out. I could use a splash of happiness in my life, and that's what I feel...when I'm with him anyway. Safe, Happy..le sigh