THIS is why he has erections when seeing hung guys

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  1. Ralexx

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    In a former LPSG thread I mentioned a guy who confessed he usually refuses to go to the sauna because he'd have an erection if seeing big cocks. I much admired his honesty. This sensitive subject re-emerged one of these days and when I asked him "why", he said : "It's like watching porn. Big schlongs, that's great-time porn. And I cannot control my fantasy when I see big dicks."

    So, it seems that a guy who has an erection seeing live a big cock is not necessarily gay. He might simply have too much fantasy imagining that thing in action. ;D

    What do you think ?
     
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    Icarus213: This question is not unlike the "big penises and porn" thread, and I agree. Even the straight guys said they didn't like seeing small dicks in porn, and they associate size with the fantasy. It's pretty believeable that is the issue with your friend.
     
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    I think for a lot of people a huge penis looks intensely sexual, whether its owner happens to be in the mood or not. Or perhaps, it is hard for people to think that something that big could actaully be soft and totally "asleep".

    As Ralexx says, there's also the fantasy - imagining what it would be like to own it and above all to use it. Some (straight) friends told me years back they had thought a lot about that.
     
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    It's a safe assumption that, regardless of gender or apparent or perceived sexuality, people notice a well-endowed man. As Max said, there's something inherently sexual (even, carnal?) about a big organ, akin to that of the voluptuous, nurturing sexual mother type figure. Big cocks, big breasts, fleshy genitalia... these things get attention, are noticed, and draw out responses.

    Here's the kicker. I'm pretty sure Ralexx's friend is more than embarrassed by his autoerotic response. that seeing a large endowment catalyzes sexual fantasy. He may not be infatuated with the dick, per se, (that he would want to have sexual acts with it); but it gets his attention and induces a response.

    The automatic nature of this phenomenon is intriguing.
     
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    meathose10: I think it's very common for smaller men to get aroused at the sight of a big , heavy cock on another man. It's almost a "knee-jerk" response. I too think it has very specifically to do with imagining what it would feel like to have it swinging between your own legs , use it , pick it up to piss, feel it filling your pants , etc. I've seen men go hard looking at my dick - in communal showers , steamrooms , etc. And I'm certain they're not gay , for the most part anyhow. I think it's more admiration than envy , because envy is not a good feeling and wouldn't cause erotic reactions. I've heard "Shit! I wish I had half that." or "I guess you were first in line when God was handing those out." or similiar joking, friendly responses. And even horsing around like that I've seen buddies pop a stiffie while they look. And they aren't at all interested in engaging my equipment sexually themselves - but it's a highly sexual attribute I've got. I agree that it's a natural reaction.
     
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    hung: I sincerely feel that you can be a hetro and still enjoy the beauty of a well groomed penis. This one can be small/long/narrow/wide. I feel this is a natural thing for males. I am uncut so I was the subject of a lot of intense glances when in Junior High/High School during shower time after gym. As I posted earlier on another topic, I was also regarded as fairly endowed at that age. Penis envy or just looking at a penis is part of being a human. Just as teen age males enjoyed cars back then, and they still do we all observed what was going on around us. This included satisfying our normal desire to see other male penis endowments. Just as we all enjoyed muscle cars back then. Now it appears that four-wheel drive pick-ups or lowered pick-ups appear to capture the young male attentions. I submit that all of this is normal.
     
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    Every day, it amazes me "what common ground" many of us are on in this room! 'Seems like we share in the same concerns, thoughts, worries, etc. from time to time.

    The curiosity of how another man is fixed, hung, rigged, equipped, etc. is as natural as breatheing. Men are competitive by nature...so, enough said.

    Also, given ALL the variables out there concerning male genitalia---short, medium, long, extra-long length; small, average, large, super-large girth, then-- cut, uncut, curved, bent, crooked, no veins, big veins, at least three different shaped glans(!), regular color, dark color, scarred, unscarred-----whew! Enough already! You get the idea. (And, hey, shucks--- we didin't even get to the testicles...average, small, medium, low-riding, high riding,----well, we don't need to go any further.)

    THEN, --there's the aura of... "the mystery of it all" --concealing the whole cabooddle under clothing...NO WONDER men and women are curious about each other!

    Strange isn't it?--we don't give a fig about each others' knees, elbows, toes, fingers, etc...just "the goods".

    As a society, I look forward to the day (if ever) that we
    can get away from labels. I believe men should not feel gay or bi if they "sneak a peak". Again it's natural thing to do. Understand, I don't go out of my way to display the wares necessarily. Sometimes though, through just the course of routine day-to-day life, somebody will get that "quick-see", or--a "hint", of what's under wraps.
    No problem as long as the one getting the view makes no effort to do something improper (i.e. making unwelcomed advances). I draw the line there.

    It's heartening to realize (after my forty-plus years of agonizing / worrying) about "MY" curiosity of others---that I'm certainly NOT by myself! --It's such a relief. :)
     
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    smileyface: I'll just say that I remember actuall jerking off at a sauna. If a smaller guy had tried that (I'm just over 10" hard, about 7 soft) people would have laughed or asked him what he was doing... Instead, people acted as if they didn't see, but peeked when I turned my head down. In spite of their feigned ignorance, I saw several bulges in their towels...
     
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    malito: This is amazing. I always thought it was because i am weird or something. Just seeing a big cock turns me on. I've been married for 28 years and totally enjoy my wife. We have a good sex life together yet the sight of a big cock just turns me on. I always thought it was because of my childhood. Maybe it is just natural that the size of the phallus makes me excited about sex. I am so encouraged that other men have the same feelings and are willing to share them. Thanks to all of you who share because it has lifted a huge burden from me.
     
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    meathose10: Been there , malito - I understand the anxiety. But I've come at it from a different perspective. I HAVE a big cock , and when I can tell a smaller man is experiencing that auto-arousal we speak about here I experience that arousal as well. I think it's natural , because men are competitive and subliminally assert themselves in a number of ways. But I've worried that these other men will think I'm showing out bigger "for" them , or maybe trying to hook up. And of course once I grow thicker and heavier their hard-ons spring even more to life , so there's this whole social phenomenon in action. A pack mentality ? I used to feel embarassed , but I just let whatever happens happen now. Never has anything negative resulted just because I let nature take his course. If anything , the atmosphere gets friendlier...
     
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    blackone: This topic has been very helpful. I've actually found this reaction to be very true. Ever since I discovered my endowment, I have often found myself wondering what the next guy is packing. It feels like a competitive nature because I have long wondered if any of my friends are packing more than me. Yeah, I would sometimes get a hardon, but I was confused for a while. I knew I never had a desire to want to be in a sexual relationship with another man, yet I was curious as to what his dick looked like (never even wanted to touch it).

    do you all think that this natural male curiosity that you speak of and competitive nature also applies to looking at penis pics on the internet?
     
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    Of course. I think as men we're all intensely competitive not only about sports or diversions, but also about our bodies. Simply speaking, men across the board (excluding various tribes and sub-societies) have to appeal to the same narrow and confined sets of qualities deemed attractive, be it with respect to musculature, defined facial features, height, gait, perceived or apparent ruggedness, and so forth. Dicks seem naturally included, right?

    A bunch of naked men together in close quarters like that seems "inherently" sexual, perhaps not of fantasy or desire, but simply that they're all together and in undress, phalluses hanging about.

    Curiosities about how other men stack up, whether you're talking muscles or man-muscles, seems natural, I think. Since we're all answering to those narrow conceptions of male beauty, of course we'll take notice of other people's qualities and judge them against our own. Doesn't that relate back to a mental and psychological quality that separates us from other higher-order primates -- that we have recognition and comparative skills of "self" (I) versus "other" (you, him, her, them)? Dicks, whether flaccid or erect, are subject to that same natural curiosity and comparison.

    'Sides, it's almost inviting to see a bulge be it in shorts, pants, or in briefs, and wonder, "Hey, is he my size too?" (especially if he hangs long when flaccid)
     
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    stewartb17: Ever since I learned to masturbate I have been interested in(and turned on by) seeing other guys equipment - specially when its aroused. Yes, I also enjoy looking at their pictures on the net. Just a part of being a normal male. :)
     
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    [quote author=blackone link=board=relationships;num=1042214852;start=0#10 date=01/23/03 at 08:39:21]"...do you all think that this natural male curiosity that you speak of and competitive nature also applies to looking at penis pics on the internet?  [/quote]


    .....y e s .
     
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    enanotitan: I also think is part of being a man...I mean I am totally straight and I get courious if I see a big bulge and it might turn me on. I am a bit bigger than average, so I am not sure if it is because I imagine myself with that big dick, it could be.
     
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    Icarus213: Bottom line, a large penis is a powerful symbol. You really can't help when you see one but think of sex, masculinity, power, and all the other things that come with it. For all the times you've received vocal comments about your size, there are dozens of thoughts and emotions experienced by the people who don't say anything. But everyone who has a large penis has probably sensed this- they are targets of those reactions to that power symbol, whether they be awe, fear, jealousy, or in this case, arousal. No way of getting around it.
     
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    dolf: I have seen a few other men get aroused weather it be in a shower or on the beach (I like my Speedo.) I know that I am not gay, and I would not suspect that most of them are, but rather that society has hammered into our heads that it is the size that makes the man. Sure there are always some willing to assure men that it is NOT the size that matters, but rather how you use it- but pop culture has since told everybody otherwise. Just a few articles away you will find a topic entitled “Huge dicks are liked: the ultimate proof.” This was an article that was published in a men’s magazine where tens of thousands of smaller men find out that the majority of women would rather go out with a man owning an 8-10” cock than one possessing an average 6 incher and that roughly half of the women would have a one night romp with another man strictly because he was larger than their current partner. Add to that T.V. shows making some references and other influences including the Internet and it only makes sense that most men associate a larger cock with power and ability to satisfy a woman. (Which may also explain all of the pills to increase your size recently advertised!) I know that being well endowed helps me attract and keep a woman and I enjoy the advantage that I have over most other men. Now I know that it is not the be all and end all, but it does help at least a bit despite the odd downside. A friend of mine once commented on “the fun you must have using that thing,” as he started getting an erection. I realized that he was imagining or fantasizing of what my cock represents and not necessarily that he is gay.
     
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    BIGBOYDAVE: A few years ago I was at my gym during prime time it was very busy
    I came out of the shower into the locker area drying off everything showing { i'm not shy} But as i started towards my locker someone yelled out Will YOU look at the cock on that guy.
    Now most were straight and most guys at a gym do not blatently look at others I am sure they peek.
    But here was the perfect opertunity to really stare. I got nervous and quickly coverd up. But not before noticing many cocks rising as well as feeling my own coming alive.
    I also noticed after that day that when ever I headed to the showere it would quickly fill up with sightseers.
    I guess the word spread . As I would leave the gym floor I began to notice more and more people stoping there workouts and following me into the lockeroom some even striped and went into showers too .
    After they redressed and returned to there woorkout.
    Nothing sexual ever occured I go to the Gym to workout nothing else.
    :) BUt I did get a few numbers sliped to me on pieces of paper or found stuffed in my Locker
     
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    Great thread. I've noticed that a lot of the guys who have commented on my cock, or asked me to show it to them, have been straight. So, i will agree...it is a curiosity and comparing factor.
     
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    Jimmyman51: Speaking as a straight, average endowed man, I have to be truthful and admit I've gotten erect seeing other guy's massive peckers.
    The first time it happened was in the showers in college. Although I played sports in high school, no one really took showers for some reason. But, when in college and working out, you had no choice.
    I went in for a work-out one day, and afterward to shower. I was in the large communal room alone washing up when in walked a large black student with one of the most massive penises I'd ever seen - real or on TV (porn)....of course it was soft, maybe 9-10" long and really thick....almost instantly I began to sprout wood. Although my cock is a mere 5.75 inches long, it's more than 5.5 inches in circumference and is noticeable.
    It was rising fast and I became embarrassed that this guy would see my woody. Then more guys began to come into the shower room and I made an exit, grabbing my towel and trying to cover up my boner. Looking back, I wasn't sure why I'd gotten a hard-on. One theory was that I wanted to subconsciously compete with him....i.e. that seeing a large dong, I just got wood in an effort to not look measely. I also theorized maybe I'd been fantasizing about having a large johnson?
    I've had occasional incidents since then, mainly in lockerrooms.
     
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