This is why Men Cheat on you, Ladies...

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I agree. It's says a lot that the wife posted this for the world to see instead of addressing the man she took vows to honor and love. He is clearly desperate for love and affection. Sorry for judging but she sounds like a bitch! Fuck your damn husband and get off the internets! Instead of wasting time humiliating him, get the poor man off! If he had to result to excel to point out she is lazy with the P, she needs to self reflect and figure out what she can do to improve this situation.

A good male friend told me something I share with my female friends. If your man can't win playing fair, eventually he will cheat!

It's interesting that you see it has she is humiliating him. Pretty sure he threw the first stone with putting their sex life on a spreadsheet. THAT is humiliating.
 

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If she does. It's her responsibly to heal it to restore happiness to herself and her house. Doing nothing is neglect for herself and her husband. This excel is a warning. It sounds kinda desperate. I bet he has said something previously and was ignored.

It says nowhere in marriage vows "to have and to hold, to put out on a regular basis...." It's for better or for worse. Sorry, if the wife has no sex drive then yes it would be a problem that should be addressed but female libido is very delicate and depends on MANY different factors. There is no little blue pill she can take. What exactly is she supposed to do?

I am speaking in generalizations as this topic seems far more likely to be a media grab for attention, especially the fact that it's on Reddit.

I call bullshit.
 

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I will never get married, but if I do.....I will make it a point to inform her that whatever she won't do, I'll find someone that will do on the side. No way in hell I will go without, if that leads to divorce....so be it. I refuse to go without. Kick her to the curb, eventually it's gonna happen.
 

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If you are going to marry someone cheating should never even come into your mind even if you are having problems. And if you do cheat you should have never gotten married I the first place. If the guy thought his wife wasn't paying attento him he should have talked to her about it instead of making that chart.
 
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I can't help but think that some of those advocating cheating would change their tune if it turned out she didn't want sex (with him) because she was getting it elsewhere.

You know, because a big passive aggressive whiny baby who emails spreadsheets of complaints to his wife, wasn't meeting her emotional needs?

That'd be cool, right?

Gentlemen, this is why women cheat on you.
 
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I can't help but think that some of those advocating cheating would change their tune if it turned out she didn't want sex (with him) because she was getting it elsewhere.

Fair enough. Then tell him it's over and release him from a marriage that satisfies neither party.

You can't have it both ways.
 
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Fair enough. Then tell him it's over and release him from a marriage that satisfies neither party.

You can't have it both ways.

If she was cheating (a scenario I pulled out of my ass), I absolutely agree, she should have ended her marriage before moving on.

I don't advocate cheating.

I do consider her needs as valid as his needs, whether they are emotional or physical.
 

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Yes because all ladies do this. Just another sweeping generalization from ACY10.

Did it occur to any of you people that maybe she has an actual problem? Health issue, hormonal imbalance, terrible self esteem.....

According to the article, she feels fat and unattractive (which I know from my fleshy past is not when you feel sexy nor horny) and they have been working to renovate a house they just bought. She's tired, and doesn't want to. He's got energy left, is still attracted to her even though she feels ugly, and he wants to. Nobody's winning here. But, I have been in the husband's shoes too, and ultimately, my solution was to find a partner better suited to me, and leave my spouse. That's always an option. But unlike this shitty dude, I was as kind and gentle as I could be, and I tried many things before I gave up.
 

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way to tell it like it is, Phillip!!! good for you for talking sense.

sadly, your sound reasoning and logic will put a target on your back on LPSG.

hang in there and thank you for talking sense!! :)


I'm sorry when you are in a relationship or married sex is part of the deal. It is an obligation to the other person that you respect and care for their needs sexually. If it's not the their the person's going to cheat. I think women forget that and they use sex as a weapon, which honestly is not just cruel, but it is going to land them getting cheated on. Sex is not a bargaining chip, nor is it something that you can withhold because maybe your man isn't as good in bed as you would like. If you don't like the way your man fucks you tell him ways in which he can improve. If it can't be improved then you need to move on. But staying in a relationship and withholding sex for any reason (in gay or straight couples) is absolutely wrong an all levels.
 

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According to the article, she feels fat and unattractive (which I know from my fleshy past is not when you feel sexy nor horny) and they have been working to renovate a house they just bought. She's tired, and doesn't want to. He's got energy left, is still attracted to her even though she feels ugly, and he wants to. Nobody's winning here. But, I have been in the husband's shoes too, and ultimately, my solution was to find a partner better suited to me, and leave my spouse. That's always an option. But unlike this shitty dude, I was as kind and gentle as I could be, and I tried many things before I gave up.

So what you're saying here is that not only can you understand one point of view here but both. That you aren't blinded by your gender and can logically understand the situation and the emotions attached to it. Hmm that seems hella dynamic. Shame the same can't be said about the OP. He seems...limited. Extremely limited. I wonder why that is.
 

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I for one will say I am not extremely terrible at sex (as someone said in a previous post) and if my wife doesn't come around I will go else ware. I haven't made any plans too yet don't know who it would be with but it's getting ridiculous. She can be a sexy freak and she loves sex normally but she is just in a different place mentally I have no idea why and she wont get help. I have been extremely patient and tried my best to understand what the hell is going on for almost 2 yrs now. We are both healthy & young and we have no other marital issues. I am sick & tired of wanting sex and trying so damn hard to get it when I do. I'm ready for a woman who actually wants to have sex to enjoy it with me and smile and be passionate. I have talked with my wife many times about it and I get absolutely nowhere. Other men seem to turn her on but not me. I have talked about other men with her in the last 2 yrs and she gets very excited and initiates sex with me??? So I suggested a 3-some and she became very excited and I was getting sex everyday for a few weeks and the everything shut down?? Now she initiates once a month and with a fury she attacks me all I see is this determination on her face no kissing no passion she rides my cock until she gets hers and then stops. I'm lucky if I'm successful once a week or so at getting her going. I have heard every excuse know to man. The thing I don't understand is she loves it if I can get her going but she resists me while i'm trying to get her going every single time. I can be trying and she can be soaking wet down there and she wont let me touch. If I ever do get to touch just slip one finger near her clit even on accident its on and she is all in moaning grabbing me and she likes it while its happening. After I am so damn relaxed and happy but she gets into this weird mood like "look what you made me do again" WTF???? Almost as though she was a nun and I caused her to sin or something. She is just not herself and she doesn't see it and I have no clue why. Her eyes light up and I can hear the excitement in her voice around a few other men that she has confided in me she thinks are attractive. I have a strong feeling that if one of these other guys initiated something she would dive right in so it has to be an issue between us??? I just don't know but I know I cant wait forever.
 
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I for one will say I am not extremely terrible at sex (as someone said in a previous post) and if my wife doesn't come around I will go else ware. I haven't made any plans too yet don't know who it would be with but it's getting ridiculous. She can be a sexy freak and she loves sex normally but she is just in a different place mentally I have no idea why and she wont get help. I have been extremely patient and tried my best to understand what the hell is going on for almost 2 yrs now. We are both healthy & young and we have no other marital issues. I am sick & tired of wanting sex and trying so damn hard to get it when I do. I'm ready for a woman who actually wants to have sex to enjoy it with me and smile and be passionate. I have talked with my wife many times about it and I get absolutely nowhere. Other men seem to turn her on but not me. I have talked about other men with her in the last 2 yrs and she gets very excited and initiates sex with me??? So I suggested a 3-some and she became very excited and I was getting sex everyday for a few weeks and the everything shut down?? Now she initiates once a month and with a fury she attacks me all I see is this determination on her face no kissing no passion she rides my cock until she gets hers and then stops. I'm lucky if I'm successful once a week or so at getting her going. I have heard every excuse know to man. The thing I don't understand is she loves it if I can get her going but she resists me while i'm trying to get her going every single time. I can be trying and she can be soaking wet down there and she wont let me touch. If I ever do get to touch just slip one finger near her clit even on accident its on and she is all in moaning grabbing me and she likes it while its happening. After I am so damn relaxed and happy but she gets into this weird mood like "look what you made me do again" WTF???? Almost as though she was a nun and I caused her to sin or something. She is just not herself and she doesn't see it and I have no clue why. Her eyes light up and I can hear the excitement in her voice around a few other men that she has confided in me she thinks are attractive. I have a strong feeling that if one of these other guys initiated something she would dive right in so it has to be an issue between us??? I just don't know but I know I cant wait forever.



I spent 9 years in a marriage like this. I finally got enough and moved on. You have got to ask yourself what it is you really want most. More than likely you are like everyone else and you want to be happy. Then you gotta ask yourself what that is worth to you. More than likely it is priceless. If these are conclusions you come to you had better get ready for it to cost you everything. It will take time but you will reinvent and rebuild. I suffered for a few years after my divorce, but I made it. PM me please I live in your state. I live in Johnston County and had dealt with the system here. There are a few things you need to know before you even think about walking away.
 

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I for one will say I am not extremely terrible at sex (as someone said in a previous post) and if my wife doesn't come around I will go else ware. I haven't made any plans too yet don't know who it would be with but it's getting ridiculous. She can be a sexy freak and she loves sex normally but she is just in a different place mentally I have no idea why and she wont get help. I have been extremely patient and tried my best to understand what the hell is going on for almost 2 yrs now. We are both healthy & young and we have no other marital issues. I am sick & tired of wanting sex and trying so damn hard to get it when I do. I'm ready for a woman who actually wants to have sex to enjoy it with me and smile and be passionate. I have talked with my wife many times about it and I get absolutely nowhere. Other men seem to turn her on but not me. I have talked about other men with her in the last 2 yrs and she gets very excited and initiates sex with me??? So I suggested a 3-some and she became very excited and I was getting sex everyday for a few weeks and the everything shut down?? Now she initiates once a month and with a fury she attacks me all I see is this determination on her face no kissing no passion she rides my cock until she gets hers and then stops. I'm lucky if I'm successful once a week or so at getting her going. I have heard every excuse know to man. The thing I don't understand is she loves it if I can get her going but she resists me while i'm trying to get her going every single time. I can be trying and she can be soaking wet down there and she wont let me touch. If I ever do get to touch just slip one finger near her clit even on accident its on and she is all in moaning grabbing me and she likes it while its happening. After I am so damn relaxed and happy but she gets into this weird mood like "look what you made me do again" WTF???? Almost as though she was a nun and I caused her to sin or something. She is just not herself and she doesn't see it and I have no clue why. Her eyes light up and I can hear the excitement in her voice around a few other men that she has confided in me she thinks are attractive. I have a strong feeling that if one of these other guys initiated something she would dive right in so it has to be an issue between us??? I just don't know but I know I cant wait forever.

Maybe it's the ball and chain effect. Maybe it's the fact that you are married that's causing her to act in that way. Maybe try role playing? Or treating her like you're dating, making it about the hunt for you? Like doing all the things you did with her before you got married to get into her panties.

Familiarity breeds contempt, opposites attract and all that. Maybe a different you would suffice?

[This bit of potentially incorrect advice brought you by you're friendly neighborhood Popyuu.]

That or as was said before...divorce or counseling.
 

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I think that sometimes (marriage) in the historical context, was a (purchase) and exchange of goods and service. Usually for the express purpose of generating Offspring. It was also considered to not be a true marriage in (western context) until a marriage would be consumated by sex.

In some cultures around the world, a marriage could be annulled due to the reason of; Lack of sexual performance, or lack of generating progeny.

Sex is important to me as well as my husband. . we do not CHEAT, we communicate needs wants and desires to each other. We decided that if one of us were unable to perform, that we would give each other blessing to go and get sex needs met, by another. . to us, there is a difference between an encounter of physical sex and a relationship of long lasting marriage commitment.