Thought I would never say this.

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by D_Hammond Happydipper, Nov 15, 2010.

  1. D_Hammond Happydipper

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    and that's ok
     
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    Way to go WD. It's always good to open your mind to possibilities. It would be great if other guys took a cue from you and stopped living in denial and the fear that they might not be 100% hetero. Good luck to you, and let us know how things go if you want.
     
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    it's all cool whoever you think you are...things change all the time...just stay true to yourself.
     
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    IMHO those of us who as young men were open to friendship with both males and females at least have the chance of discovering that there are guys who are loving and lovable. And, if your bond with such a person deepens you may find that you want and indeed need to express your affection for each other in sex. You may find, as I did ,that such sex is the stuff of which memories are made.

    Also, I think you will find that if you genuinely bond with a guy in friendship and love you will find sex with him fantastic. My teen partner and I never stopped thinking of ourselves as regular guys just "doing what comes naturally." The sex ended when we graduated from high school but the love that prompted that sex has remained; he remains my dearest male friend.
     
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    I am just going the J/O route nothing more

    I tend to lose interest too quickly
     
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    You're a young man, Wide_dick. You should have more libido.
    You've done some good things in the recent past ... lost weight, built some muscles, and you're trying to examine your life.
    A lot of people never do these things.
    Now, I don't want to say anything that might hurt you ... but you know, you do sound quite depressed to me. Like you don't feel hope. Like you really don't think the rainbow will ever shine for you.
    And I've noticed that you've talked about some situations that must have hit you pretty hard in your younger years.
    If you were depressed, it would make a lot of sense.

    All I want to say, Wide_dick, is that in my earlier years ... and I'm a lot older than you ... I had problems with depression, and I found that antidepressants helped. (And they're a lot better now than they were when I was your age. They were so bad then that they made my eyes dry, and my contact lenses tended to fall out ... yes, they were that bad.)
    I wonder if you should talk to your doctor about getting on an antidepressant of some kind.
    Maybe you don't need them. But if you do, and you get them, you just might find that you have a lot more oomph as you work on all the changes that you're trying to make right now.
    Just a suggestion.

    I'm not a doctor, and I don't really know you.
    Maybe it's not my place to even say anything about this.
    But I just have this notion that the right pill might make a big and empowering difference for you.
     
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    I think it's my Personality It's getting obvious to me that it's switching back to my original Personality, which is Passive-Aggressive. right now it's Avoidant but it's a matter of time before it swtiches
     
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    I think it's totally fine and I hope you don't mess your mind up about it just because most of society is not open and honest enough to admire their own sex. PEOPLE ARE BEAUTIFUL! Especially men.... so I totally and completely understand. I think girls are pretty, but am not sexually attracted to them. If I was, I would probably have had a serious relationship with one of the two. I would not have spent my time worrying about what people thought. F'em and live your life. You're only here once. Enjoy it will you can, but since you said you loose interest quickly, be careful not to hurt your new friends. Be yourself and your soul will be happy.
     
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    At 22 years old you better be!
    Fuck your brains out while you can. Men/women go have fun.

    You can sort it out later. Once your older sex doesn't come as easy, and the meaning starts to change.

    Give yourself time. You'll settle in on what you want. Only you will know.
    Ignore the stigmas of Bi/Gay shit that floats about.

    You are who you are. Right now...your designed to go out and fuck. So go out and fuck...safely.
     
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    WD, I don't know that you necessarily require medication as Hhuck suggests, but it's entirely possible. If you are having extreme mood swings, you would do well to look into some counseling at the very least. I speak as someone who has experience with severe depression and bipolar disorders in my family, and who has noticed you are rather erratic and somewhat less than coherent at times on the board. Your behaviors could put you at risk from acting out sexually and in other ways that could be damaging. Take care, and good luck.
     
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    yeah I will take it easy.
     
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    As others have said, you are at a great time of life to explore your sexuality as well as other aspects of life.

    You don't need to label it, and you don't need to measure your level of interest or type of interest against anyone else's definitions.

    Try things that you're curious about, and don't apologize to anyone for the things you are curious about or for the things you are uncurious about (today).
     
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    I had this exact experience for 6 great years. Nothing has even come close since. I still yearn for the same type of relationship. If it's meant to be, it will happen.
     
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    It's quite all right if you are bi-curious - and it's fine with me if you are not.
     
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    It's great to hear that you're open to that side of yourself. It's taken me years to admit (gasp!) that I might - just possibly - have some slight attraction to, um, women. :eek: Before that, I'd been exclusively gay and never thought of women beyond friendship. And yeah, it freaked the hell out of me, and I tried to pass it off as "just a fluke," but many years later, it's still there and I've finally gotten comfortable enough with it to admit that I'm bi.

    So congratulations for having the courage to be open and honest with your feelings! (Something I wish I'd had at your age. Ack! Did I just use the phrase "at your age?")
     
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    Just started accepting this myself. Took a second for me to go w/ 10% gay when I signed up. I never think about guys in the way of anal or making out, but I totally envy a good slammer. And there are certain rare guys who seem to get me excited and i've never been able to explain it.

    Thats how I am with girls too. When I was younger I knew I was different from other kids. I was shy but I had an experience where I was played with as a little kid by a teenage boy and then I played with one of my friends at around 6yrs old. When I heard the word gay later and the stigma involved I shrunk that piece of me very small. I was confused because prior to hearing the word gay I thought of those as good experiences.

    As I got older and desired to have a GF, I was still shy and passive and it eventually became very hard for me to rebound after a relationship. I became content with just having sex with myself because a.) I was obsessed with porn. b.) disapointed about my size and c.) I was convinced I could be happier without a gf.

    You should atleast try to fuck some random chicks. And don't jack off too much. You'll end up like me. Insecure about your performance and obsessed with the size you don't have... I've only fucked 3 chicks and I'm content with that because I was looking for something more. But I could have easily fucked 10 chicks right now if I had gone out there with the mindset I have now.
     
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