Thoughts of nofap

[sangheili90]

I'm not suggesting giving up on seeking a relationship. I'm just offering that a trip to BR will get you over the first hurdle. They're regular women who just happen to get paid getting laid. They've had relationships before and in their line of work, they've seen and heard a lot. You could learn something about women, sex, and even yourself.

Don't think of it as "resorting to" anything. If your mission is to lose your virginity without fear or risk of being emotionally hurt, this will accomplish that mission. I'm not trying to twist your arm or anything; I've only read a few of your posts, and I don't know what your beliefs and values are.

The woman I lost my virginity with gave me a good ride, then she took me for a ride.

Sex feels great, but it does feel even better when it's with someone you care about.

I'll definitely keep this advice in mind. Like you said, it may help me get over that first hurdle and everything thereafter is smooth sailing. I've considered something like this the past few years but would back out of the idea just before booking arrangements.

 

[Frnkd213]

When I met my wife to be, I was a virgin. Being that she was on the pill, when we finally had sex I made up for all the lost years, lol. Didn't stop for a month, literally. Everyday. After I got my "bearings" and had my fill so to speak, it was often but not jack rabbit humping.
Anyway as I am much older, I still jack off, and fuck, but to really keep my libido up and enjoy sex I have to abstain for a few days. Lol, with our busy lives if, and a big if we have sex it's either Friday night or Saturday morning, hahaha. Consequently, if it didn't happen, yeah my alone time makes up for it.

 

[bigbucky]

I found that after I had been in a relationship with frequent sex that masturbating just didn't work anymore. and when my gf(now wife) came along and enjoyed daily sex, I had no need or desire to masturbate. about 6 months into our relationship, she told that my cock was now "her penis", and that she would take care of all it's needs and wants.

 

[sangheili90]

When I met my wife to be, I was a virgin. Being that she was on the pill, when we finally had sex I made up for all the lost years, lol. Didn't stop for a month, literally. Everyday. After I got my "bearings" and had my fill so to speak, it was often but not jack rabbit humping.

LOL this will probably be true for me when I finally lose my virginity as well. I recently moved, made some changes etc. and now I am often among a lot of very young, horny sexy girls lol. Been putting in some work into it so hoping it works out well.

 

[Frnkd213]

LOL this will probably be true for me when I finally lose my virginity as well. I recently moved, made some changes etc. and now I am often among a lot of very young, horny sexy girls lol. Been putting in some work into it so hoping it works out well.

With that cock of yours, be gentle! I laugh at the thought of me trying to find the "hole" when it first happened. Lol talk about minute man!

 

[sangheili90]

With that cock of yours, be gentle! I laugh at the thought of me trying to find the "hole" when it first happened. Lol talk about minute man!

LOL yeah I probably should, I'm so used to seeing my cock that I don't even realize how big it really is. Knowing me I will probably cum really fast due to excitement and then go at it again a few minutes later.

 

[Road_cyclist]

I could write a long story about it. Basically I prefer masturbation over sex for many reasons, and I spend a lot of time doing it. Some call it solosexual. But whatever you want to call it. That's what I do.

 

[sangheili90]

I could write a long story about it. Basically I prefer masturbation over sex for many reasons, and I spend a lot of time doing it. Some call it solosexual. But whatever you want to call it. That's what I do.

Have you ever heard of the MGTOW movement? Your post reminded me of that.

 

[Road_cyclist]

Have you ever heard of the MGTOW movement? Your post reminded me of that.

I don't feel hostility or distrust towards women. So no. I don't think its that.

 

[sangheili90]

I don't feel hostility or distrust towards women. So no. I don't think its that.

Oh, no I wasn't trying to imply that......just when I read your post it was the first thing that popped into my head.

 

[Road_cyclist]

Oh, no I wasn't trying to imply that......just when I read your post it was the first thing that popped into my head.

I actually broke up with my gf last year. And I am very happy on my own. I spend a lot of time masturbating. And as strange as it may sound to many, I don't want to go back to a relationship or sex and miss out on that.

I'm not preaching. This is how I feel about it and how I'm happy. Nobody is the same!

 

[sangheili90]

I'm not suggesting giving up on seeking a relationship. I'm just offering that a trip to BR will get you over the first hurdle. They're regular women who just happen to get paid getting laid. They've had relationships before and in their line of work, they've seen and heard a lot. You could learn something about women, sex, and even yourself.

Don't think of it as "resorting to" anything. If your mission is to lose your virginity without fear or risk of being emotionally hurt, this will accomplish that mission. I'm not trying to twist your arm or anything; I've only read a few of your posts, and I don't know what your beliefs and values are.

The woman I lost my virginity with gave me a good ride, then she took me for a ride.

Sex feels great, but it does feel even better when it's with someone you care about.

I'm seriously starting to consider applying the advice you gave here. Meeting women is so impossible, despite all the changes I made, and I would honestly describe it as torture trying to get anywhere in that endeavor. I try not to waste my time with meaningless pursuits and I am starting to see forming relationships as just that.

 

[svrocks]

I go through phases, from wanking at least once a day to just a few times a week. In the frequent wanking phase the thought of a wanking lent is just unbearable and I find myself constantly horny and looking at porn at any chance I get, even at work. I'd have to head to the toilet at work to wank and that's how much it can get. On the other phase I can't be bothered to wank unless I've abstained for a few days and felt I wanted a release.

These phases are totally unrelated to having actual sex for me. Even if I'm having sex regularly I still wank. But seriously sex is just a completely different game and it's totally worth it.

 

[Docdon]

I am doing something called the 21 day challenge--I masturbate or have sex, but stop before ejaculating, and it increases my energy, my sensitivity, my libido--it is terrific! I can masturbate for an hour or have intercourse for 30 minutes and feel wonderful but not ejaculate until I want to...it takes practice but is worth it

 

[cobra8]

I am doing something called the 21 day challenge--I masturbate or have sex, but stop before ejaculating, and it increases my energy, my sensitivity, my libido--it is terrific! I can masturbate for an hour or have intercourse for 30 minutes and feel wonderful but not ejaculate until I want to...it takes practice but is worth it

I recently went 3 weeks with out ejaculation too. I just blew it last night. While still recovering, I am thinking my next challenge is nofap November. It is so difficult, but feels really good to be free of it and not have the post ejaculation crash. I would be happy to talk about whatever works for you guys. I feel like sometimes I need all the help I can get. That said, this isn't the safest sight to visit while trying to abstain.

 

[1031939]

I've never done much research into the science of serial killers, lol, but I know that there is often a commonality with their upbringing/childhood experiences.

Going back to the topic of this thread, what I would inquire is whether it is healthier to completely abstain feom masturbation all together and devote that energy to finding a mate and potentially other non sexual related endeavors. Complacency is the bane of a man's pursuit to achieve mastery in his life.

I am not a guy so I couldn't speak from your perspective. But what I can say is that going from masturbating frequently to not at all would not be healthy and a shock to your system. You also wouldn't be doing it any favors at all. However stick to once or twice a week. You will get relief, keep your body functioning, especially as a man using it keeps it healthy and working, but should help you keep your eyes open for a mate.
And they are right the older we get and are alone the more we hold to our own way (in most cases) and are not willing to bend even for a mate.
I think that there are many things that you have to learn still but don't we all.
So masturbating as often as you is most likely disrupting your search. But do not just stop. It is healthy to masturbate. Just cut back on frequency. It is not like smoking it isn't going to kill you, it just distracts you. Your libido will be fine. Good luck guy!

 

[1031939]

While I am not going to pay for an escort anytime soon a lot of what you said here is pretty accurate. This was a while ago but I had a girl refuse me simply because I was a virgin, it was pretty insulting to say the least. I honestly have a very low opinion of most young women, well just people in general, and every time I've put myself out there I always ended up just getting hurt. I mean, I see having to resort to paying for an escort as essentially giving up on trying to find an actual girlfriend who is actually interested in me.

That bitch! Like she wasn't a virgin once. No shame in it either. Don't let that chick ruin people for you. Never let them bring you down. You are intelligent, but can still learn a few things about life, but that comes from living it and speaking and listening to those who have and make your own decisions.
Never give up. You are worth it. Just keep a good head on your shoulders.

 

[DaisyDoesIt]

I am doing something called the 21 day challenge--I masturbate or have sex, but stop before ejaculating, and it increases my energy, my sensitivity, my libido--it is terrific! I can masturbate for an hour or have intercourse for 30 minutes and feel wonderful but not ejaculate until I want to...it takes practice but is worth it

You have started down an enticing path, gwasshopper! A milestone will be when you can orgasm w/o ejaculation.

 

[sangheili90]

I am not a guy so I couldn't speak from your perspective. But what I can say is that going from masturbating frequently to not at all would not be healthy and a shock to your system. You also wouldn't be doing it any favors at all. However stick to once or twice a week. You will get relief, keep your body functioning, especially as a man using it keeps it healthy and working, but should help you keep your eyes open for a mate.
And they are right the older we get and are alone the more we hold to our own way (in most cases) and are not willing to bend even for a mate.
I think that there are many things that you have to learn still but don't we all.
So masturbating as often as you is most likely disrupting your search. But do not just stop. It is healthy to masturbate. Just cut back on frequency. It is not like smoking it isn't going to kill you, it just distracts you. Your libido will be fine. Good luck guy!

This is an older thread of mine, but to you and anyone else who may be reading this know that abstaining from ejaculation in the long term is actually not good for your health. It has been scientifically documented that fairly long periods of abstinence result in a significant reduction in serum testosterone levels. Also, it is also understood that regular and semi frequent ejaculation reduce your risk of developing prostate cancer compared to those who don't ejaculate as often.

If anyone is wondering, I generally stroke my cock to the point of ejaculation once per day, twice on days when I don't have to be anywhere in the morning. Eat a good diet, get into a healthy sleep cycle, keep active and fit, don't stress out.

 

[763790]

I work from early morning till ten at night 7 days a week, having started my own store earlier this year. I don't have time to find a partner and by the time I finish at night,I don't even have the energy to masturbate!. I am also living in a very small town and am gay. Part of me knows I want somebody, or should at least keep in practice, but the though of being unemployed in Britain today, and losing my business and having to go back to driving a bus again all day just seems to act like a cock-blocker. I don't have or know an answer.