Thoughts on 20 yo w/ 17 yo?

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  1. fak_et

    fak_et New Member

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    What are your thoughts on a 20 year old getting with a 17 year old? I realize that females are minors until 18. In no way do I go out searching for younger girls, but it just seems ridiculous that there is a cutoff like that.

    In some ways, I feel that a law of this sort needs to be in place to keep people of extreme age difference to take advantage of younger people but it seems that it should have some conditions on it.

    I don't prefer any age but it seems that I keep meeting girls that are still 17 and I don't want to get locked up for doing stuff with them. Many girls I meet just because of the way my social circle is and having a younger sister just happen to be in that age.

    I hang out with all ages of girls some that are over 3 years older than me and it doesn't seem to be a problem.

    Idk i am bothered because today was hanging out with a really nice girl who looked older finding out she was only 17.

    Discuss.
     
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    in texas its legal
     
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    why do you think they call those (underage) girls "jailbait"?
    it's illegal.
     
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    I agree OP. How is it any different than if a 30 y/o dates a 28 y/o? It seems that different people are "of consent" at different ages. But then this can be said about any "age law" they all seem ridiculous in light like that. I know people in there 30's that still shouldn't be allowed to drink!!!
     
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    i thought there was like a 3 year rule or somethin?

    like, a 20 yr old cud date a 17 yr old, a 19 cud date a 16, and a 18 cud date a 15....i dunno, i may just be hearing BS from ppl but i thought thats how it was
     
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    that's a bunch of crap. i heard on the radio tonight that a 16 year old boy
    in california is being charged with raping a 14 year old girl. he will be tried as an adult. his life, and hers, will never be the same. whether he is found guilty or not. don't know the details. some states can even prosecute consenting minors, other states don't.
     
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    Accoring to the wiki:
    Michigan says:
    The age of consent in Michigan is 16 unless one is an authority figure in which case the age of consent is 18.



    So if that is correct, it is legal in my state.
     
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    My dad is four years older than my mum, but they didn't meet until my mum was 19
     
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    Anyone notice there is a state missing off the list on wikipedia? Lol
     
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    maybe it doesn't allow sex???
     
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    The age of consent list?

    Several states are missing, there are only list 41 ENTRIES and that includes the District of Columbia and the US Virgin Islands and Federal Laws.

    oh,
    West Virginia
    is missing from that list among other states :wink: :biggrin1:
     
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    When she's 20 and you're 23 no one will bat an eye. If you were 25 or 30 I might think something of it.
     
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    I am 20 and I would go for a 17 year old girl any day...

    Im all ways trying to tune a few here and their hehehe

    theirs some nice ones around, my ex gf was 17 and I was 20...she turned 18 while we were together..

    the legal age is 16 where I live but...
     
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    I don't see what the problem is, the 17 years old girls made also the decision to be with you. It's not that you are hurting her.
     
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    You, who live in the most sexually liberated part of the world, are speaking to people who live in the most sexually unliberated part of the western world.

    Every state has its own laws about sex. Some of them would shock you.
     
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    I live in the UK and it is no problem. In fact is quite common.

    The legal age of consent for both staight and gay sex, is 16, unless one party is in a position of authority (teacher, youth worker, etc) where it is frowned upon till 18.

    Sexual realtions are not supposed to happen till 16, but is unheard off for 2 young people, even if one is under 16, to be prosecuted, unless one is much older.

    So a 25 year old (of either sex) having a sexual relationship with a 14 year old (of either sex) could get into trouble.
     
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    Yes....but... tell that to a judge if the whole ordeal goes sour.

    There isn't much difference between 16 to 18 really. A bit more maturity, more responsability. For the legal side.... I'd wait until she's 18 and considered fully legal to make her own decisions.

    Even in Lil' ol Michigan.
     
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    i was 17 he wa 26 i dont think it is such big deal as long as the parents are ok with it, besides some people at 17 are more mature than some 30 yr, olds i have known.
     
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    We have a 3 year rule here in Texas. If you're 20 and she's 17, it's fine. If you're 30 and she's 17, its not. Anything lower than 17 is off limits no matter what.

    It's different state to state. Hell in some states 14 is legal (seriously).

    Also, the 3 year rule doesn't apply to pornography, so don't make any videos with her or else you'll be brought up on a kiddie porn charge.
     
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