I have recently began exploring my thoughts and feelings about being obese and the vast impact it has had in my life. While I would like to lose weight to feel more physically comfortable, it's been shocking to begin to realize the damaging psychological effects of living in this fatphobic world. For me specifically, it's been about trying to reconcile the fact that I like my body, but that can't possibly be true according to the messages we receive about obesity.
The more I look around, the more I see how ingrained and far-fetching this hatred is: from the innocent jokes about how fat everyone is getting during the quarantine to the BBW porn category...I know these read as random and opposite things, but they seem to illustrate the prevailing message: being fat is either something to be afraid of or something worth fetishizing. There's no in-between and they both stem from a negative perception, even if the latter is usually presented as a positive thing. It's not. Why should I feel flattered by you being sexually aroused by my rolls of fat?
On another note, it seems acceptable for everyone to have an opinion about a fat body simply because it's fat (and if you're a woman, you have twice the luck!) and, even worse, fatness defines who you are. And what pisses me off even more is that I have internalized those ideas myself. So, I'm trying to become more aware of them. I'm trying to understand where all of this is really coming from. I'm starting to question. And I'm angry that I spend all this energy on this. I'm aware of the irony...
I don't really have a question. I'm interested in hearing other people's thoughts and maybe share resources to help explore these topics more in depth
The more I look around, the more I see how ingrained and far-fetching this hatred is: from the innocent jokes about how fat everyone is getting during the quarantine to the BBW porn category...I know these read as random and opposite things, but they seem to illustrate the prevailing message: being fat is either something to be afraid of or something worth fetishizing. There's no in-between and they both stem from a negative perception, even if the latter is usually presented as a positive thing. It's not. Why should I feel flattered by you being sexually aroused by my rolls of fat?
On another note, it seems acceptable for everyone to have an opinion about a fat body simply because it's fat (and if you're a woman, you have twice the luck!) and, even worse, fatness defines who you are. And what pisses me off even more is that I have internalized those ideas myself. So, I'm trying to become more aware of them. I'm trying to understand where all of this is really coming from. I'm starting to question. And I'm angry that I spend all this energy on this. I'm aware of the irony...
I don't really have a question. I'm interested in hearing other people's thoughts and maybe share resources to help explore these topics more in depth