Thoughts on the Cop, Cowboy, Firefighter, Military, Construction Worker, Etc. Fetish?

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  1. AlphaMale

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    A curiosity was set ablaze by another poster and I want to hear from ladies that have a fetish for cops, cowboys, marines, army guys, construction workers, doctors, businessmen, firefighters, celebrities, athletes, coaches, etc. etc.

    My question is: what is this fetish based on? Is it the uniform they wear? Is it the way the person looks, the way the person acts, simply what they do for a living, how good they are in bed or what?

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    I hear ladies from time to time say "Oh cops are the best fucks hands down" or "Yeah army guys are always really good in bed" etc. but I'm not sure this makes any sense to me.

    I don't see how ones profession dictates being good in bed or anything really for that matter other than what you do for a living and are seemingly good at.

    Is it not possible for a person to look good, have a good personality, be good in bed and not be one of aforementioned professions? I'd like to think it is possible lol. :tongue:

    Also, isn't it possible for someone to not look good, have a bad personality, be bad in bed and be one of the aforementioned professions? I'm pretty sure that is possible as well.

    The last two paragraphs seem pretty cut and dry to me.

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    It's also safe to say that all of the guys in these professions aren't going to be clones of each other who look, act, walk, talk, and perform in bed the same way. In fact, most of them are so different within the same profession it's like night and day.

    A previous example I used: If you like "cops", is that the overweight one eating donuts all the time or the tall, dark, handsome, ripped muscular one on steroids with a huge cock?

    I mean the fetish is just liking "cops" right... looks, personality, and bedroom skill is irrelevant, right? So that fat guy has a chance right? Right? Exactly.

    Looks, personality, bedroom skill, etc. all has to be an important part in the mix somewhere. It's like even if the ladies are saying that stuff doesn't matter it really does. It has to, because no one wants someone who is ugly, smelly, a jerk, and bad in bed no matter what. You aren't going to overlook a bunch of bad in someone just because they work a profession that you have a fetish for.

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    I never realized that what men did for work could be a far greater turn on to women than the actual way they looked, acted, and performed in the bedroom.

    I mean ladies don't get me wrong, I along with other men have a slight fetish for women that are nurses, teachers, aerobic instructors, dancers, etc.

    But to say that I would be highly turned onto them simply because of what they did and not their looks, personality, and bedroom skills seems a little odd.

    What they did for work would initially attract me to them, yes... but if they didn't have the look/personality/skill then it wouldn't really matter what their profession was.

    Subsequently, if they had the look/personality/skill then it also wouldn't really matter what they did for work.

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    I was told implicitly that it was not just the costume or uniform that they wear! Seems to me that anyone could put on the costume and fool someone into thinking that they were of that profession. How would anyone know?

    So if it is not the uniform, then what is it? I mean when you're both naked, does it really matter what your job is at that point?

    Is there some gratification that comes from just knowing what they do for a living in the back of your head when you are both naked and having sex?

    As far as I can gather that has to be it. But from a man's perspective I can't ever recall having sex with a girl and being more turned on in the back of my mind by what she did for a living rather than how she looked, acted, and performed in the moment.

    Maybe I'm missing something, any incite is much appreciated. :tongue:
     
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    i can't really help you out too much, because i don't have a major attraction to men who are in the professions you mentioned. however, on occasion i do have doctor/patient fantasies. it's simply a pornographic scenario i utilize sometimes when masturbating (i guess i like the idea of being examined perhaps while i am in stirrups) -- it's not about me being attracted to doctors. if my actual doctor came on to me i'd be totally grossed out. i've never dated or been involved in any way with a doctor either.

    i've also thought a little about cop fantasies, but something in me doesn't find cops too erotic so i really haven't thought a great deal about them. on the few occasions i have, it's just about handcuffs and being dominated a little. stuff like that. again i have never dated a cop or sought cops to date.
     
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    If women believe their own myths then they must be disappointed pretty regularly. And come to think of it, no woman ever includes me in gurlie talk about which professions have the best reputations. Am I being caustic or realistic?
     
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    Never been interested in guys in uniforms.
     
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    That's cause drummers are usually ugly. Look at Ringo Starr. :tongue:



    I think perhaps the fetishes the OP mentioned are based on a somewhat primal urge to be protected and cared for by a big, strong man. It's not cool for a woman to admit in todays society that she wants or needs a man for protection or to truly make her feel like a woman. :frown1:

    That said I must admit a predilection for firemen, Marines, Army men, construction workers, and cowboys. I like men who are smart, funny, honest, work with their hands, and have a good work ethic. If they are the type to get out their tool box instead of the Yellow Pages when I say something is broken and needs fixing, I am putty in their hands. :redface:

    There was a great magazine called Taxi in the 80's. In one article they focused on NYC firemen. A woman said the great thing about firemen is that they always come when called. I think that's the penultimate answer. :cool: So many men are NOT dependable, but firemen, cops, Marines, Army men they have all chosen fields where they protect humanity. That's pretty sexy. :flirt: As for Cowboys, they tend to have nice tight butts :wink: and most are gentleman who appreciate the softness and stability of a good woman. :cool: I only like a certain type of construction worker. It's the summer worker, in cut-offs, tube socks scrunched down into worn work boots, t-shirt and safety vest, with a hard hat. :naughty: That look gets me every time. :yup: I'm the type of woman that doesn't avoid construction sites, I strut by, especially if I'm wearing a short skirt. :smile: I savor the approving cat calls, whistles, and awe struck stares. :cool::wink::smile:



     
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    I don't have a fetish for careers but I'll give you my take on why some might have these sexual stereotypes.

    Firefighters
    Policemen
    Military
    - Jobs which by definition can put them in life or death situations, so perhaps, along with the "protection" factor some might imagine they'd always fuck like it was their last time.

    Cowboy - Might be the association with the Wild West and gunfighters putting them (to some) in the above category. Could also be the perception of a strong silent type - long weeks alone on the range, don't ya know, the heartbreaking strains of a harmonica floating on the night air.
    MISCONCEPTION! I dated a cowboy who was incapable of shutting the fuck up.

    Construction workers - life and death if working up high maybe? Strength related job so there's the physicality aspect. "Stella!"

    Doctors
    Businessmen
    Celebrities
    Athletes
    - Money and social status I'm guessing. The only ones I can see having a stereotype about them might be businessmen and athletes for having competitive natures. Athletes definitely score in the physicality dept and celebs somewhat if they've had to bulk/tone up for a role.

    Coaches - Really? Coaches? I got nuthin'.

    Hey, now. Don't knock the powdered sugar.
     
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    I like construction men for several reasons. Construction men are very visual for me. I like seeing how their tool belt hang on their waist and their hard hat. There's something kinky about taking their hard hat and wearing it while riding them. The majority of construction men tend to be in good shape. I like seeing dirty jeans / tops when they come home. I like how their hands feel when they run their hands across their bodies. Their hands tends to be rough, which feels manly to me. It has also been in my own (and biased) experience that they are endowed. The ones that I know, only work in construction to put themselves through school or they went to school, but could not find a job that utilized their degree.
     
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    Well then, that's one solved.:rolleyes:
     
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    LOL ! I'm sure there are other men of other professions that are endowed but I just always seem to meet construction guys.
     
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    I've thought about the handcuffs thing with cops too! But I'm not submissive so that doesn't really appeal to me. (I'm more likely to be a Dom in BDSM but am really not into the scene either way - but I'm just not trusting enough to be a sub, plus I don't like being vulnerable.)

    I did date a couple of doctors. One of them had a name that cracked me up! It made a sentence that was risque if you pronounced it! I only dated that one once though, I was interested further but he didn't call back, and yes, I refrained from cracking up over his name during the date! The other I only went out with twice.

    I'm one of those women who will refuse to say I need a strong man to make me feel like a woman (And I don't need that). I'm an independent, strong woman in my own right. I want a man for companionship and sex, not for protection. I don't have the primal urge for that (just for lots of sex!)

    However, I don't avoid construction sites either. I'd LOVE to get catcalls and whistles!!! I never have, though. (And me being me, can't help thinking, "Is it because I'm too ugly to be noticed that way?" :frown1: Yeah, I have self esteem issues. I'm working on it though.)

    As for firemen, ooh, another chance to say one of my standard lines: Firemen have great hoses!

    However, I don't have a fetish for any of the occupations listed. I do, however, seem to have a thing for computer programmers and electrical engineers (yeah, I have a geek fetish!!! And I'm a geek myself so that helps too...)

    Now actually I DO have a thing for athletes, but it has nothing to do with money and social status. It has to do with them being very physically fit with lots of stamina for marathon sex! (not to mention those hot bodies!!!) Celebrities... well it depends on who it is. Some I have a thing for, others I don't. Doctors... pretty much like any other profession - some I like, some I don't. (Back when I had my serious illness, I had a HOT ENT doctor, and I noticed that even when I was in critical condition in the hospital, which never ceases to amuse me!) Businessmen, usually a turn-OFF to me (for the most part, too greedy!)
     
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    Ah I was never keen to that before and that's unfortunate to hear, because I always wanted to be the protective (but not overbearing) guy that could make my lady feel like a woman!! :smile:
     
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    See now this is why Gillette is awesome, her post makes perfect sense and she put the original question into the right perspective! :smile:

    I personally fit into the athlete/businessman type so girls usually go after my body and/or money, but I'd rather them like me just for being me. I.e. they would like me without the body or money... but of course that's not always case.

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    However, my main concern is that if I like a lady she will just right me off immediately simply because I am not one of other types of guys and that will be the one that she is after.

    I can't be all of them at once.

    So if a lady says for example "I only like army guys" then I'm automatically out.

    It's not that I couldn't go into the military or do all of the same things as the other professions... I just can't do it all in one lifetime.

    Or is that just a red flag that the lady is crazy? I dunno, might be missing something here lol :tongue:
     
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    You guys know their are watering holes that have whole groups of women cop groupies.....
    Let me just say, never had any complaints...
     
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    I think that pretty much sums it up really. I think many of the men in uniform, not all I know, but many are a bit more of the Alpha male then others. I for one though have no problem with admitting I like that! Call me old fashioned, whatever but I like feeling like a woman and being treated like one. I like the thought of a protective man. Not that I can't take care of myself because I can but there you go. I think men in uniform look self assured also and that is attractive. In the end it doesn't matter a bit if the personality isn't there. But they sure turn my eye regardless! :tongue:
     
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    I'm a big lover of men in uniform but that being said you get just as many ugly men in uniform as you do hot men in uniform.....

    From my point of view its a couple of things... mostly jobs like Police work and Military work and even Health care represent Authority... this feeds into the whole Freudian thing about seeking out mates that symoblise in some way our parents.

    For my though I have a MAJOR and i mean MAJOR thing for cops... and this is not just becuase of their uniform, I realise alot of people dont share my point of view but for me Policemen are unsung heroes. They live their lives out protecting the order of things that society depends on and risking their lives so that we can live in a better society.... they get paid shit wages for shit work and most of them do it for the love of thier job and becuase the honestly believe there doing what they can to make this world a better place.... that kind of mentality has always been a major turn on to me
     
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    I'll answer the question seriously though, im a sucker for real life doctors. I've had crushes on almost every male doctor i've ever had, under 70 years old anyway.

    I was going to be a doctor so i have a huge amount of respect for the white coat, combine that with my weakness for super intelligent men and a nerdy look. I'm sold.
     
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    I would downgrade that "many" past "some" to "few". My observation has been that the majority of men in uniform view themselves as Alphas, and certainly present themselves as such to women. They know that the uniform has some cache and they'll milk it. Every male peacock has it's plumage. Doesn't make every male peacock the best of it's breed.

    Here's the thing, Alpha males aren't at even a 50% distribution and I would guess, being Alphas, that they're more inclined to make their own way than to join an organization where they'll be in subservient roles for quite some time. Of course there will be some who do and those will be the ones you see rise quickly through the ranks (alongside the bootlickers unfortunately). But to ascribe that trait to the majority of those in uniform? No.

    Don't get me wrong, I very much value and respect the jobs these people do, but I can't for the life of me understand why there should be any mental link between a uniform and "top dog" status let alone arousal.
     
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