Threesome advice

delacratic

Expert Member
Joined
Jun 4, 2008
Posts
80
Media
0
Likes
101
Points
253
Location
Asheville, NC
Sexuality
100% Straight, 0% Gay
Gender
Male
Looking for a third to join us... she’s bisexual and open. I’m 100% straight. We’re looking to play or dip our toes into the lifestyle for the first time. I’ve never done that - she has had a few mff.

Advice for finding a third? I’m open to either male or female, don’t care. Would go with another woman if I had a choice but if not that’s ok too. Just the thrill of having someone new in the mix - I’d honestly be excited to do it with others watching. We’ve talked about it and she’s said she’s open to it - looking for a way to get the ball rolling with more than just talk.

Honestly I don’t even know what I don’t know at this point
 

Beelzebub

Expert Member
Joined
Feb 3, 2018
Posts
66
Media
0
Likes
203
Points
68
Location
Victoria (British Columbia, Canada)
Sexuality
90% Straight, 10% Gay
Gender
Male
Looking for a third to join us... she’s bisexual and open. I’m 100% straight. We’re looking to play or dip our toes into the lifestyle for the first time. I’ve never done that - she has had a few mff.

Advice for finding a third? I’m open to either male or female, don’t care. Would go with another woman if I had a choice but if not that’s ok too. Just the thrill of having someone new in the mix - I’d honestly be excited to do it with others watching. We’ve talked about it and she’s said she’s open to it - looking for a way to get the ball rolling with more than just talk.

Honestly I don’t even know what I don’t know at this point

Careful what you wish for, it might come true. A very good friend of mine was totally obsessed with he and his wife having a threesome or swapping. It went well for a while for him until the threesomes and swapping was not enough for his wife and she started fooling around. When he started crying on my shoulder about her unfaithfulness I told him it was partly his fault as he introduced her to this new way of life. Sometimes fantasy is better.
 

marriedasian

Legendary Member
Joined
Sep 2, 2008
Posts
1,578
Media
1
Likes
2,021
Points
343
Location
Wisconsin (United States)
Sexuality
69% Straight, 31% Gay
Gender
Male
my only advice to you is to be 100% certain you want to go down this rabbit hole. it sounds wonderful and i'm sure you've had many fantasies in your head but that's why it's so great; cause it was in your head and you were able to control everything down to what the color was on the wall when that guy was fucking your girl... in real life, when he's pounding her and she's making sounds that you were never able to bring out in her, then the true test happens... or she's cumming and cumming cause the guy fucking her can stay harder longer than you or has more stamina... then the true test happens again...

i've seen many guys crumble and fall apart after they've introduce their girl into this lifestyle. you said she's already don't some threesomes so to her, it's just another ride down memory lane, but for you, it may be a make-it or break-it situation.

if you can handle all the above, then go for it, if you can or have any shred of doubt, i would advise against it. it's a one-way ticket.
 
  • Like
Reactions: davis0444

delacratic

Expert Member
Joined
Jun 4, 2008
Posts
80
Media
0
Likes
101
Points
253
Location
Asheville, NC
Sexuality
100% Straight, 0% Gay
Gender
Male
Thanks for the tips!! I guess I was thinking more mff since she’s had lesbian experiences and is turned on by other attractive women. I got lucky there. I’m open and would imagine I’d be ok with another guy (hard to say conclusively until it’s a real possibility) but I have no idea how to go about it - finding someone, really pursuing it, etc.
 

Beelzebub

Expert Member
Joined
Feb 3, 2018
Posts
66
Media
0
Likes
203
Points
68
Location
Victoria (British Columbia, Canada)
Sexuality
90% Straight, 10% Gay
Gender
Male
Thanks for the tips!! I guess I was thinking more mff since she’s had lesbian experiences and is turned on by other attractive women. I got lucky there. I’m open and would imagine I’d be ok with another guy (hard to say conclusively until it’s a real possibility) but I have no idea how to go about it - finding someone, really pursuing it, etc.
Hey even the MFF can turn around and bite you on the ass. Wouldn't be the first time.
 

Gj816

Mythical Member
Verified
Gold
Joined
Feb 13, 2017
Posts
7,278
Media
86
Likes
26,395
Points
333
Location
Nashville (Tennessee, United States)
Verification
View
Sexuality
90% Straight, 10% Gay
Gender
Male
Well there are some things to consider, since you say you'd be alright with it.

The questions only you can answer.
Would you be ok with someone with a bigger dick making your wife cum like you can't?
After you open that can of worms you cannot reseal it. Once she's tasted forbidden fruit and decides your not enough to satisfy her then what?


Again only questions you can answer. Actual events are never the same as fantasies.
Just my 0.02¢.
 

michael_3165

Superior Member
Verified
Gold
Joined
Nov 7, 2005
Posts
1,410
Media
9
Likes
3,230
Points
468
Location
London (Greater London, England)
Verification
View
Gender
Male
As everyone else has said, be careful!

I have heard horror stories of girls going off with the other guy, girls going off with the other girl. Relationships ending because the lure of another sex life is more appealing than the shit that is currently being offered at home. There are a few things that you need to be mindful of...

1) What are the rules? Is there a limit to what you both would accept as reasonable? 2) Who has the contact with the person pre and post threesome? Would you trust each other not to meet up for a quicky whilst the other is at work? 3) Are you ok with comparisons between you and another guy? She will say she doesn't compare you both but she will and that may nag at you.

Also...

Why are you seeking this? Is something fundamentally missing from the relationship?
Is this a simple way of cheating and not having the guilt over it?
Is the relationship worth the potential for it all to do hideously wrong?

I would say either 1) split up if its not working for you both sexually 2) stop going online looking at porn, get your horny back for the one you are with and porn isn't the road to that outcome 3) do it knowing it is likely to drive something between you both (a cock most likely!)

It sounds like you are sold on the idea but just bear all that in mind.
 
  • Like
Reactions: Beelzebub

marriedasian

Legendary Member
Joined
Sep 2, 2008
Posts
1,578
Media
1
Likes
2,021
Points
343
Location
Wisconsin (United States)
Sexuality
69% Straight, 31% Gay
Gender
Male
Thanks for the tips!! I guess I was thinking more mff since she’s had lesbian experiences and is turned on by other attractive women. I got lucky there. I’m open and would imagine I’d be ok with another guy (hard to say conclusively until it’s a real possibility) but I have no idea how to go about it - finding someone, really pursuing it, etc.

hehe, so your initial intent is MFF... i would encourage you to first come to terms with MMF first as if all goes with with the MFF, she may want to do a MMF... what then? it's your choice and your life. good luck and i do hope all turns out well.
 

delacratic

Expert Member
Joined
Jun 4, 2008
Posts
80
Media
0
Likes
101
Points
253
Location
Asheville, NC
Sexuality
100% Straight, 0% Gay
Gender
Male
hehe, so your initial intent is MFF... i would encourage you to first come to terms with MMF first as if all goes with with the MFF, she may want to do a MMF... what then? it's your choice and your life. good luck and i do hope all turns out well.

Definitely a possibility. She’s into women too, which is a helping factor.. but thanks!
 

bigbull29

Worshipped Member
Joined
Apr 24, 2006
Posts
7,577
Media
52
Likes
14,087
Points
343
Location
State College (Pennsylvania, United States)
Sexuality
Pansexual
Gender
Male
Definitely a possibility. She’s into women too, which is a helping factor.. but thanks!

Is she just into kissing women and playing with their titties? Or she "into" women? I mean: does she like to eat good pussy?

Me, I like to see big dicks in porn, big dildos, etc. I like to compare, etc. But I am not interested in sucking dick. Not that there is anything wrong with it....just bores me.
 
  • Like
Reactions: hunghorse30

delacratic

Expert Member
Joined
Jun 4, 2008
Posts
80
Media
0
Likes
101
Points
253
Location
Asheville, NC
Sexuality
100% Straight, 0% Gay
Gender
Male
Is she just into kissing women and playing with their titties? Or she "into" women? I mean: does she like to eat good pussy?

Me, I like to see big dicks in porn, big dildos, etc. I like to compare, etc. But I am not interested in sucking dick. Not that there is anything wrong with it....just bores me.

Yeah I got ya. She’s INTO women. Has both eaten pussy and had hers eaten. Not into dating women. Just can be and has been turned on by them
 

LilJock

Superior Member
Gold
Platinum Gold
Joined
Jan 24, 2009
Posts
1,479
Media
0
Likes
4,970
Points
668
Location
USA
Sexuality
100% Straight, 0% Gay
Gender
Male
Well there are some things to consider, since you say you'd be alright with it. . . Would you be ok with someone with a bigger dick making your wife cum like you can't? . . .After you open that can of worms you cannot reseal it. Once she's tasted forbidden fruit and decides your not enough to satisfy her then what?
My wife and I aren't planning anything soon, but. . .

It wouldn't worry me one bit if she slept with a guy with a bigger cock than mine. Since I'm hung like a chipmunk, that's probably a given. Maybe also that he can make her cum like I can't (with my cock alone). Likely.

But I'm not worried about any can of worms. My wife slept with a fair amount of guys before me. Many of them were very well hung and great in bed. However, she married me, and we're absolutely nuts about each other.

Unless a woman's very shallow or very inexperienced (a problem with virgins!), if you're marriage is sound, that some guy may have a bigger cock and even be better in the sack shouldn't be a concern.

But that doesn't mean there might be other things to worry about. Only you know.
 

delacratic

Expert Member
Joined
Jun 4, 2008
Posts
80
Media
0
Likes
101
Points
253
Location
Asheville, NC
Sexuality
100% Straight, 0% Gay
Gender
Male
How do you go about it? I hear a lot on here about the broader, more philosophical points - should you, what to worry about, big dongs, etc - but I’d love specific advice about finding a third, avoiding awkwardness, and so on.
 
  • Like
Reactions: hunghorse30
1

1222288

Guest
Careful what you wish for, it might come true. A very good friend of mine was totally obsessed with he and his wife having a threesome or swapping. It went well for a while for him until the threesomes and swapping was not enough for his wife and she started fooling around. When he started crying on my shoulder about her unfaithfulness I told him it was partly his fault as he introduced her to this new way of life. Sometimes fantasy is better.
I don't know about that. I know a lot of people that have had threesomes, and are quite content with keeping it to what they mutually agree on. Blaming someone for someone else's behavior removes the responsibility of the person who went out of bounds.

It's like any other sort of relationship where one person has an affair. Sure, they can say, "I cheated on my spouse because they did this, this and this.", but at the end of the day they were the one who went that extra mile, and made a personal choice to go outside the relationship. If they weren't happy, or needed satisfaction in other ways, they simply could have ended the current relationship to pursue other activities.

In the case of your friend, they were already inviting others in for sex. The variety was there. I have to assume there was also a greater degree of communication before, during, and after, than a regular vanilla relationship. Even with that, she wasn't satisfied, and went outside what they agreed on. That's not on him. That's on her for betraying their rules.
 

Beelzebub

Expert Member
Joined
Feb 3, 2018
Posts
66
Media
0
Likes
203
Points
68
Location
Victoria (British Columbia, Canada)
Sexuality
90% Straight, 10% Gay
Gender
Male
I don't know about that. I know a lot of people that have had threesomes, and are quite content with keeping it to what they mutually agree on. Blaming someone for someone else's behavior removes the responsibility of the person who went out of bounds.

It's like any other sort of relationship where one person has an affair. Sure, they can say, "I cheated on my spouse because they did this, this and this.", but at the end of the day they were the one who went that extra mile, and made a personal choice to go outside the relationship. If they weren't happy, or needed satisfaction in other ways, they simply could have ended the current relationship to pursue other activities.

In the case of your friend, they were already inviting others in for sex. The variety was there. I have to assume there was also a greater degree of communication before, during, and after, than a regular vanilla relationship. Even with that, she wasn't satisfied, and went outside what they agreed on. That's not on him. That's on her for betraying their rules.


You are entitled to you opinion and I to mine. That's what makes life interesting. There was more to it all than a few lines of text can convey. I stand by my assertion that he aligned things to go where he desired. I was there you were not.