Threesome with gf, how risky for relationship?

[account115]

For some time I have been contemplating with my gf to have a threesome with another guy. Im actually pretty curious and it turns me on to imagine that shes really horny and getting fucked by two guys. Im not gay or bi, so its strictly a MFM situation.

Weve talked about it alot and she of course wants the hottest guy that she can find, she also underlined that one of the things she is curious about is what the sensation would be to be with a guy that has a really large penis.

I dont really have a problem with this, please dont discredit me as some guy that likes 'sph' or is a cuckold, its just that I understand that maximum pleasure is the objective and if thats what shes curious about, why not?

So my actual question is for the people that have done such a thing before. Can it be awkward if one guy is much bigger or better in bed? Weve been together for around a year and our relationship is serious, but its not like were engaged, do you think that a threesome could be a risk for the relationship?

 

[cjburns87]

Anytime you bring in a 3rd party into your bedroom there is always a risk. As a single man I have been with a few couples and from my experiance the husband or bf gets more turned on than the female. Most women will get the most excitment watching her man getting turned on by watching her. As far as the size isue most women don't care about size it's the emotional attachment to the husband that matters the most. Men are more hung up on size than women.

 

[D_Edwin Eatser]

Go for it and enjoy. In my experience girls really like the attention, and love being the object of two mens' lust. It didn't break up any relation I was in when 3soming, but she might find it addictive!

 

[bigtool4u]

Man been there done that, it fucks it up, unless you have no jealous emotion in your body I would not do it

 

[meatpackingbubba]

Of course there is a risk, which is probably part of the reason it excites you. Sound like her head is already into it if she is confessing her desire for "a really large penis" to you.

 

[D_John Handcock]

Weve talked about it alot and she of course wants the hottest guy that she can find, she also underlined that one of the things she is curious about is what the sensation would be to be with a guy that has a really large penis.

Ok so I've done this without any damage to the relationship(38m/40f years old)... We talked about what she wanted/was looking for - #1 Large Penis, #2 Good Hygiene, #3 Must Be Able to keep it hard!, #4 DDF, #5 she thought some one ethnic would be cool.

Guy #1 - Italian Guy(32) - Tall Handsome - Nice Cock (Couldn't keep the Big Cock Hard -Turned out to be way to vocal/dominating/instructional - Didn't invite him back.

Guy #2 - Black Guy(24) - Average Height - Nice Cock (Couldn't keep the Big Cock Hard - Fairly Quiet - Lots of Play but really no satisfaction for the woman - with dudes cock soft, so we ended up just fucking in front of him while he tried getting hard. My girl doesnt like limp cock! Didnt invite hime back.

Guy #3 - Aussie Guy(42) - Average height - Nice Cock (Kep it hard for a while but not long enough - he had a skilled tongue and hands so she did get some satisfaction from him. Didn't invite him back.

Maybe a prerequisite should be they take some viagra so that cock stays hard.

What good is Hot Man if he cant keep his cock hard!

So my actual question is for the people that have done such a thing before. Can it be awkward if one guy is much bigger or better in bed? Weve been together for around a year and our relationship is serious, but its not like were engaged, do you think that a threesome could be a risk for the relationship?

It will only be as awkward as you let it be(meet with people before you invite them into your house/hotel - interview them)... Have a plan and stick with it. It's your Game and the visitors shale play by your rules(you'd have let him know what they were when you met him prior to the play date.)

Oh and he's better than you in bed... you better step up your game - make sure your at your tops every time for your woman!

Hope this helps!

 

[B_prettyswinggirl]

SanDiego gave good advise! Meet beforehand. Set ground rules and stick with them! Realise that some men will get "stagefright" and be unable to maintain an erection. There really is no predicting this, at least in my experience. And yes...3 somes and more somes are very addicting! Unless you are a VERY nonjealous guy and seriously don't mind sharing, don't go there. Keep the fantasy between you and your gf. Once it becomes a reality there is no closing that door again.

 

[B_quietguy]

Have a clear and frank conversation with her first. I suggesting talking about if this is just for one time fun or an ongoing activity. And discuss whether the other guy will be a close friend of hers or yours, or a complete stranger. You will also want to discuss safer sex and what activities are off limits for her or him.

 

[Thecaptain04]

i agree that communication is really the key. if everyone involved knows what the expectations are going into it, then it should be ok. i wouldnt worry about any penis size issues either. its all in how you use it.

 

[D_John Handcock]

I wouldn't recommend you doing this with any close friends.

keep it outside the "circle of trust" hehe

 

[mwealex]

If she is someone you see being with for the long haul you're asking for trouble. If it's a fling go for it.

 

[Incocknito]

If she wants to have sex with someone else...you should let her. Although if I were in the same situation I'd be breaking up with her beforehand. When she's on her own she can do whatever she wants.

But maybe I'm old fashioned.

 

[ShyHusband]

My advice would be really carefull who you do it with. Wife and i had did this with an older friend of ours and he just assumed it was going to be an on going thing and hasnt left us alone since. We been having some regrets that we oppenned the door to this with him.

 

[B_prettyswinggirl]

My advice would be really carefull who you do it with. Wife and i had did this with an older friend of ours and he just assumed it was going to be an on going thing and hasnt left us alone since. We been having some regrets that we oppenned the door to this with him.

Very true and even what SanDiego said. Keep it outside your circle of friends and check out a website like www.sls.com for prospects. Look for men with certs and check out their references. You don't want a guy that's going to expect a repeat if you don't want one!

 

[account115]

Thanks for all the input people, its just all a bit confusing because of all the different opinions.

We have already decided that it certainly would not be with anybody that we know and that it would be a one time thing.

 

[account115]

Oh and he's better than you in bed... you better step up your game - make sure your at your tops every time for your woman!

Thats easy to say!! In a way Im expecting her to focus more on the a guy, hes new, bigger dick and hes just there for the sex so Im guessing she will be horny as hell.

I just hope hes not too much better, hehe.

 

[B_prettyswinggirl]

Thats easy to say!! In a way Im expecting her to focus more on the a guy, hes new, bigger dick and hes just there for the sex so Im guessing she will be horny as hell.

I just hope hes not too much better, hehe.

That remark alone tells me that you are soooooo not ready to handle a MFM. I'm predicting that you're going to have a mega jealous reaction, that is, unless your gf decides to lie to you about her experience. Or hopefully he won't be able to perform well. It's a 50/50 shot...

 

[account115]

That remark alone tells me that you are soooooo not ready to handle a MFM. I'm predicting that you're going to have a mega jealous reaction, that is, unless your gf decides to lie to you about her experience. Or hopefully he won't be able to perform well. It's a 50/50 shot...

The "hehe" was ment to take away most of the seriousness from that last comment.

 

[B_prettyswinggirl]

Then I truly wish you the best. I've seen relationships blown to hell over this and it's often the gf that is pleasantly suprised at how much she likes it and the bf who then wants to stop and gets way too jealous over the new experience. Just saying. Meant no disrespect, but I am coming at this from a very educated viewpoint. To say again...once you open that door there is no going back...

 

[account115]

Then I truly wish you the best. I've seen relationships blown to hell over this and it's often the gf that is pleasantly suprised at how much she likes it and the bf who then wants to stop and gets way too jealous over the new experience. Just saying. Meant no disrespect, but I am coming at this from a very educated viewpoint. To say again...once you open that door there is no going back...

Does the girlfriend tend to be "pleasently surprised about the experience of the threesome or because of the other guy? Does the woman or the guy usually end the relationship from what you have seen?