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I told my boyfriend that I wanted to do a threesome and his answer was a solid no. Is there a way I could convince him or just make him consider having a threesome? If you had one, did having a threesome affect your relationship with your partner? Thks!
 

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To be honest, I have never had a threesome with my partner. I have experience with threesomes+ when not in a relationship. The best advice I can give is not to try to change someone’s core values. I make no judgments about couples who do threesomes, but if it is more important than to you than the boyfriend, then cut him loose and you will both be better off for it. Sex with my partner is a very intimate and important part of my life. I would never try to convince him to do something he isn’t comfortable with nor would I even desire someone else in our bed. You both may have different views of sex and what feels comfortable.
 
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I told my boyfriend that I wanted to do a threesome and his answer was a solid no. Is there a way I could convince him or just make him consider having a threesome? If you had one, did having a threesome affect your relationship with your partner? Thks!

What's more important? The boyfriend or the threesome?

I ask only because I'd begin to dislike someone who kept pestering me to do something I didn't want to do.
 
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I told my boyfriend that I wanted to do a threesome and his answer was a solid no. Is there a way I could convince him or just make him consider having a threesome? If you had one, did having a threesome affect your relationship with your partner? Thks!
I think I've been pretty successful in my sexual relationships. But I also believe that you never force a wife/husband/girlfriend/boyfriend/partner to do anything he or she doesn't want to do. So the bottom line seems obvious: how important is this relationship to you
 

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I told my boyfriend that I wanted to do a threesome and his answer was a solid no. Is there a way I could convince him or just make him consider having a threesome? If you had one, did having a threesome affect your relationship with your partner? Thks!

No, but only bc I've been in very sexually Liberal relationships. Your situation is a double edged sword bc it's a bit unfair to you that he won't even have a convo about it, BUT if he never indicated that he wants or is ok with 3somes and you didn't bring it up until you guys were already dating, then he also has the right to his own boundaries
 

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You probably shouldn't try to convince people to do something sexual, that's a big part of the whole MeToo thing.

I think all you can really do is tell your partner that its something you're interested in trying. If they aren't receptive to the idea then you need to decide what is more important to you, a threesome or your relationship.
 

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The relationship with my current boyfriend started by having a threesome and foursomes where he joined in out of curiosity. When we decided to live together as a couple, we still sometimes invited other men or women to our beds. But after a couple of months he opened up to me and told me he wasn’t comfortable with the threesomes anymore. He said he had been experimenting enough by now, that he found his true love in me and that sharing made him uncomfortable. So we decided from that day on to be monogamous in our relationship. Sometimes I miss the parties and the adventures, but then I look at the beautiful guy sleeping next to me and instantly know that no orgasm is worth hurting him.