Threesome's to explore or play it safe? 1 guy 2 girl and 2 guy 1 girl..

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  1. shoxx

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    my girlfriend is bi, she wants a threesome but in return wants me to give her one back with another guy, im completley straight though.

    If talked thouroughly this could be fun, could this hurt the relationship, any experiences and story's please share.

    fun topic!
     
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    make good rules, bro !
     
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    Never had a threesome with a girlfriend or SO. Don't think it would turn out well.
     
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    she is all about it, her rules are we kick the bitch out after we do it and im never to see her again. Im cool with that because i like my relationship, but its her idea and im down for lil extra fun, as far as another dude and me and her, not so much but ill consider it to get what i want because i love her as well but most likly not going to happen.
     
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    what do you what to do to the other girl?...
    what does she want you to do to the other girl?...

    and on the reverse..

    what does she want you to do with the other guy?
    what do you want her to do with the other guy?..

    important things to discuss... it sounds like you want to fuck the other girl... but would she want you to fuck the guy to, or does she want to get fucked by the other guy..
     
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    Talk about it on the understanding that you don't yet agree to it. Set some ground rules about who does what to whom and then think about it some more. If you're both up for it, take it from there. If either of you have any doubts, don't do it.

    Threesomes can be a hell of a lot of fun, but they can be an absolute nightmare too, so be sure you're ready for the event itself, and any consequences, before you do it.

    So long as no-one's left out, it's usually good fun, but if your girl is paying more attention to the other person than to you, how will you feel? Likewise, if she's being ignored or feels left out, how will she feel?

    A lot of it is down to the third person. If it's someone you're both interested in and who is equally interested in both of you, it should be fine but if it's someone she's into who is more into you, or vice versa, you're on dangerous ground.

    Good luck.
     
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    here it is in a nutshell. We have been talking about having a threesome with another girl for a long time, she has looks to die for, constantly geting hit on by both genders.
    I wanna stack them on top of each other and try dogystyle, haha, ill do almost whatever.

    She wants to suck another guys dick while i do her, i dont really want another dude banging my girl but fair is fair i guess. i dont wanna be selfish iom just looking to have some extra fun with her. no harm intended.
     
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    thats a great insite, i can truly apreciate your words. I think your right about the intrest thing, whos to say i would like the way one felt over the over and her same thing.
    I think i should mention that if we are seriously considerign this. I want my attention on her but want the fantasy of 2 on a comfortable level. main thing is making everyone feel comfortable i think. I dont sleep around but im willing to try this i guess.
     
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    Has she told you what kind of guy she wants to suck off?
     
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    no she has not but does it matter? lol
     
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    if you are thinking about it, well it just might not be a good idea, me and my girl have spoke of the same scenarios but we really don't want to see each other getting pleasure, or more pleasure possibly from some one else. We both really feel it would make things bad. We were just considering the realm of different possibilities in the beginning, but now are 100% fine without going there.
     
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    I'd just be careful, talk it through like everyone suggests, and keep it at a level where no one gets hurt. That being said, I have more than a few friends that have been hurt or at the least it's messed up the relationship between the two. There are some threads on this. I think. But really, it's about you two. Maybe just thinking about it, that's hot enough? I'd be careful. And set those rules, even still, inviting another into a LTR isn't always the best thing. But if you are both open and want it...just communicate. And good luck.
     
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    I seriously think an extremely small percentage of people are able to do this and come out of it being the same, in regards to how each of you consider the way you feel about each other. When i say you are thinking of it. Maybe you haven't thought it all the way through. If you are just going to try it, are you going to want to do it again. What if she likes it so much that she wants to but you don't, or vice versa. I think you need to be completely open to do this and absolutely ok if the other is more turned on by being with another. It takes an extreme amount of love and respect and understanding to do this. If you are in love. If not, you could just be 2 whores that don't care. In that case it'll work too.
     
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    It wont work. Fantasy is different from reality. Lets do the sex math:

    You + Her + other girl = fun for her because she is bi. She can fuck everything how she wants, and its still your fantasy.
    Bad for you, because you still have to becareful. You show one ounce more of attention to that other girl, you are so dead! I must be equal or less, safer on the less and NEVER more. Yes, this is a double standard.

    You + Her + other dude = fun for her because she is getting what she wants, and fucks both of you.
    Bad for you because you only get to fuck her, and you have to watch some other dude fuck her while you twidle your thumbs. You are not bi so you only get her, when its your turn so to speak. And, the fact that you are not that cool with the idea in the first place. You are only doing it to get what you want, the FFM, which is still more in her favor. ITs not like the idea of another dude fucking her is a turn on for you.

    She wins, you dont. Keep it in the fantasy world.
     
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    Knew a married couple that did a threesome with another woman, his wife divorced his ass because she experienced a better lover, in this case, the other woman. Be careful what you wish for and be prepared for the circumstances. Good luck. :)
     
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    She wants the MFF threesome. End of story.

    If you both want the same thing, then her bargaining for something extra is selfish.

    "Oh, honey! The diamond necklace is beautiful, thank you. I'll make deal with you, I'll accept it if you buy me the ear rings and bracelet to match."

    Say no.
     
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    try a fourgy first. 2 guys, 2 girls.
     
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    hmmm, am i the only one who finds this part disturbing? guess you might just get a hooker, eh?
     
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    no , she just is afraid ill keep hitting the new chick, so thats why, lol.
     
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    You have already been very clear that you wouldn't do it because you don't think it would work. Do you have any evidence? Or is it just a feeling you have?

    They are still thinking it through. This thread is part of the thought process of seeking information. The most useful information is going to come from people who have done it. There is very little useful information you can get about any activity from people who haven't done it. I have a feeling if I was considering parachuting and wanted to know more it would be good to talk to those that had done it. There would be nothing useful to be gained from those who decided it wasn't for them or never considered it.[/QUOTE]

    You don't like the idea, we get that. Why though do you think you have any right to impose your morals on anybody else? The OP has made it clear they are in love and even if they weren't it wouldn't make them whores or the job of anybody else to judge them.

    Many people have had threesomes and, based on postings on these boards, many are still together and happy. Others like myself have had threesomes and whilst not still together it wasn't anything to do with the threesomes that ended the relationship.

    To the original poster just get all the information you need to make a decision. Ensure you both are honest about what you want from this and how you are going to ensure that the third person knows and agrees to the ground rules.

    You also need to discuss with your girl the difference between the MFF threesome and the MMF. You are straight and she needs to understand how difficult the second one will be for you.
     
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