i still dont know what to do about this. how to talk about it or bring it up. but recently my girlfriend of almost 3 years told me that she wants time apart. i know i dont post around here much atall, but i know i can trust you guys when it comes to this kind of situation. i was in vacation in europe and one day she just imed me and told me that we needed to talk about "us" when we got back. I knew what she was going to say so i just told her to tell me now instead of keeping me waiting. I was really hoping to get back and have a good last of summer with her, but that seems to be out of the question now. we go to separate schools, which at first was kind of tough, but i grew to enjoy it. My visits to her were the highlights of my college experience thus far, and so this is just one of the many reasons im really depressed. Its hard to maintain a long distance relationship, but i felt like it made me a better person to be able to commit to her. I gladly turned down other, immature girls, for what i think was the right thing. my girlfriend on the other hand, sometimes had problems telling guys "No", which caused some problems with her guy friends who think that because she doesnt say no she wants them to make advances on her. it was very tough for me to have to deal with all of these men, and i felt like things would have been easier if she would have just told them to go away. anyways, back to present day: she told me that she wants time to date other guys before she commits to me for the long run. at first I really freaked out about this, but i began to see it from her perspective. she says to me that she doesnt want another relationship, she just wants to be able to not have to worry about what shes doing for a bit. she has trouble understanding why i am so against this. and this is my take on it: basically, i have been showering her with love and affection for the past 3 years. I am normally a modest man, but when i say she will never find someone like me, i mean it. especially not a typical college frat boy, which she hangs out with a lot. I got to see her a couple weeks a semester during the school year. they were the best days of my whole year, as i already mentioned. but i thought i was doing good job letting her do what she wanted. i let her go out and party...everything. im not one to force her to stay in all night...i want her to do what it takes to be happy. the way i see it is that now that shes single again...she will have guys going head over heal to get a piece of her. she is amazingly beautiful and guys know that she has trouble turning people down, so they will all get instant access to a girl that ive been basically waiting to have for the past 3 years. i have her love, but i dream about being able to sleep in the same bed as her on our own...and just be together. she tells me im being paranoid...she says that i am her "best friend" now, and she also tells me that she wont ever call me her ex-boyfriend. she tells me that its a temporary thing. i can see it very clearly from her point of view, but something about me is so stubborn to let go of this girl that i have been waiting to experience fully. but this is my true dilemma! im afraid that the only way that shell actually want to come back to me is if someone does something terrible to her...or is an ass. most of her friends are complete douche bags, and part of me wants he to date them and then shell realise how good she had it. it feels so terrible for me to have to wish that upon her. but the chances of this actually happening are small! she has immediate relationship there. something physical; when we were together she had to wait a long time to feel a love filled kiss. im not worried that she will find an actual partner worthy of a relationship in college either though...as i mentioned, she hangs out with the AZN gangsta guys at school, who are cool just to chill with, but are not interested in a real relationship. also, i know she wont be sleeping around with guys. she didnt want to have sex this summer because she was worried about pregnancy and what not...it seems a bit strange to me, but after how many close calls we have had, i cant blame her. i told her i would wait as long as she wanted. when she tells me shes not interested in the sex, i can at the very least tell that part is genuine. bottom line: she tells me im the most important man in her life and will be. she tells me that she does and will love me. she even is keeping a picture of me in her wallet...its something! so am i doomed? did i waste 3 years (well really only the last one was at college, so the first 2 were ggreat)? will she come back?