Time to Give Up?

[goodwood]

Amber - would you like to go out with me? lol. ; ) thanks again for your thoughts. it is nice to hear them.

 

[lovelovecock]

i agree with others that have posted before. love usually comes when your not looking for it.your sure to find someone worthy of your affection hen you least expect it

 

[Jovial]

@Amber1

I think women have these checklists too. Height is the big criteria. Many women want a man that is at least 6' but that is only 1 in 7 men. I think you're just seeing things from your perspective.

 

[D_Kay_Sarah_Sarah]

There is never a good reason to give up on "the search" but it is a good idea to have a little fun while your looking

 

[D_Hepsibah Salmonbreath]

well goodwood i have the same problem. i seem to find women that want to control what i do say think hang out with, ect. the last one was a very jelous type. i am going to do what i want when i want. you are the same way it seems. hi welcome to the club. i may have a saving grace though. i might have found one that lets me be me. nj lets me be as silly as i want to be. well time will tell on this one.

 

[piratebulldog]

Goodwood, I hope you are grateful to the guys and Amber who have given such well thought out and honest feedback to your situation. I was really touched by your honest beginning of this thread and had so much to write until I read what had already been written..and I need not add to it. Be diligent in your search and enjoy life along the way and yeah, love and friendship and good sex does exist in one person. May you find her soon! Peace.

 

[D_Brecock Evileye]

I feel your pain my friend. I havent been on more than five dates in the past three years. No shit.

 

[deleted356736]

I know very many uphappy marriages and it's quite sobering. I found love when I wasn't looking for it, and she was someone very different to anyone I'd met before. She was African, from Africa, and it worked for me and I still love her just as much 20 years later. Be prepared to look beyond the usual because you may be surprised by what you may find.

 

[AlteredEgo]

Never settle, it does neither you nor her any good. You have so much going on in your life right now. Focus on yourself, your projects, your ambition, and just keep a casual eye out for for a woman who seems to be like the woman you want for yourself and your future. Be open to meeting women whenever the opportunity presents itself. Make sure you are all of the qualities which you seek (or complimentary to those qualities). Sometimes, the little things are going to change.

For example, in my own list, two of the things I wanted in a partner were that he could kill insects for me, and that he would be sexually experienced enough to know what he wants and give me what I want. The man I chose won't kill insects, ever, and especially won't kill arachnids, including scorpions! He will, however, remove them from the house, and prevent my ever having to deal with them on my own. Also, he was a virgin when we met, but we had great chemistry, and he learned very quickly how to please me, and we learn more all the time about what he wants and likes. It's fun.

So, sometimes there might be some adjustments to your criteria, adjustments you don't even expect, can't anticipate until you come across the right situation. In the mean time, you have to be very open to new people and new experiences. Don't expect it to be painless, but do expect it to be fun.

Best of luck to you.

 

[newport10]

I kinda feel your pain, best you can do is try an try again like everybody said. It also helps to understand what makes you...you. And also understand that maybe the past relationships were just so you can zero in on the person for you. Well good luck.

 

[CUBE]

Give up??? Fuck No! Man, if I was with you right now I would give you the best bro hug and tell you all the wonderful things about you. How do I know these things? I am brilliant at reading a photo and exacting a personality...strange but true. First, my friend, if you want to meet someone you need to look in every dam corner like it is a full time job. If you can't find a gal in the regular routine of your life then you need to change the routine and also get a few buddies to help. This is true for gays, straights, males, females. It will happen. Second. Make sure you are happy with yourself as is. Trite as is may sound...you can't be ready for someone else until you are ready with yourself. This is true for many people in the dating scene. If you need to heal from some gal first do it...THEN start dating. AND don't get into all this past female stuff with a current female. Best of everything to you!!!!!!!