Timid Question about Big Toys

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Okay,

Thank god for the internet and anonymity. That said and out of the way, here's my question.

I really like using dildos of substantial girth during sex play with a woman for the visual appeal and to watch them squirm. ;-) I enjoy that immensely.

However, I have noticed ever since using them regularly (once or twice a week) with a certain someone I've been seeing for sometime now, the v-jay jay feels a bit less tight than it ever has before.

So, my timid question is (and one I would never pose to her) is does regular use of bigger toys or having sex with a big one regularly kinda keep things a bit looser than without? If so, then how long does that usually last till things get back to "normal"? Should I maybe only do the toy thing on occasion, once a month, every other month, etc. I can tell literally feel a difference in the tightness factor but I can't say anything to her especially since it's my fault if that's what's happening.

Can anyone relate to this? I think the vagina must have some form of short term muscle memory and becomes more elastic and accommodating depending on what it's used to going in there on regular basis. So, anyway, I have decided not to play with toys for a while to see if things get back down to normal. Sucks though because I love to play with toys with a woman.
 

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Anytime you dilate someone, then yes - there will be some short term muscle memory. Girls who do porn use that method to get ready for anal or to prepare themselves for larger men. You aren't making her permanently "looser", but if you are smaller than the toy you use, then you will notice a difference.

Maybe use the toys after you've had penetrative sex, and don't use them as often if it bothers you. I certainly wouldn't tell her the toys make her too loose! :eek: :smile:
 

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Anytime you dilate someone, then yes - there will be some short term muscle memory. Girls who do porn use that method to get ready for anal or to prepare themselves for larger men. You aren't making her permanently "looser", but if you are smaller than the toy you use, then you will notice a difference.

Maybe use the toys after you've had penetrative sex, and don't use them as often if it bothers you. I certainly wouldn't tell her the toys make her too loose! :eek: :smile:

Oh no I'd NEVER say anything like that about being loose or too loose. That would be so way wrong. See that's why I asked you, a neutral third party with no chance of hurt feelings. I kinda figured that was the case with the muscle memory and stretching, I'll just switch up the game plan with frequency and sequence of use on the toy play and keep this revelation to myself. I appreciate you taking the time to remark.

Best,

M
 

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If you would've asked me this a couple of months ago, I would've denied the thought that the vagina can 'loosen up' and 'tighten' depending on the girth that it receives...however, I agree totally with what LaFemme said.

My personal proof: When my ex broke up with me, we hadn't seen eachother in like 4 months...I had no problems taking his cock when we were together, but then when we had sex again after the 4 months it was hard to get it in and hurt like a mofo! Then we hadn't had sex in a couple of weeks, and I was pretty tight again...but after I was nice and lubed up (naturally of course ;p), it went in easy as pie. There's no pain now, it just feels amazing lol.
 

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If you would've asked me this a couple of months ago, I would've denied the thought that the vagina can 'loosen up' and 'tighten' depending on the girth that it receives...however, I agree totally with what LaFemme said.

My personal proof: When my ex broke up with me, we hadn't seen eachother in like 4 months...I had no problems taking his cock when we were together, but then when we had sex again after the 4 months it was hard to get it in and hurt like a mofo! Then we hadn't had sex in a couple of weeks, and I was pretty tight again...but after I was nice and lubed up (naturally of course ;p), it went in easy as pie. There's no pain now, it just feels amazing lol.

Thank you for your reply as well. See, I was in the same boat as you, but also like you, I discern changes in things. I've always been one to notice things in general.

So, I'd say I was very aware of what the usual feeling was and then after a while of playing with some fairly substantial girthy toys I could tell a difference after about a month of using them a couple times a week. Vagina's are stretchy and have memory I do think. But they can forget too! LOL. (not always a good thing though huh).

Best,

M
 

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I have yet to reach the toy usage stage in my sexual relationship development. Apart from using a vibrator privately I just don't have any interest in having my partner insert things into my body that aren't attached to his body.

However my experience with my bf big dick is as stated above. Like memory foam.
 

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I have yet to reach the toy usage stage in my sexual relationship development. Apart from using a vibrator privately I just don't have any interest in having my partner insert things into my body that aren't attached to his body.

However my experience with my bf big dick is as stated above. Like memory foam.

Memory foam...perfect analogy. You always know!