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I've been seeing a guy for around three months now and the sex we have is amazing. He prefers to top and I like bottoming so it's a great fit. We've made the decision to bareback and it's probably the best sex I've ever had.

I try to pay attention to my body and make sure that I feel "ready" to bottom and everything comes out clean without a mess. There have been a few incidents where things were a little sloppy and I'm wondering if anyone has any tips. Two of the times I think it was because we'd already fucked once in the morning and then when we did it later things were "loosened up" I suppose. Another time I felt "ready" but it was a little messy. When I say a little messy I mean we didn't really notice anything until he pulled out and then my ass was a little dirty around the hole and he wasn't completely clean pulling out. It doesn't seem to upset him but it embarrasses me. Any tips? Eat more fiber? I recently stopped being a vegetarian so I'm slowly adding chicken to my diet but that shouldn't really impact things.
 

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I sympathise with you, bro. It's a very personal thing and can feel very embarrassing. Do you use anything like a douche? Or shower attachments? You can buy them at your local gay bookstore. Also, you can buy a few things that work well from Wal*Mart, too. I wouldn't just rely on you feeling "ready" when there are ways to make sure you're ready.
 

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I'm kinda opposed to douching. I just feel like I shouldn't have to. Sex should be natural and intimate and spontaneous; and douching seems to go against that. Plus it seems like it would be a pain in the ass to do (no pun intended).
 

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Not ti be gross, but do you know when your normal BM's re? I know mine are around 4am. I avoid play about 3 hours before till and hour after, unless I have seriously douched.

Start with your fiber intake. Make sure you are not eating only soluble fiber (as this can have high residue) Insoluble will help to ensure low residue (too much of that and not enough soluble, however, isn't good either)

When Showering clean out with your finger.

If douching do not over do it or do too regularly. Though a deep cleaning every now and then can be fun (as you can get extended play)

On the plus side you sound like you have a cool BF who is mature enough to not freak out on you.
 
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I find that it is best to give myself a warm water enema three times about three hours before anal sex. That usually cleans myself out very well and the three hours allows my large intestine to absorb any of the left over fluid so my rectum and lower colon are clean.

I got fed up with trying to use the rubber bulbs and bought an old fashioned enema bag and hose from Amazon dot com. One bag full of water usually is all I need for three enemas. Plus, it is so easy to use. I just sit there and let gravity fill me up.
 

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I'm kinda opposed to douching. I just feel like I shouldn't have to. Sex should be natural and intimate and spontaneous; and douching seems to go against that. Plus it seems like it would be a pain in the ass to do (no pun intended).

I'm with you on this dude. I rely on my body to tell me when I can and can't, and honestly, I've never had a problem. But if I did and the top freaked, I'd send him on his way. It's like my mom always said "If you play in the mud, eventually you'll get dirty."

Obviously, eating right and excercising, but also getting plenty of water, will help keep things nice and regular.

On a side note, I hooked up with a guy once who came over all excited because he'd douched, or whatever he did, and he ended up leaking brown fluid all over my bed. So the whole douching thing isn't all it's cracked up to be, either.
 

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Douching once in a while is a very healthy thing to do. As a matter of fact, douch several times when you get the flu and you will notice that you get better faster. Try it and let us know. Why? Because you are desintoxicating, cleaning an area that would otherwise never get cleaned. When you do that, the body will also absorb nutrients better. There used to be a time when it was recomended for any ailment you can think of and, believe me, it was for a reason. In fact, in Ny its an industry, you can go to centers to get douched for some 90 dollars each time, they recommend a series of 10 over a period of several weeks to have a better impact. Among others, you can add coffee if you want to induce your liver to cleanse. My point is, dont worry much about douching once in a while, it was invented not only to get fucked afterwards.
 
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It may seem backward but I would never douche/use an enema if doing bareback. Ideally you trust your partner if you're engaging in such activity but douching actually makes you more susceptible to catching something from the top.

I say consider yourself lucky that you've found someone who won't freak out if things aren't perfectly clean every time. Yes it can be a mood killer but it's also bound to happen so there's no point in getting upset over it.
 

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Not ti be gross, but do you know when your normal BM's re? I know mine are around 4am. I avoid play about 3 hours before till and hour after, unless I have seriously douched.

Start with your fiber intake. Make sure you are not eating only soluble fiber (as this can have high residue) Insoluble will help to ensure low residue (too much of that and not enough soluble, however, isn't good either)

When Showering clean out with your finger.

If douching do not over do it or do too regularly. Though a deep cleaning every now and then can be fun (as you can get extended play)

On the plus side you sound like you have a cool BF who is mature enough to not freak out on you.

^^^As always, the man to listen to. (The man to whom to listen? You know what I mean.)

josh91, you're right in that you shouldn't have to douche. Sex should be spontaneous, and douching is actually not good for your system - the mucus and flora that should be there get flushed along with the poop. It's a "throwing the baby out with the bath water" sort of scenario.

Do pay attention to when you regularly poop. Don't fuck before then.

Do eat lots of fresh, whole foods. Just being a vegetarian (or almost-vegetarian, as you now are) doesn't mean you have a happy digestive tract. Tofu, cookies, chips, and store-bought vegetarian burritos are heavily processed and just as likely to produce gluey poo in vegetarians as they are in omnivores.

Also, while I support the right of committed couples to go without condoms, please do so with all your wits about you. Please make sure you get tested now (after three months the HIV tests are 99.whatever percent accurate), and make sure you talk about STIs other than HIV. And if you play outside the relationship, please negotiate rules about safety ahead of time.
 

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By the way, they call it 'colonics'.

Douching once in a while is a very healthy thing to do. As a matter of fact, douch several times when you get the flu and you will notice that you get better faster. Try it and let us know. Why? Because you are desintoxicating, cleaning an area that would otherwise never get cleaned. When you do that, the body will also absorb nutrients better. There used to be a time when it was recomended for any ailment you can think of and, believe me, it was for a reason. In fact, in Ny its an industry, you can go to centers to get douched for some 90 dollars each time, they recommend a series of 10 over a period of several weeks to have a better impact. Among others, you can add coffee if you want to induce your liver to cleanse. My point is, dont worry much about douching once in a while, it was invented not only to get fucked afterwards.
 

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^^^As always, the man to listen to. (The man to whom to listen? You know what I mean.)

josh91, you're right in that you shouldn't have to douche. Sex should be spontaneous, and douching is actually not good for your system - the mucus and flora that should be there get flushed along with the poop. It's a "throwing the baby out with the bath water" sort of scenario.

Do pay attention to when you regularly poop. Don't fuck before then.

Do eat lots of fresh, whole foods. Just being a vegetarian (or almost-vegetarian, as you now are) doesn't mean you have a happy digestive tract. Tofu, cookies, chips, and store-bought vegetarian burritos are heavily processed and just as likely to produce gluey poo in vegetarians as they are in omnivores.

Also, while I support the right of committed couples to go without condoms, please do so with all your wits about you. Please make sure you get tested now (after three months the HIV tests are 99.whatever percent accurate), and make sure you talk about STIs other than HIV. And if you play outside the relationship, please negotiate rules about safety ahead of time.
I was gonna say the same about you!

Ok I will say I am not opposed to douching ONCE IN A WHILE. Or shallow douching more often. That is, douching of the rectum only. Deeper douching is obviously a MUST if ya are gonna do extreme penetration (extra large dildos, fisting, that sort of thing) Long dicks can be problematic, depending on your own internal anatomy. Some people have relatively short rectums, others longer ones. If your rectum is 7 inches or more in length, ya can prob never have ta worry about deep cleansing.

For the most part, if I know my schedule, and have eaten a balanced diet, I should am fine for spontaneous sex for quite a span. I try not to douche to frequently as it can throw off the internal micro flora found in the gut (especially deep cleaning)

While a colonic has been shown to be beneficial in getting rid of impacted particles and therefore improving your health) a better way would be to do that once in a while and improve your diet to not have that impacting hapen in the first place.

My sound like I am agreeing with everybody, but I am just telling you what in general is good to ok, and what works for me. There was a time I douched constantly (ad high 6 "dates" a day, and though I didn't sleep with all of them i prepared as if I was going to) I became reliant on douching to have a normal BM. It took a while o get my gut back in proper order.

Not fun.

Now i only get to see my Guy about once every 2 months, so I will do a shallow to deep clean, if only to ensure i do not have to miss anal during my off times (usually when he is horniest, tween 2 and 6am.) Course if we lived together, I would probably try and change my schedule to more coincide with his peak times, and not douche as much. He doesn't douche and I have not had any terrible problem with his cleanliness.

Yes once in a while ya might get a little dirt on your pipe. Calm down, clean off, and laugh about it. It happens. It has happened (as some have testified) even when I or others have leaned deep till the water was sparkling lear and we waited and re douched and waited ad then OOOPS! the pushing and pulling and suction of sex had jostled something waaaaaaayyy up the pipes and we have had to stop. It is not a goal to encounter that. I am not ito that sort of play. But neither am I or my partner going to go all ballistic and make the other person feel horrid. To what point.

Ther was a thred here a few months back where the bottom was way unclean and made no attempt to clean themselves *BARF!!!:eek:) and in that case...EEEWWW!!! O even I would be hard pressed not to go off on them.

Of course if ya are going to do something kinky like ass to mouth (and no judgement, to each their own) ya may want to be as cleaned out as possible...lol just sayin!
 

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I'm kinda opposed to douching. I just feel like I shouldn't have to. Sex should be natural and intimate and spontaneous; and douching seems to go against that. Plus it seems like it would be a pain in the ass to do (no pun intended).

I understand your feelings, but an enema is the best way to prevent there being a mess. If you don't like sunscreen, accept the burns.
 
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Even douching (enema flushing love tunnel) does not prevent getting
the 'shit' fucked out of you, especially, if your partner is thick, or thick
and long. Pulling out creates suction, and after some fierce pumping,
what's residual, will make its way out.

It happens! You're both just enjoying the rhythm of being one, and
you get seepage. Crude word, but the best way of describing it.

Hope this helps!
 

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Dude you should definitely douche if you wanna bare back. it doesnt hurt anyway. You should also test for AIDS before you bareback. But if you do it right (douching) barebacking can be the greatest and most intense sex you've ever had. Trust me dude, it feels great.
 
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Even douching (enema flushing love tunnel) does not prevent getting
the 'shit' fucked out of you, especially, if your partner is thick, or thick
and long. Pulling out creates suction, and after some fierce pumping,
what's residual, will make its way out.

It happens! You're both just enjoying the rhythm of being one, and
you get seepage. Crude word, but the best way of describing it.

Hope this helps!

I've had anal sex with men and women and even though they were very, very clean back there, I've noticed I have caused some "things" to work there way out as described. I had a gf who loved anal and I can tell you, I've "fucked the shit" out of her a number of times. Like they say, "shit happens". Especially with anal sex.
 

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I've come a long way. From three years ago denying that I was gay and was a gay virgin. Now a couple years later I'm giving advice on bottoming! You can't make it up. :)

1. Coffee and lots of it prior
2. I've gotten quite good at using the rubber bulb just prior.

Good luck. PM me for more details if needed.
 

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I've made my feelings known, on similar threads about douching and barebacking. I won't go into it here, but I believe in a totally cleaned out anal cavity and colon. I spend at least two hours to do so, and then check it out with a butt plug and a 10" dildo, just to be sure. If it passes the dildo test then I'm good to go. If not, I go back into the bathroom and do it all over again. I want to be certain that there never is any debris. It's the least I can do, for my top. My Top expects a squeaky clean ass, and that's what I give him. It's a matter of pride with me. And I certainly believe it keeps STD's down as well. I don't half step when it comes to having a clean hole. http://www.lpsg.com/331017-how-much-cleaning-b4-anal.html
http://www.lpsg.com/330799-receiving-bareback-big-orgasm-can.html

I find that it is best to give myself a warm water enema three times about three hours before anal sex. That usually cleans myself out very well and the three hours allows my large intestine to absorb any of the left over fluid so my rectum and lower colon are clean.

I got fed up with trying to use the rubber bulbs and bought an old fashioned enema bag and hose from Amazon dot com. One bag full of water usually is all I need for three enemas. Plus, it is so easy to use. I just sit there and let gravity fill me up.
 
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