Tips for gay virgin

[D_Bawterbie Bigbat]

Hi, I am a virgin and want to try anal sex with my boyfriend (as a bottom). However, I'm really scared to because of pain etc. Can anyone reccomend me some tips to minimize this like best position and stuff.

Also another reason is that I don't want to get really loose haha. So how often should I bottom so that this doesn't happen.

Thanks, any feedback welcome (sorry if many of these questions have already been posted, I'm new and not too sure how to navigate the site)

 

[pizauk]

Lol, sorry found the bit about getting loose funny, only if you start putting large objects up your arse will you stretch it.

As for anal sex, get your bf to rim you and slowly work your arse with his fingers and take your time, then when you have two or three fingers in try a cock, but again go slowly, the most painful part is getting it in once he is in and if it hurts just make him stop as the sharp pain will go and don't forget to use plenty of lube!!

If you are having unprotected sex use a silicone based lube instead of water based as they don't dry out and it feels so much better and cleaner!

 

[D_fbq01hbc]

The other secret to enjoying anal sex as a bottom is to r e l a x! Whatever position you're in, if you are scared stiff about being penetrated then your arse will close up like there's no tomorrow. Relax, let it open, let him in (with plenty of lube) and enjoy the sensation, the experience and what it means to have the man you love inside you.

 

[D_Bawterbie Bigbat]

Lol, sorry found the bit about getting loose funny, only if you start putting large objects up your arse will you stretch it.

haha, the reason I say that is because his last parter who he was with for 4 years (and a virgin before) is now incredibly loose (they did have sex a lot) and he isn't small but he isn't this giant thing haha

 

[B_subgirrl]

Relax, relax, relax.

Have a positive mindset - if you think you can't take it, you won't be able to.

If it hurts, take it out for a few seconds, then try again. The second or third time you'll often find yourself sliding right past that sore spot.

 

[erratic]

haha, the reason I say that is because his last parter who he was with for 4 years (and a virgin before) is now incredibly loose (they did have sex a lot) and he isn't small but he isn't this giant thing haha

You don't necessarily get loose from having a dick up there; you just get used to it, and so there isn't the reflexive resistance to having something go in an out hole. It's sorta kinda like losing the gag reflex. Your throat's not all distended and gross, rather, your body is used to it.

Actually loosening (aka damaging) your rectal sphincters involves repeatedly inserting massive objects. Multiple fists, huge butt plugs, feet, heads, basketballs, and so on.

As for first time anal, the advice you've gotten about silicone lube, relaxing, lots of foreplay etc. is good. Also, many guys find it easier to try it on their side the first few times, and you may want to repeatedly apply lube (put it in a bit, pull out and reapply, put it in a bit more, pull it out and reapply, and so on). You can't use too much lube, especially the first few times.

Good luck!

P.S. Don't try to pound it like a porn star. Give yourself some time to get used to it

 

[latinluva]

On your stomach, lots of lube, and don't let him thrust it in too fast. Aside from that, your ass needs to get use to this type of entry. So not much you can do, except take the pain. Around fourth or fifth time, it will subside. Buy a small dildo and work it for a while, at least you'll have control over the movements. After your ass gets use to it, you'll be enjoying the best sex of your life.