Learning how to breathe is key. Keep your breathing at a regular rate. If you are 75% close to cumming, exhale and then slow down your rate of stroking/penetration - somewhat like changing gear speeds on a bicycle. Breathing helps to dissipate the build up and desire to release.
Doug Abrahm's book , The Multi-Orgasmic Male, has been floating around for several years and is a good, inexpensive reference. To really understand what the book's message, practice on yourself in an extended (i.e. 1 to 2 hour ) self-exploration/masturbation session. Practice edging.
Also, when you are engaged in sex, feel free to tell your partner that yo don't want to cum just quite yet. That will help vary the mood.
Doug Abrahm's book , The Multi-Orgasmic Male, has been floating around for several years and is a good, inexpensive reference. To really understand what the book's message, practice on yourself in an extended (i.e. 1 to 2 hour ) self-exploration/masturbation session. Practice edging.
Also, when you are engaged in sex, feel free to tell your partner that yo don't want to cum just quite yet. That will help vary the mood.