Tips for (straight) sex?

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  1. SomeGuyOverThere

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    This is going to sound pretty weird, but having played both sides of the field (so to speak), I know that I'm pretty crap with women.

    Sex with guys seems to be easier: I know what it's like to be a man, so I know what feels nice. Women on the other hand, seem to be a whole different ball game, and I just don't know what feels right for them.

    So I'm looking for some tips (especially from any ladies on the boards). What works for foreplay? How much foreplay? What position is good to start with? Slow or fast thrusts? Anything, just throw some advice at me!

    For a start, how would you kick things off with a woman? With a guy I start by kissing on the lips, then work my way down their neck whilst undoing their fly, and you can easily move from there to frotting, oral, 69, etc. Is that too direct with women?

    I've tried watching porn for ideas, but straight porn seems split into two categories - professional porn, where the women never seem to be having a good time (massive turn off for me), or amateur porn, where you usually can't really see what's happening.
     
  2. paigexox

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    It's been on my mind quite a bit lately, so I'll drop it here. I am amazed at how many guys try and screw like they see on porn -- i.e. just thinking an ultra fast hard fuck, or pulling out at the worst possible moments to slap or rub my clit with their cock is a good idea.

    A technique really worth exploring is rotating your hips in a circular motion while you penetrate or are in fully. I find most guys tense up when they do this with me (aka kegel) and that feels nice, plus as the shaft rotates around it hits all the "sweet" spots + adds an extra girthy sensation.
     
  3. SomeGuyOverThere

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    Yeah, that's another reason I'm asking. I mean, the fact is straight porn is all about giving guys something to jack off too. Even I can tell that the "techniques" aren't actually fun for the woman.

    Cheers for the tip, I'll keep that in mind :)
     
  4. SomeGuyOverThere

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    Hmmm 105 views and only one post. Lots of people looking for advice but nobody willing to share? :D

    I found this article, some of the tips look pretty solid:
    15 Sex Tips From Women | Men's Health

    But having read the "sex tips from Men" in Cosmo, I'm pretty sceptical about these articles (Some of them seemed like they'd cause an express trip to the emergency room...). Can any women on the boards verify these as any good?
     
  5. upone

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    I've always found it useful to go down on her and await further instructions... ;-)
     
  6. redbear52

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    Women are all different in what they like, and just when you think you have one figured out, she changes her mind.
     
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    Useful guidance from upone. Here's something else to try: ask her. In my experience, I've often been the first guy who's ever asked 'what do you enjoy?' and this approach pays dividends for both partners. If she is shy about answering the question or gives you a non-answer, you can pretty much assume that she does have an idea of what she wants but she was raised to think either sex was wrong or that women sound slutty if they express what they want. Assure her that it's okay to be 'selfish' and let her know that you're aware that women are unique: they have individual sexual tastes and different ideas about what gives them pleasure.
     
  8. At.your.cervix

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    If you want to pleasure a woman, you need to listen to her, not just the words she might utter, but maybe more importantly to the subtle sounds she is making as you move your mouth on her body, and even her breathing. Smell her, her sweat and her sex. Focus on her so that you can almost experience what she's experiencing as you work her body. And by the way, I said "body," not just nipples and a clit. Done right, every inch of skin can be a liberating erogenous zone. When it comes to foreplay, just get lost in both the moment and your lover; whatever happens and however long it takes should just be a natural, unreflective, series of moments. Don't let foreplay be a mere lead up to a fuck--it is sex, really wonderful sex, and needn't even lead to anything else. Then if it does, it just adds to that string of experience shared between lovers. If you find yourself sliding into your partner, savor the sensation and her reaction. Pleasure yourself as you pleasure her. What is working for her? Does her stretching to accomodate your cock excite her or bring her unwanted pain? How does her sex cling to you as you work yourself inside of her, is her body aching to take you in? When you reach the end of her depths is she in ecstacy or pain? How does it feel for you and her when you move this way or that? Does the passion build as you increase the speed or force of your cock writhing up and down within her body? It's all about two becoming one. Loose yourself in your lover and you will not only have her find her pleasure in you, but you will find your pleasure in her, as the two will be one. That's how you make love.
     
  9. bulletbob

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    Here's a thought: Foreplay! Warm her up for at least 20 minutes, better yet to do it a half an hour or 45 minutes. And put all of the focus on her. Do absolutely nothing selfish. Don't whip your dick out for her to suck it. Just put all the focus on her. At.your.cervix' post is great on the details. Admire every inch of her with your hands and mouth.

    I guarantee if you're not selfish, she'll want to pull your dick out and suck it pretty quick into the foreplay. After that, just settle in between her legs missionary style with your cockhead at the opening. But don't go for it yet. Lay there with your dick hard as you kiss her lips, face, neck, ears and breasts. Bet she eventually asks what you're waiting for!

    At that point, you should have no problem with entry, but still go slow.

    As far as technique AYC is right on again. Listen to and watch her for clues. It also never hurts to just ask, as someone said.
     
  10. Miscer

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    ^ great post
     
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    if a guy kiss me on the lips it will be last thing he ever dose.
     
  12. D_Tam_Ponds

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    Ok, now I want to fuck this guy :D
     
  13. art

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    Especially nice if the cock is thick (my gf enjoys my 6" thick one). I'm so stiff when fully erect that my cock doesn't bend at all, so no Kegels necessary.
     
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