tips for top in long sessions

[mypornid1]

Hi! I was wondering, perhaps you guys could share some experiences on what do you do with your penis on a long sex sessions (let's say more than an hour or two?)

As a Bottom in a gay relationship I enjoy having slow sex with my partner, who's playing with me this whole time (by fingering, nipple play etc. of yourse there are aso prolonged foreplay, but sometimes, you just eager to get o the mains... ). But as my partner doesn't enjoy nipple play or prostate stimulation for himself, he edged all the time in this session and end up having a sore penis before we reached the end.

Do you guys could share, how you pleasure yourself or what do you enjoy beside rubbing the pole while having sex? It seems hard to find the right answer for this one in the internet.

Thanks in advance!

 

[halcyondays]

Sounds like your partner needs to use lube and lots of it to avoid getting sore.

Also erections aren't meant to last so long. Most animals including our primate cousins take seconds to mate not minutes or hours. The adaptive advantage of that is not to get picked off by a predator or injured by the attack of a competing male.

If my erection fades in the middle of a long session, so be it--even if it goes fully flaccid I just let it be. No need to force it. There's all kinds of other stimulation like massaging, caressing, kissing including body kissing or just holding each other.

Perhaps most important is to accept that it's okay to take breaks and rest during a long session. Go to the loo. Get something to drink. Have a snack. Feed each other. Take a breather. Take a shower. Snooze together. Rest up for round two-three-four. Or quit if one or both of you don't want to go further.

My best advice for long lingering sex is tantra. The goal is not to orgasm at all (!) but it's okay if you do. It's an intimate sexual meditative experience. At the very least it becomes extended foreplay. At the most a spiritual experience.

Good luck.

 

[thongboy]

Quickies can be fun, but I like an extended fuck, and I always hope there's time in a session for more than one. With a buddy a few days ago, I shot three loads into him, and that didn't seem extreme to us. Your body will tell you if you're overdoing it. I also have several kinds of cock ring and they can be awesome

 

[chrisrobin]

Quickies can be fun, but I like an extended fuck, and I always hope there's time in a session for more than one. With a buddy a few days ago, I shot three loads into him, and that didn't seem extreme to us. Your body will tell you if you're overdoing it. I also have several kinds of cock ring and they can be awesome

I agree a quickie can be fun and sexually stimulating as well. Sometimes there is the need for a quick orgasm before getting down to the real sex which can take many forms and still be exciting. Prosnllky I enjoy a guy who mounts me, fucks me and then remains embedded inside me for repeated fuckings all night.

 

[thongboy]

I agree a quickie can be fun and sexually stimulating as well. Sometimes there is the need for a quick orgasm before getting down to the real sex which can take many forms and still be exciting. Prosnllky I enjoy a guy who mounts me, fucks me and then remains embedded inside me for repeated fuckings all night.

Amen to that. So may awesome variations when it comes to fucking

 

[chrisrobin]

Amen to that. So may awesome variations when it comes to fucking

It all comes down to when I lost my cherry at a tender age. He entered a realm that has been virgin, tight, unplumbed and opened up new possibilities. Hed just stayed till he was pumping hot air, I was full of cum and then he slipped out and hey, I was a fucked happy guy.

 

[mypornid1]

Sounds like your partner needs to use lube and lots of it to avoid getting sore.

Also erections aren't meant to last so long. Most animals including our primate cousins take seconds to mate not minutes or hours. The adaptive advantage of that is not to get picked off by a predator or injured by the attack of a competing male.

If my erection fades in the middle of a long session, so be it--even if it goes fully flaccid I just let it be. No need to force it. There's all kinds of other stimulation like massaging, caressing, kissing including body kissing or just holding each other.

Perhaps most important is to accept that it's okay to take breaks and rest during a long session. Go to the loo. Get something to drink. Have a snack. Feed each other. Take a breather. Take a shower. Snooze together. Rest up for round two-three-four. Or quit if one or both of you don't want to go further.

My best advice for long lingering sex is tantra. The goal is not to orgasm at all (!) but it's okay if you do. It's an intimate sexual meditative experience. At the very least it becomes extended foreplay. At the most a spiritual experience.

Good luck.

yes indeed. I also think good lube is the basic of the whole thing.
Well sometimes we tried massage and cuddling to fill the breaks. But he somehow get so horny again, that he starts to rub again even in the break. I wonder, if there's way to make him enjoy the break too.

any good tips for Tantra-sources?

It all comes down to when I lost my cherry at a tender age. He entered a realm that has been virgin, tight, unplumbed and opened up new possibilities. Hed just stayed till he was pumping hot air, I was full of cum and then he slipped out and hey, I was a fucked happy guy.

I loved it, when the top just let his part inside after a great sex. The feeling of being united is just.... romantic, I guess? lol

 

[chrisrobin]

yes indeed. I also think good lube is the basic of the whole thing.
Well sometimes we tried massage and cuddling to fill the breaks. But he somehow get so horny again, that he starts to rub again even in the break. I wonder, if there's way to make him enjoy the break too.

any good tips for Tantra-sources?


I loved it, when the top just let his part inside after a great sex. The feeling of being united is just.... romantic, I guess? lol

When I feel really content with a guy and he's fucked me, shot his load I like them to stay inserted, feel the beat inside me soften knowing that a few anal flexes and I can wake the beast for a further deep fuck which will be extra special as it already cum lubed for perfect shagging. And a triple is a bonus, after all, just cos he's shot his load doesn't mean he should withdraw!

 

[mypornid1]

When I feel really content with a guy and he's fucked me, shot his load I like them to stay inserted, feel the beat inside me soften knowing that a few anal flexes and I can wake the beast for a further deep fuck which will be extra special as it already cum lubed for perfect shagging. And a triple is a bonus, after all, just cos he's shot his load doesn't mean he should withdraw!

truly true! even reading this turned me on already lol

 

[chrisrobin]

truly true! even reading this turned me on already lol

is there any other way I can turn you on, willing to try!