Tips from the guys

[D_Kay_Sarah_Sarah]

Gentlemen this aimed at you..

I keep reading around here that men give the best blow jobs,which obviously is because you have a better understanding of each other likes.

But how about letting us ladies and the less experienced men in on some of your techniques..anything you do or recieve that is particullarly pleasing that youd like to share with us?

 

[Oncamale28]

i like to make sure i flick or rub my tongue on the underside of his cock..seems to drive them wild..

 

[Steve26]

I've always understood the claim that men give better blow jobs (particularly to well-endowed recipients) to reflect, in part, the simple fact that men's mouths are generally larger than women's. Unless you have a mouth like Julia Roberts', I don't know that there is much you can do to remedy this. :wink:

I tend to suspect that the same things make oral sex amazing for both men and women ... first and foremost, a partner who behaves as if there's nothing they'd rather be doing. :smile:

Steve

 

[DC_DEEP]

Gentlemen this aimed at you..

I keep reading around here that men give the best blow jobs,which obviously is because you have a better understanding of each other likes.

But how about letting us ladies and the less experienced men in on some of your techniques..anything you do or recieve that is particullarly pleasing that youd like to share with us?

Two pieces of advice from me: ask him what he likes, and be observant to his body language. Some guys like teeth, most don't. Some guys like you to also use your hand, others don't. Does he seem to enjoy it more if you play with his balls at the same time? Does he make more or less noise if you move faster or slower? Every man likes something just a little different... find out/figure out what really gets him going, and work from there. I think the fact that you are more than willing to give a blowjob is an excellent start.

 

[D_Martin van Burden]

Don't try to force it down. You see, as hot as it is to be deep-throated, anatomically speaking it's very difficult to do. Those of us on the receiving end, it feels like trying to sequeeze a sausage through a straw. Unless you get it in at a very good angle and have great laryngal control, it's really painful to squeeze it in there anyway let alone if your teeth drag all over it.

Just take your time.

 

[novice_btm]

... in part, the simple fact that men's mouths are generally larger than women's.

I tend to suspect that the same things make oral sex amazing for both men and women ... first and foremost, a partner who behaves as if there's nothing they'd rather be doing. :smile:

Steve

I have to agree with Steve. Bigger mouths, and the "wanting", are the keys.

Something I've noticed... This is a HUGE generalization, but my experience has followed this pattern. Women more tended to give me "head", that is, mainly focusing on just having the head in her mouth, and not much more, while guys tended to deepthroat me a majority of the time, and personally, I love the feeling of it fully encompassed. That is the same for me when I've given head too. I like the "challenge" of taking it all. Maybe it's just the competitive nature of men. I don't know, maybe we don't want to admit that the other guy is too big for us to handle. :tongue: I remember this being the case once where I was going down on a friend of mine, and he told me, "easy, don't choke yourself down there", and laughed, but I kept going anyway, taking him to the base, holding it there and working it, until I needed to come up for air. I noticed at one point, that he was gripping my shoulders, and breathing heavily. When I came up, I looked at him, he was panting, his eyes were coming out of his head, and I couldn't tell if he looked surprised, or if he looked like he was going to cry, but then he just said, "FUCK, no one's ever done that to me before", flipped me onto my back, pinned me down and started making out with me, which definitely shocked me. A similar thing happened with my pen-pal, that I mentioned in the "sex with an Arab" thread. He still writes to me, and usually includes that his subsequent boyfriend, who I've never met, is insanely jealous of me because of it. :biggrin1: (BTW, isn't that odd that you'd mention a former experience like that to your significant other? "Well, novice took it all the way for me." )

This aside, I think it's all in the "wanting" that Steve mentioned. Again, this is an over-generalization, but with most girlfriends that I've had, it felt like either a "duty", or a trade for something else, whereas with guys, they couldn't wait to suck me(anecdotally, you don't really see postings online of girls saying, "want to give head, no reciprocation wanted", whereas you see that ALL the time from guys online, verifiable by checking Craigslist, on any given day). The first time I ever gave head my friend told me, "if I didn't know you, and KNOW this was your first time, I'd swear you were a pro." When I asked him what I did, so I could do it again in the future :biggrin1: , he just told me, "WHAT you did was great, but HOW you did it, was IN-FUCKIN-CREDIBLE!"
"Um, what d'you mean?"
"It just felt like you couldn't get enough of me, and there's nowhere else in the world that you'd ever wanna be." Then laughed out, "...felt like you'd kill me if I tried to take it away from you." :biggrin1:

 

[bjames]

Don't be afraid to use pressure. I've had blowjobs that I couldn't relax during because her hand was wondering around my balls like she was trying to tickle me. I'd squirm away but usually they wouldn't get the hint. I like when a woman uses pressure when cupping my balls or pressing several fingers against the area just under my balls but not moving individual fingers gently while sucking. Just press don't rub. Guys usually grab and hold while sucking and that feels great. Something women can try is make a fist and press and hold it against the guys ass under his balls while she's sucking. I'm not talking about fisting inside his rectum, but just putting constant pressure down there. If your guy digs it, his body language will let you know.

 

[novice_btm]

Again, agreeing with both DBT and bjames... Some guys ARE too big *GASP*, usually in thickness, to take without it being uncomfortable for both involved. This goes somewhat along with what bjames was saying too, that is, just pay attention to the responses that you get. When told that I just "seemed to know exactly what (he) liked", I just answered, "well, I just kept doing what made you react" (favorably). Unless he's one of those kind of people that just lays there, no matter how much pleasure he's feeling, you'll get pretty clear signals, and if the signals are confusing... ask. You'll either get an admission that they don't care for it, or a "no, don't stop", response.

 

[Hockeytiger]

I've always understood the claim that men give better blow jobs (particularly to well-endowed recipients) to reflect, in part, the simple fact that men's mouths are generally larger than women's. Unless you have a mouth like Julia Roberts', I don't know that there is much you can do to remedy this. :wink:

I tend to suspect that the same things make oral sex amazing for both men and women ... first and foremost, a partner who behaves as if there's nothing they'd rather be doing. :smile:

Steve

I couldn't agree more.

As a guy who is quite girthy (but not particularly long), my partners have always had difficulty with oral sex, so I can't give you too many pointers, because I don't really know what I like.

What Steve said is right on. The most important thing from my perspective is having a partner who wants to do it. One of my pet peeve's is having a partner who only performs a sexual act because they want you to. That spoils it for me. I want a woman to enjoy licking my dick. For example, one of my wife's favorite things to do is to lick my balls. She finds a guys balls to be very erotic. Frankly, having my balls licked and sucked was never really been a big deal to me, until I met her. Now it is a very important part. I really, REALLY get off of her mere desire to do it.

So my suggestion to you is this. Enjoy it and make sure he knows that you love his dick. We men, right or wrong, have a lot of ego wrapped up in our dicks. Use that to your advantage. Compliment him on it. Tell him how much you love sucking on it, licking it, touching it, etc. Tell him how much you enjoy his reactions to your sucking, licking, etc. Tell him that you love his dick and you want to worship it. Then do so. You may just find that this will turn him on just as much, or even more, than any physical "trick" you might learn here.

PS Obviously physical tricks are great too, but not to the exclusion of what I said.

 

[prince_will]

mmm....everything said so far is excellent.....if i had to add, i would say to not neglect his balls....lick then softly, put them in your mouth or, suck his dick while rubbing his balls gently with one of your hands.

 

[D_Kay_Sarah_Sarah]

firstly he knows i love his cock and i am more than eager to give him a bj, there's been a few times when ive had to convince him and get him in the mood for it..so he knows its something i want to do.

Let me clarify...i think i give a ggod blow job, well ive never had a serious complaint so far but i am always willing to learn some new techniques or variations etc.

.....Sorry but im going to push you guys because i know you know what you do and dont like, i just need to get you to be specific about it :biggrin1:

Do you like a bit of teeth, rubbing it on the outside closed lips, a slap or two on the cheeks, spit, swallow or facial, do you like your balls massage or sucked, hard or soft?

Please guys..take it back to BJ-101 and teach me the ways of a good blow/head job.

 

[Snakebyte]

You should know that a vagina and a penis do have pretty much in comon. No news since they develop from the same ur-organ.
i.e. when you pull back the skin (in case he isn't cut) where the shaft connects to the head there is sth you possibly could compare to a clitoris. This spot has lots of nerve endings. Think you can imagine the rest :wink:

 

[novice_btm]

...Do you like a bit of teeth, rubbing it on the outside closed lips, a slap or two on the cheeks, spit, swallow or facial, do you like your balls massage or sucked, hard or soft?
...

Most guys will cross their legs and wince at the mere mention of teeth. I can't handle the slightest bit of tooth coming in contact with mine. HOWEVER, it's all about communication, because one guy I know actually told me "chew on it... no, like chew it more... yeah, really, I like it."
*in pain just remembering that*
Oh, and same goes for the balls, where one guy likes attention there, but only the softest of licks, there are other guys that want them tugged, or that same guy wanted me to have them in my closed mouth and to pull back on them... HARD.

The slapping it on the cheek like a porn-chick... one instance comes to mind. So, I'm down there, having fun, he's nice and hard, letting out some "mmm"s and "oooh"s. I don't even know why I pulled it out and knocked it against the side of my face, but it went from hard wood, to hardened steel, and the "mmm"s became "oh FUCK yeah!". I don't know how, or why, that drove him so wild, but the next time, I tried it when he was only 1/2 firm, and it INSTANTLY turned into a throbbing rock.

 

[D_alex8]

Most guys will cross their legs and wince at the mere mention of teeth. I can't handle the slightest bit of tooth coming in contact with mine. HOWEVER, it's all about communication, because one guy I know actually told me "chew on it... no, like chew it more... yeah, really, I like it."
*in pain just remembering that*

You and me both! If anyone came at me with teeth, they would either get a stiff verbal reprimand (while anything else ceased to be stiff at all), or on a bad day, a sharp rap around the ear so that they could share in my sense of pain! :biggrin1:

 

[D_Gunther Snotpole]

If anyone came at me with teeth, they would get a sharp rap around the ear so that they could share in my sense of pain! :biggrin1:

Is that why The Anointed remember so little?

 

[Hockeytiger]

You want some detail? OK.

First of all, go soft but eager. I prefer my dick to be worshiped. If he wants something a little rougher, and you trust him, maybe let him face fuck you a little, but ONLY if you want to. A lot of women aren’t comfortable being in such a vulnerable position and I totally respect that, and so should EVERY man. Since I’ve never been able to get past teeth, this is still in the fantasy realm for me.

Second, Snakebyte is right on. Just underneath the head of the penis, and just behind it to a lesser extent, is a very sensitive area. Find out if it works on your partner.

Third, NO TEETH!!!! That is an example of bad pain. Below is a possible example of good pain.

Fourth, as mentioned earlier, balls are meant to be played with. Please do so. Some guys prefer it more than others. I for one, before I met my wife, was never a big fan. Some guys prefer it harder than others. Start soft, VERY soft, with some massaging and work your way up harder to some sucking. He may start to squirm a bit, but just like a worm on a hook, don’t let him slip away. He may be experiencing some pain but also a lot of pleasure. You can even be a little dominant about it, if you want. You can tell him to stop squirming. Tell him this is about your pleasure, not his. Tell him to stop whining like a little girl and take the little bit of pain like a man. I suggest making sure that you talk to him ahead of time about it and arrange a signal for STOP RIGHT NOW! There’s nothing wrong with pushing a man’s pain buttons. We are built for it. But there is a limit. The two of you will need to experiment to find the right threshold.

Fifth, a playful slap or two with it on the cheek is fine. I personally prefer not to take that too far unless my wife is in a particularly submissive mood. It tends to bring out my more dominant and aggressive instincts, which can be good and a heck of a lot of fun, but only under the right circumstances.

Sixth, spit, swallow, or facial? This is a tough one and it is deeply personal of each one of us, both men and women. Personally, I hate spitting. It is nasty, insulting, and a serious mood killer. If a woman can’t handle swallowing, and that’s OK, I suggest not taking it in your mouth at all. But that’s just me. My cum is my basic genetic material, it is the essence of what I am as a human being (notice that I didn’t say who I am). To spit it out is a rejection of me. However, I know plenty of guys who prefer to cum in a woman’s mouth, and if she spits, no big deal. I am not a big fan of a facial either. Personally, I find it degrading and whorish. If my partner were to enjoy it, perhaps I could learn to deal with it, but I have respected my partners too much to get off on degrading them. On the other hand, wife, ever once in a while, will do a variation on the facial. When I am getting close during an oral session she aims my dick at her breasts and has me shoot onto them. She then orders me to lick them clean. I love a woman who is willing to be a little dominant once in a while. It is a good break in the routine.

 

[BobLeeSwagger]

Do you like a bit of teeth, rubbing it on the outside closed lips, a slap or two on the cheeks, spit, swallow or facial, do you like your balls massage or sucked, hard or soft?

Please guys..take it back to BJ-101 and teach me the ways of a good blow/head job.

No teeth at all. For me it's the fastest blowjob killer of all. I've winced in pain and had to pull a woman's mouth off me. There is a small minority of guys who like teeth, but you're better off assuming a guy doesn't like it unless he asks.

I've had women rub my cock against their cheeks, but never slapped herself with it. As with all thing sexual, if she were doing it enthusiastically then I'd probably enjoy it. I don't think I'd ever do the slapping.

Swallow is much preferred. I've never really gotten off on facials and no woman has ever asked me to give her one. Even in porn it doesn't impress me unless the actress can somehow convince me that she's enjoying it.

My balls like the attention, but that can be easily overdone. An ex-gf of mine had it down right, she moved to playing with my balls when she wanted to stop me from cumming and calm me down, before going back to sucking me. Like a pleasant diversion.

 

[B_Spladle]

I'm particularly fond of girls who ask me what I like, and then do it.

(there is no one-size-fits-all BJ technique, sorry)

 

[Hockeytiger]

(there is no one-size-fits-all BJ technique, sorry)

Very true!

 

[IntactMale]

I refuse to answer, only because when I've posted questions (not on this forum) asking specifically what women like a man to do during sex (i.e. "the motion of the ocean") I've never gotten any woman to answer.

Then again, if you were between my legs with my cock in your face I would be glad to tell you anything.

Also, I've never gotten a good blowjob. My girl sucked my cock for 45 minutes (more than once) and I just couldn't get off, so I couldn't tell you what does it for me other than, suck hard, tounge the head, make eye contact and like you love having that cock in your mouth (even if you don't, just pretend).