Just wanted to ask how it is or how it's been for those here who have managed to be in a situation where they are just having fun or just fooling around with others, having casual relationships or just seeing what happens really. I don't know about anyone else here but all my relationships have gotten 'serious' pretty quick, for various reasons. Even a relatively short period of time into the relationship, they seem to be thinking about the long term future and all the things that go with it (rings on fingers, houses, careers in the same place, even kids!). When this has happened to me I have been a little startled by it perhaps, but have not come straight out and said NO, generally because I do have real feelings for the girl (it's just my way of handling those feelings don't include sitting down and planning the next 50 years together right this minute). Perhaps also I am more infatuated or crazy about the girl during those relatively early months and years and things are still new and exciting so I don't exactly want to come out and put a dampener on us. A few days ago though I realised that I have never actually had a relationship where we were just seeing each other, going out, dating or what have you, without the long term and serious stuff being brought into it pretty quick (and I think that can really change the mood of your time together, more than I realise at the time). Well, that's apart from a fling or two way back when. I got into another relationship pretty much straight after getting out of my first serious one, and whilst I was at university I always had a long distance relationship of this type, so wasn't able to exactly meet other girls in that way. I don't massively mind that, we had fun at the time and I definitely got more than my single housemates despite them pubcrawling and cruising the bars for girls every night. But it does now make me feel that I have kinda not done what seems to be the norm - taking it easy on the relationship side of things (even if that chilled out GF later does become a serious one). There may be a bit of regret or a sense of having missed out in some way in there somewhere. Guess I just wanted to put that out in the open, I'm not exactly sure where I want to go with this, or with myself in general really. I'd be happy to hear your thoughts and experiences on the whole 'just having fun' vs 'seriously significant other' thing and what you make of it.