To Love or Be Loved?

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  1. SpoiledPrincess

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    Which do you think is most important, although I prefer to be loved (I'm a selfish, pampered, bitchy, little thing) I think it's more important to love. I think loving promotes more spiritual growth, being loved can just mean accepting that love, whereas loving can mean changing things about yourself, being altruistic, giving, listening more and lots of other things that are positive, but it can also mean jealousy, paranoia, fear of losing the one(s) you love and the ways we have to deal with those negative aspects of loving can be painful but rewarding.
     
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    Right now I would have to say I prefer to be loved, as I am always loving. Truly, I am. :smile: I hate to sound conceited, but for a person who has recemtly been treated for depression I am pretty optimistic most of the time. It is my nature to be open, giving, patient, etc.
     
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    I think it is a toss up. I will say it is great to feel loved by someone for whom you feel the same. It is awful when you cant reciprocate the feelings and it is a wonderful person. I have had a number of instances where men had meltdowns because I had to let them know I didnt feel the same. I do find it frustrating when I am on the pining end of things but I try not to take it out on the person who does not reciprocate because we each have our preferences as it should be. Here is a poem I think that best describes it. It was written by Alexander Pushkin the 19th Century Russian poet.:

    I loved you. I love you still too much
    But forget this love which pressed
    sadly against your will .
    I loved you, silent, without hope but true
    Jealous, Afraid...
    I hope that some day someone will
    Love you again the same way.
     
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    I would have to say it is more important to do both
     
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    Love yourself, love someone else, learn to accept the love of someone else.
     
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    Yes you have to love yourself before someone can love you.
     
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    I think you need to do both as a well rounded person.
     
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    To love someone is very important. It is beneficial to both parties. It gets you out of yourself. It brings awareness to other people and their needs. It is comforting and reassuring. To love is an intensely overwhelming feeling, it is life, it is reaffirming, it is passion, it can make you see the good in things, love can bring you to the edge of emotions, to love is to feel so incredibly alive and connected, to love outs it out into the world and can have a benefical effect on some many people and things. To love is more than my words can say but I am ecstatically happy that I am able to love.
     
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    Quite appropriate.

    As do I


    I've heard that before. Yet with all the hateful, bitchy whack jobs that hook-up and get married, I have my doubts.:redface:
     
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    I have never been loved before, so I'll have to say I prefer loving and caring for someone so, if only because I yet have little to no experience of the other. :redface:
     
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    I believe that both are paramount. This type of energy exchange is what makes us human.
     
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    Awwww Patsy Ann! I love you, sister! I am going to pray that the Lord will send you a good man! One that can take all the considerable amount of love you have to give!
     
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    From your lips to God's ears!:smile:
     
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    I'm working on the "loving myself" part right now too. I think it would help a lot if I could keep a job for more than 3 or 4 months! I have kept jobs longer than that before - I know I can again, I just need to find a job that won't require such a higher skill level than I have. I also have to (as many women do) make peace with my body. Kind of hard to do in my case, since my body image problems are different from most women's, plus I've had body image problems since I was a preschooler!

    I at least know now that I am capable of love. Before I met the guy I mentioned above, I didn't even think I was capable of loving another person.
     
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    WOw! I hate when that happens.
     
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    The greatest thing you'll ever learn
    Is just to love and be loved in return..

    Nat King Cole

    (Great in theory :cool:)
     
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    I think anyone can show love, but as most people are very self-protective we need to feel loved before we can let go and show our true selves and give love 100%
     
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    I love to love, I love that moment when stupid love songs seem to touch your heart.
    am I a silly romantic mediterranean man? yes, I am
     
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    nothing more special than love being a two way street. having said that, it is more important for me to be liked/loved than i let on i think. am not a robot. and i enjoy giving it back when i feel that way about someone.

    good deep question.
     
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