*To the gay guys* Your first boyfriend.

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by Beanie, May 18, 2007.

  1. Beanie

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    How long was it from when you come out to your first? how did you meet him? and how was it?? (how long aswell please)

    Im not being pervy or anything i just have never been out with anyone really, i wasnt interested in girl growing up (now i know why) i come out when i was like 15 and i am now 18 and still single, thanks for all posts in advance xx
     
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    My First Lover Was 13 And So Was I. We Used Butter As Lube And When He First Slid It Up My Ass I Thought I Would Die! It Was Like A Razor Blad Sliding In, But I Got Use To It And He Tore My Sweet Man Hole Up For 7 Years. He Was 6 Inches And Growing.....
     
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    I'm bi. First time I had sex with a guy was when I was 14. He was really small, and thus he thought I was huge beyond words. I only bottomed twice, but I was the giver on several occasions.

    Didn't like him at all later, so that was that. I loved the sex, though.
     
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    My first was when I was around 13 I guess, Was my buddy, we went on a canoe trip. later that night we were in our sleeping bags and talking about pussy and cock, he started jerking off and wanted to know if I wanted to watch. He was fucking huge! 7.5". I felt like I had to taste it. After I got it all nice and wet he told me to turn over. Hurt like hell when he was forcing it in me, thought I was gonna die but wanted more. after that we spent 2 yrs as a couple. course we didnt tell anyone, ( we wanted to live:biggrin1: ) but I let him fuck me 2-3 times a week. then I found out he was fucking 2 other guys in the neighborhood.
    End of story
     
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    I'm betting there will be more than a few people here who had their first boyfriend BEFORE they came out to the public/their families.
     
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    I had a boyfriend for 2 months, but we didn't have sex. I don't know why "boyfriend" means having sex with a guy for some of you :p But anyhow, I was kinda desperate to get a boyfriend, and I ended up hooking up with a guy that's one of the most depressing, 'emo' people I've ever met.
     
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    OH MY GOD, well i feel bad! im 18 and still single and a virgin, feel like the toy on the shelf that no one wants...
     
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    I've always been aware that I was different than the other boys.... got caught staring a few times in ym class.
    Had my ass kicked in junior high because everyone thought I had a hard on. I was just bigger. I cannot remember my first man, but I do know it happened when I was 19. Just never really embraced my "inner me."
    We still live in a world where prejudice and jealousy rule our society, so I remain closeted in my daily life. Only a VERY select few (other than LPSG) know my true sexual identity.
     
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    My first was in college. We went on for a couple of months then his slutty ways emerged. It was tense for a few years but since then we have remained cordial. I was crazy about him but we were ill suited. My current partner of almost nine years is wonderful.
    So, Beanie, I say don't be in a hurry. First love only happens once you don't need to squander it.

    Dave
     
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    I met my first boyfriend when I was 16 at the bookstore. I used to sneak into this bookstore that had gay porn magazines, and I would just look through them. Well our eyes connected. He was such a great guy.
    Looking back I was not ready to come out and wasnt comfortable being with him in public. So we seperated. He was kind of flaming and I was still insecure. Now I admire his strength and courage at such a young age.
     
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    My first bf was not alot of fun. He liked to use people to further his own goals. Was an awful experience.

    The first guy I had sex with was a different story. I came out when I was 21. Met a guy off of AOL. His parents were out of town, so we had sex in every room in his house. That was fun for my first time.
     
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    so whgat would you guys say was the best way to meet guys? im mean like locally to you not like over the net in different countrys or what ever. Just any way you can think of to meet someone...?

    Should i just wait and itll happen in due course?
     
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    You never meet anyone sitting in your living room, watching TV. ;)

    I'd love to have a boyfriend or a girlfriend, but I'm a bit of a social dud. =/
     
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    I was a cashier at a grocery store in AZ. I was 25; my coworker was 17. We became best friends and fierce competitors. We were both straight. Before long, we discovered that we had intense sexual affinity and couldn't keep our hands off each other. I guess we weren't really straight after all. We were BFs for 6 years. He never came out; I did, but not for many years.
     
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    The more time I spend at this computer, the less likely I am to meet anyone in person. You need to get out more, possibly "coming out selectively" to friends you can trust. This will increase the odds of meeting other guys. I find most online relationships to be somewhat dishonest or misleading, as it is easier to hide your true self that way. Find some groups to join to increase your social skills.
     
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    Beanie, don't feel so bad. I was a virgin until I was 25 - 1987! I didn't know anyone gay. I finally met a guy who was visiting from my company's HQ in Palo Alto. I was so scared and uneducated. I thought that I could get AIDS from doing anything. Luckily for me, he was a safe-sex educator in SF. We had a fun time and I visited him a few times. After a few boyfriends, I met my partner. He & I have been together for 16 years now.

    Good luck,

    Jim
     
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    Beanie, don't stress over it! I was out of college and 23 years old, when I first had sex with a guy. I had sex with several guys that wild summer of '82. Lots of liquor, and dancing to Disco and New Wave. "Mickey", "Don't You Want Me, Baby", "Tainted Love" and "Wishing", among others...great memories. I also came out to my family and parents that summer, too.

    My first long term lover, boyfriend, I met at a club about 6 months later, but the relationship only lasted a few months. A big guy at 6'2" and 220 lb's, with a thick 8 incher. He could go on fucking for what seemed like hours!

    Hmmm, I can still smell that tall glass of Liebfraumilch that was on the bedstand, while we played for hours. Funny how music and smells can bring old memories flooding back...
     
  18. Beanie

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    thanks again for you help guys and keep it comeeing.

    I am allready out to a select group of my friends and the closest to a gay guy in my friends is a Bi friend of a friend who is a total queen and just not my type. I do go out to clubs and the like but i have never been to a gay club befor and i have no idea what im supposed to do to meet a guy in a club? im not very good describing this but i hope you get my meaning??
     
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    Got that one right.



    My first times of sex were just sex--there's a thread here about it, it's not pretty and I didn't see him as a boyfriend in that sense.



    The next few were just sex.


    Before marriage #1 there were 2 short term boyfriends; but we didn't do anything publicly like kissing or holding hands or even hugging--it was all bedroom and backrooms.


    Between the 2 marriages there was a good looking man who was in his early 60s and he was my first official boyfriend. I was still half closeted so the family was not told. My late sister Olivia figured it out though (she was one smart cookie and had good instincts),


    After marriage #2 ended I pranced out of the closet and nobody had any doubts. Then I went through a whole string of men before I met Ray and since that ended there's been nobody--which in my case may be for the best (I know it's for the best of all the other men out there).


    Beanie, you'll meet Mr.Right when you're supposed to--just keep alert and open to the idea that he is out there and searching for you as much as you are for him.
     
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    my first time was witha kid that used to torment me in grade school...we did the deed when we were 14...this went on another year or so..as life would have it he became my step brother 20 years later....funny! we never spk abt as adults an he died last year
     
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