Today will be my first

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  1. Phil4ril

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    Today my girlfriend promised tonight will be "special". we've fooled around with other stuff before, but i myself have never actually had sex. Yes, i am a virgin. needless to say, i am succumbing to fear. i'm nervous just thinking about it.

    Any way. i made this thread seeking advice, or anything to help calm my mind. any tips are very appreciated.
     
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    You are alone with someone you trust, someone you are comfortable with. It is just sex. You have fooled around before so you are already comfortable with her body to an extent.

    So, what do you have to fear, really?! It's just irrational. Just be comfortable, be relaxed, and both of you will enjoy it greatly.
     
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    Practical advise: contraception!!

    Other advise: just enjoy yourself and her. There is no right or wrong thing to do. A lot of people's first times are not the mind blowing, floating in the stars super sex the movies show you. Chances are it will be a bit fumbly and awkward - but fumbly and awkward are fun too. And guess what... you can do it again! Let her guide you as to what feels good for her - don't be scared to ask her (just don't over do it - asking ever 30 seconds 'does this feel good?' would be extremely annoying). But mainly, relax and have fun.
     
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    What ManlyBanisters said, especially this: "A lot of people's first times are not the mind blowing, floating in the stars super sex the movies show you." I had been expecting that my first time and was disappointed that it wasn't. Probably didn't help that I was in the backseat of a VW with a girl I didn't know very well. You're so lucky that your first time will be with a girlfriend you care about.

    Have a good time and don't have sky high expectations - it sometimes takes a while to get it right (and it's fun to practice)!
     
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    You will most likely be shitting bricks. Just keep calm and relaxed. Don't rush into it and go with the flow. Comfortabley fall into the situation rather than force yourself to just get to business.

    Don't worry about Fucking like a porn star, whatever you do she will enjoy. Missionary all the way!
    She'll appreciate the after sex snuggling just as much.

    If there's a true connection between you to then its impossible for you to do any wrong.

    Enjoy.
     
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    Chances are it will be a fairly brief experience, if not, then good on you. Main thing is to enjoy yourself, and have a laugh with your girlfriend.

    If you cum quickly, don't put yourself down, it happens, just joke with your girl, tell her it is now time for the fun part, building up your sexual stamina, they were my exact words and she pulled me back down on top of her to go again.

    Remember that this first time is only that, your first time. There will be many more afterwards. Immediately afterwards if you are both wanting to try again. The night I lost my virginity I must of had sex more than ten times throughout the entire night and we slept most of the next day. It was fun, and that is the key.

    Have fun, and wear a condom.
     
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    Is she a virgin too? I've never been with a virgin before, but for my first time I was certainly glad that one of us knew what to expect.
    Myself, I'm against planning altogether. Sex is best when it's spontaneous.. I was high for my first time and just let instinct take over. For sex, your brain is the enemy.
     
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    Enjoy, hope it's something you can cherish for years and years to cum. :)
     
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    The first time you have sex it will be quite awkward, and most likely won't turn out to be anything like you expected, but after that it gets much better; I promise! :)
     
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    I may be too late and you are no longer a virgin, but here goes anyway!

    I was nervous my first time, and it was awkward. She was laying back on the couch and I was trying to penetrate her, without crushing her, and staying hard in the condom, etc. Turns out the couch was so soft that thrusting was uncomfortable, so we ended up on the floor. At this point she climbed on top of me and rode me until I came, probably 5-10 minutes later.

    She asked afterwards if I was a virgin, and I didn't lie. The 2nd time was better, and so was the 3rd, and so on, and so on. Within a few days I was 'experienced' enough that there was no more nervousness, just lots and lots of fun giving each other pleasure.

    Years later (we were FWB for many years) I asked her how I was as a lover. She told me I was #1 for giving her head and making her have mind-blowing orgasms, and definitely in her top 5 ever for everything else.
    Considering she had had over 60 partners at that point, I considered that a great compliment.:redface:
     
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