So, I was on acid and extascy and I ended up texting a straight friend of mine, and I told him I had a crush on him. Then I also told him I did not want to be alone. I asked him if I could come over, he said yes. I went over and he told me that nothing is going to happen between us, and that he was straight. He then took me for a walk, in hopes that I would (sober up). Well anyway, He thinks that I look for people that are emmotionally unavailable. He thinks I only like guys that I can not get, because I am afraid of true love. Well now when I see him I can not look him in the eyes. I am not sure what he thinks, if just because he did not return the favor that I would stop having a crush on him. I still do, and thats my problem. How can I continue the friendship, while still lusting over him. I so far, have continued our friendship as normal as before, but everytime I talk to him and I look in his eyes. I lust for him. Help me LPSG folks
Sounds like a nice friend but he cannot help you; you have to help yourself.
There are a lot of other guys on this forum who are gay, like you, and have straight friends. Some of us work out at gyms, with straight guys, and even see those guys naked in the locker room, and it's nice to admire these hotties, but we don't necessarily lust over them.
The only time you lust over someone is when you feel lack, meaning you feel a desire for love and sex, and you're not getting it. So you go to someone else that you find attractive, and then you say you lust for them, because you want love, and you want someone to send you some.
I'll be honest, and not to hurt your feelings, but lustful people are not very attractive to be around. Straight guys don't hang out with gay guys that lust over them, because that is creepy. They will however hang out with gay guys that can admire them, without the lust, because that's just respect.
Your feeling of dependence on your straight friend is just your way of thinking that you need someone to validate you. So, I'll be blunt, you need to work on yourself dude. You need to start liking yourself first, by directing how you think, that you don't need anyone to lust over. You need people to like you for being attractive, not needy and lustful.
I recommend affirmations, and less time explaining why you feel lacking.
Your straight friend can't always be there to validate you; you have to do it on your own.