...you have to understand that human beings are not as stupid as people think when it comes to social behavior. People get upset about it precisely because they understand exactly what is going on...
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This is a society! We have to get along with one another and that demands SOME level of compromise.
I don't think it is an egregious compromise to ask an overt exhibitionist to tone down the cockprint in the pool.
Sorry, bro, but I kindly disagree with your statements. I have always believed that
context should be what matters in these situations. In other words, a man who is swimming in a pool has every right to wear whatever kind of swimming trunks he chooses, regardless of whether or not people around him find fault with his large endowment. If the club is private, as you mentioned, the easiest thing to do would be to specifically ban speedo usage. The problem with this solution, however, is that, in reality, we don't care about women spilling over their tops or showing cleavage at the pool. You know as well as I do that this is an everyday occurrence at pools, swimming holes, lakes and beaches across our country. I certainly don't mind it (HAHA). But, there is an incredible double standard when it comes to a man's endowment. A man with a large penis (and I know this from personal experience) has a hard enough time already looking for clothing that is not going to over emphasize a bulge. While some guys want to do this because they want to show off, others, in all fairness, do not intentionally do this, and, in fact, cannot help it. Now, can a guy choose not to wear a speedo? Sure! But just because a guy has a big dick shouldn't keep him from wearing one. How would the club do something about this? Have bouncers outside the pool entrance doing bulge checks? Of course not - because it's silly! Yes, discretion is always a good choice. But you can't tell someone they can't wear something simply because YOU have a problem with something they can't help. I would like all fat people to not wear spandex - but, in reality, it's their choice to do it, and I just have to get over it.
And one more thing, just because I happen to show bulge in my jeans and in my shorts at the gym does NOT make me an exhibitionist. It just makes me hung. There are plenty of times when you just can't help it. When it comes to swim trunks, I wear board shorts. Guess what? I show dick in those, too. So I guess that means I should never be allowed to go swimming because someone might not like that they can see that I have a penis. That person is the one with the problem, not I.