axolotl27: I am new to this group, but fall into the "ancient" category in age. I'm finding it interesting to read the messages by all the very different personalities. One that caught my eye I found upsetting. It was the writer's opinion that most of the members were either gay or bi-. Even if this were true, what difference could it possibly make? It's a little bit like saying: Most of the members put their left shoe on first, or eat soya burgers instead of meat. A support group's function is to "support". Let's get our priorities straight. It's sad to me to see someone wasting precious time on this earth by being angry or judgmental. And I do mean precious. In the last 2 years, my wife has died, my mother has died, and 6 close friends have died. But I haven't joined this group looking for sympathy. A woman 35 years younger with whom I've had an affair felt that I was qualified to join seeing that I've gone through life trying to cope with a monstrosity that hangs to my knee. In the words of my late wife,"Who said life was fair?"