Too Big -- A Guide for When Pain Replaces Pleasure

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  1. DocHolliday

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    TOO BIG:
    A Guide for Coping when Pain Replaces Pleasure
    Robert W Birch, PhD


    We all know that penises, like noses, come in all sizes, shapes and the directions in which they point. Some erections point up, some point down, some left and some right – and, of course, there are a lot that point straight out. There are unique twists to some, bends and curves. Often the head is bigger than the circumference of the shaft, some times it is the same diameter and sometime the head is dwarfed by the shaft’s thickness. Of all the various characteristics of the male penis, the one ​
    that gets the most attention is size!
    Many men worry about their size and seem to worry a lot more than most women worry about it. Most women would agree that a man’s ability to make mad passionate love has a lot more to with his skill and sensuality than with the size of his erection. Still, men continue to worry and there are also women who help perpetuate the belief that bigger is always better.
    One of the misunderstandings that contributes to the societal obsession with size is the belief that all women should reach orgasm during intercourse and penis size is the key. In reality, only about thirty-five percent of orgasmic women ever climax during intercourse, and typically only in positions in which they also are receiving clitoral stimulation. Penis size is not the critical factor.
    Realistically, however, there are the issues of fit. Penises come in all sizes and so do vaginas.
    Some penises fit better in some vaginas than they do in others. Yes, some women comment on penises that are too small or too thin, but in terms of complaints in the offices of most sex therapists, the greatest number of size complaints focus on those that are just too big – too long, too fat or both.
    The average vagina is only from three to five inches deep. Sure, they’ll stretch some, but at some point that becomes uncomfortable. With a long penis it might feel like something internal is being bumped into to. The other dimension that can be problematic is diameter. Some erections are too fat for the woman and she experiences penetration as very painful.
    One man said, “But they’ll stretch enough for a baby to go through,” and I ask him “But how many women have described that as pleasurable?” Sex should be fun, not labor. When a woman experiences painful intercourse, the joy goes out of it. She might begin to avoid the experience and this could have serious impact on her relationship. Still, however, companies continue to sell penis enlargement pills, patches, potions and pumps because men continue to want something bigger and are will to waste money on these products.
    Despite the claims and testimonials, there are no proven ways to enlarge a penis. Still the “add inches” hype continues while a lot of women just want a man who know how to make sensual love to here mind and to her body without pain.
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    It is interesting that the above header from a website shows on the left the internal bundles of spongy erectile tissue that engorge with blood and create the erection, but what the diagram does not show is that one half of the entire length is inside the body. It is this internal section that anchors the penis and allows to stand erect.
    On the right side of the header we see a young wide-eyed woman supporting a large erect penis, but it looks as though it would not stand straight on its own. (With some men firmness is sacrificed for size.) She appears impressed or bewildered, but does this mean that she wants the man to ram this large tool into her small body? Most women, particularly small ones, would run like hell if they saw something like this coming toward them.
    There are women who will say they want one this big, for as I have said, vaginas come in all sizes also. A large woman with a large vagina might easily handle something like this, but it would not be easy for an averaged-sized woman with an average-sized vagina.
    Still, the image of the large penis draws attention, draws admiration and a lot of men are worrying themselves sick and spending a lot of money trying to achieve something they will never achieve. And the question should be asked of these men, “What would you do with something that is too big for most women to handle?”
    For the rest of this article PM me or visit Sex Help, advice, Sexuality Information and Erotica
     
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    i'm nt reading all of that, but awesome avatar/username
     
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    I am not either...it's intimidatingly long...sorry Doc!:rolleyes:
     
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    Doc,
    I found it very interesting reading, I must be a geek. I am on the thick side and have always had difficutlty with penetration. I am 6.5 around at mid shaft and over 7 around at the base. the head is 2" x 2" if the woman is excited it is very hard to get in her. I have to work her lube and then enter slowly until the whole shaft goes in. I have never hit bottom but I get a lot of comments on thickness. I heard that what determines the length and width of a penis also determins width and depth of a woman. So it would be easy to have a mismatch. My wife has had children and after birth it took several month for her to take me comfortably again due to tears and such from birth. A woman usually goes back to her normal pre-birth size.
     
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    Oh, jeez. 754 words? I had to wrote longer papers in the 7th grade.

    ...and if you're "intimidated" by length, is this really the right site for you?
     
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    Ok, I read the whole thing! :rolleyes: My earlier instincts were essentially right on target! When I could not get meat out of the first paragraph, upon first reading , I rejected the whole essay.

    Please , no offense Doc, but there was nothing very original in the material presented and so I did not find it compellingly interesting!:wink:

    Just one man's reaction , I am sure it will be new and interesting to others!

    Thank you for presenting the material!:smile: Donk
     
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    I cant read :biggrin1: but i didnt think pain could replace pleasure. at least thats not what they tell ME.:tongue:
     
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    Have to take issue with the author saying he thinks most small women would run at the sight of a large penis.

    Heh heh....not the ones at This site.
    :wink:
     
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    I can agree with you Doc to a certain extent... this particular part has drawn my attention "With a long penis it might feel like something internal is being bumped into to."
    Not that I'm huge or anything (something like 18 cm) but I can hear a very similar comment from my GF quite often... after a harder than usual session she often comments how she feels like I've moved an organ or two inside... something she often feels as just a slight pain in the abdomen region even the next day on occasions...
     
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    I agree with the paper.

    Women are not as hung up on dick size as men are. Women would rather have a guy with plenty of bedroom skills, that can make them cum. Sure they dont want a 3 inch pecker, but they dont care if its average. Just watch some of the porn out there with those guys with big dicks. You can tell that some women are in pain when being fucked.

    Then watch some amateur videos where women are cumming hard form there lovers who know how to get them off.

    There is a thing as to big.

    My girl and her friends have had this discussion at a party I was at. One guy was huge and none of them wanted anything to do with him. He was 11inches maybe, Im not sure but it was big!
     
  11. whatireallywant

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    Well, we're not "most" small women, now are we? :biggrin1:

    Go ahead, most women - run away from the big guys! Makes it more likely for ME to get him! :biggrin1::biggrin1:
     
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