Too big for her?

[Typicaltool]

Okay, I apologize from the get go, because I was too lazy to really sort through all the topics to see if I could find any answers. I know I'm not huge, but 7"x6" is definitely on the large side and my girlfriend and I are both virgins so I'm not sure if I will be too large for her, I am really just concerned about girth here since she herself said it might be a little too big around and that a tampon fits quite snugly inside her. I have pics and you can see it is much larger than a tampon.

I was hoping there might be some way to make sure it is pleasurable to her the first time, of course I'm not going to pressure her into it and she'll be comfortable and everything, I just don't want to hurt her. Any replies are greatly appreciated.

 

[B_ScaredLittleBoy]

Stretch her out over the course of a few weeks/months.


Start with one finger...then when she gets used to that...two. Maybe three but a lot of girls have trouble with three...it stretches too much.

Instead or as well as this you should be stretching her with dildos/vibrators of various sizes.

eg a 5" long one with a girth of 4.5" then a 5" girth one etc...

After a month or two of this she will be ready for the real thing. Make sure she's wet...use lube if you have to.

 

[polesmoker]

Let her start on top, so she can control the pressure.

 

[Principessa]

Patience and lube. You've already got the love and kindeness so that's not a problem. Just relax, go slow, and learn to enjoy each other.

FWIW: A tampon really isn't a good comparison. Every man is bigger than a tampon. :tongue: Plus I've never been moist when inserting a tampon. The physical changes which a womans body experiences prior to and during sex are nothing like what we experience inserting a tampon. You are ahead of the game in comparison to many men about to have sex for the first time in that you actually have seen a tampon and can use it as a frame of reference.

 

[Typicaltool]

thanks for the stretching ideas, but she doesn't really get off when i stimulate her, I mean it feels good to her, but she doesn't really want me to because she feels like we should both be pleased at the same time and she thinks "taking turns" is just a little un-sexy.

As far as being on top goes, she would prefer me be on top, in missionary, for the first time, which is kind of how i would prefer it as well.

Thanks for the tips though and I'll make sure to talk to her about them.

 

[B_ScaredLittleBoy]

You can be licking her clit while you finger her/dildo fuck her. I'm sure she wouldn't complain...

Also you could forgo the stretching and take the final step...

Put a little bit of your cock in her...hold it still for a good while until she adjusts. Then push a little bit more in. Repeat until its all in. May not all go in the first time...Just fuck her with whatever you can fit inside. Hold the outside part with your hand to stop you pushing too far in.

Good luck

 

[Principessa]

Let her start on top, so she can control the pressure.

Seriously? Start with the cowgirl position? I think that's lousy advice. :yuck: Unless she's been watching a lot of porn she isn't going to know what the hell to do up there. :duh:

Missionary, I think thats the best position with which to start. Even when you are older it's a great way to get to know the rhythm, likes, needs, etc of a new lover before moving onto other positions.

 

[B_625girth]

why did you start this thread when you are going to do what you want to do anyway? i'm slightly larger than you, and my gf( now wife) advised me she would be on top after discovering my size.

 

[Typicaltool]

It isn't about what I want to do, it's about keeping the moment, like, I don't want to make things really unromantic and kill the mood by trying to position her in a certain way if she's not comfortable it's not going to happen. I'm just trying to find answers within my circumstance and if you don't understand it then don't respond.

 

[Mike7]

Eat her out until she orgasms. Take it slow at first

 

[Mystique]

A baby's shoulders can fit through a vagina..... a tampon can hurt more than a sweet guy and his dick....