A friend sent me this site, and I thought maybe you other endowed men could help me out with this one. I've been with my boyfriend for about a year now, and for the first few months of out relationship, I was always the top. A few months into our relationship, he told me he wanted to start topping sometimes, so I figured "sure, why not? its only fair". I kind of put it off for a while because while I am okay with topping as well as bottoming, most of the time, I prefer to be the top. I eventually caved and started letting him do it more often because he said I "stretched him out" a little down there, and it was having some adverse effects (I'm not going to go into the gruesome details...). Now its at the point where 3/4-5/6 of the time, he's topping, and because he's not used to taking something that big down there, whenever its me as the top, (even if we use enough/more than enough lube) I can tell he is in a world of pain during sex. He LOVES my dick, as long as its not ripping him open down there, but I want to get back to when having sex (with me as the top at least) isn't some ominous sentence my boyfriend fears! Haha. To let you know what I'm dealing with, I've got 9" long, and I'm really not sure how big around, but its pretty thick, slightly thinner than a Red Bull can. PS: "Toys" are not really an option. Neither of us are really into that. ANY help is greatly appreciated!