First let me say I always enjoy the advice people give here at LPSG, although I dont post much I always enjoy reading the thoughtful responses to others posts.
I have an issue which I would like some advice on: I feel my GF is much too close to her boss for comfort. I do not suspect any cheating in the physical sense, however I do think she is having an emotional affair and will not admit it to herself.
Here are a few details: The boss is attractive, successful, has a high level position in a large corp. He was her mentor and has been her boss for over a year. What makes me worry is that she seems to know everything about this guy, and his name will come up in conversation 4 or 5 times everyday (this is no exaggeration). He is married and has 2 children ( I even know names, ages, sports, activities, special schooling and what they excel at). Often his opinion enters into our conversations, anything from what our state tree should be to whats wrong with the economy. I know this guys hobbies, his physical ailments, his favorite music, the cars he owns, what sports he likes to the sports he used to play. I know his opinion carries a lot of weight with her, and I hear an awful lot of his opinions on non-work related stuff. Its like I cant keep him out of our conversations.
I once made the mistake of saying that I feel I know her boss better than I know my best friend since I hear about him 4 or 5 times a day. She got real mad and made me feel like I was just coming off as a jealous boyfriend.
So heres the deal: I feel our relationship could be better and I think she puts a lot of energy into this work relationship. I also feel she may be having an emotional affair and does not recognize it. The other thing is our sex life is really lacking. This may not be related, but if she is putting energy into this boss relationship there may be less desire for me. Like I said it could be something completely unrelated, but this is one of the reasons I am writing. I do not suspect any physical relationship is going on and I dont believe her boss would ever cross that line.
Thoughts?
I have an issue which I would like some advice on: I feel my GF is much too close to her boss for comfort. I do not suspect any cheating in the physical sense, however I do think she is having an emotional affair and will not admit it to herself.
Here are a few details: The boss is attractive, successful, has a high level position in a large corp. He was her mentor and has been her boss for over a year. What makes me worry is that she seems to know everything about this guy, and his name will come up in conversation 4 or 5 times everyday (this is no exaggeration). He is married and has 2 children ( I even know names, ages, sports, activities, special schooling and what they excel at). Often his opinion enters into our conversations, anything from what our state tree should be to whats wrong with the economy. I know this guys hobbies, his physical ailments, his favorite music, the cars he owns, what sports he likes to the sports he used to play. I know his opinion carries a lot of weight with her, and I hear an awful lot of his opinions on non-work related stuff. Its like I cant keep him out of our conversations.
I once made the mistake of saying that I feel I know her boss better than I know my best friend since I hear about him 4 or 5 times a day. She got real mad and made me feel like I was just coming off as a jealous boyfriend.
So heres the deal: I feel our relationship could be better and I think she puts a lot of energy into this work relationship. I also feel she may be having an emotional affair and does not recognize it. The other thing is our sex life is really lacking. This may not be related, but if she is putting energy into this boss relationship there may be less desire for me. Like I said it could be something completely unrelated, but this is one of the reasons I am writing. I do not suspect any physical relationship is going on and I dont believe her boss would ever cross that line.
Thoughts?