Too fascinating to fuck?

[MrE]

its happened several times on here actually....first thinking, damn they cute, then when i got talkin to them, all sexual thoughts ceased, as its hard to find people who are intelligen and cute...so i figured a brain would be better then eye candy (besides...most of them are too far away to do anything with )

 

[jjsjr]

Any other opinions?

 

[Nickstevens]

nope, a girl who is cure is a real turn on for me. I agree that it could be a little awkward to make a move on a cute girl but that is what alcohol is for. Not to mean that you should get her piss drunk but cute can go to sexy and flirty with a couple of drinks. You will feel more comfortable after that.

 

[cdog204]

No, in fact I find incredibly smart women turn me on immensely. If they are hot, great. Hot and interesting, or 'fascinating,' double whammy. That will bring out my A-game for sure.

 

[abriel]

No, the opposite. If they are attractive and good friendship material, then that will make me want them even more (since I believe being good friends is the number 1 key factor to successful relationship).

I believe the same thing.

 

[MACattack]

To fascinating to fuck? No way, doesn't happen. Maybe there is someone out there who has no interest in sleeping with you, speaks so well and has such an interesting life that just hearing their voice drops your draw and keeps you entranced until they are out the door and your sexual desire returns, but I'VE never seen one.

What you are talking about is fear. Forget that "It'll ruin the friendship" bullshit. I had that attitude about this one girl. SOOOO much sexual enegry between us, but I didn't want to ruin the friendship. Guess what? We haven't spoken in years. You never know what will end a friendship, you might as well be honest with each other....that is what friendship is about anyway.

Sex is one of the greatest forms of appreciation out there, show them how fascinating they are by trying to give them the best sexual experience they've ever had. That will NOT ruin a relationship. Isn't the person you spend your life with supposed to be your best friend anyway?

As long as you are honest about your intentions, don't play games and discuss what you want then any bad feeling resulting from a break-up will eventually disolve and you will be able to be friends again.

Unfulfilled sexual desire has a way of driving people apart too. If you can't control yourself and don't want to "ruin the friendship" you stop doing things with them for fear that you won't be able to control yourself.

Go for it! If you get turned down, big deal, get over it and stay friends. If you hook up, just be honest and things will work out.

 

[jjsjr]

What you are talking about is fear. Forget that "It'll ruin the friendship" bullshit. I had that attitude about this one girl. SOOOO much sexual enegry between us, but I didn't want to ruin the friendship. Guess what? We haven't spoken in years. You never know what will end a friendship, you might as well be honest with each other....that is what friendship is about anyway.

I guess I'm still in that boat.

 

[jjsjr]

bump.... it's been a few years.

Any other thoughts?

 

[flynn]

I don't know about many other people, but upon meeting someone really cute, my mind already falls into the gutter. However, if the person has such friendship potential, I almost immediately cease to have dirty thoughts and begin to appreciate the friendship instead.

Has anyone else had similar experiences of meeting someone who's attractive but too fascinating to fuck?

I love your first sentence. My goal would be to work toward getting her to bed and find out how fascinating she is later.

 

[902369]

bump.... it's been a few years.

Any other thoughts?

I’m like that. Sometimes I ginuinely want gay friends but I find that gay men either want to be my friend if they find me physically attractive, in which case they want to fuck me and I don’t want to fuck them because I don’t fuck my friends. OR they don’t find me physically attractive so they do not want to be my friend because they’re not interested in being friends, they’re interested in other things.

I don’t think the idea of “friend-zone” exists among gay men but I don’t think like a lot of gay men.

 

[Lee_M]

God no, its that nerdy "fascinating" aspect that makes me even more curious to know what they'd be like in bed.

 

[CUBE]

I think my initial draw to a friend is an attraction. Then it changes to just friendship. I work with an extremely sexy man. Totally straight. I initially felt it was hard to talk with him as his eyes go right through me. I actually told myself, “Get to know him as a friend fast so you won’t dwell on his looks.” He will stretch his arms up and it raises his shirt off his stomach. It’s so hard not to look. I swear though at times a straight guy like him does that to just show off to a gay friend.

 

[At.your.cervix]

I'm just the opposite. In my line of work I'm surrounded by beautiful women all day. They rarely conjure up any sexual thoughts unless they show me that they posses something interesting between their ears. An attractive mind can transform almost any woman into a someone intensely desirable, and a physically beautiful body immediately becomes totally unappealing when coupled with a lackluster mind and/or personality.

I'll go even further. In my experience, women with amazing personalities are quite often just as amazing in bed; and women with forgettable personalities are almost as often totally forgettable sex partners, regardless of their physical charms.

 

[LaFemme]

I'm just the opposite. In my line of work I'm surrounded by beautiful women all day. They rarely conjure up any sexual thoughts unless they show me that they posses something interesting between their ears. An attractive mind can transform almost any woman into a someone intensely desirable, and a physically beautiful body immediately becomes totally unappealing when coupled with a lackluster mind and/or personality.

I'll go even further. In my experience, women with amazing personalities are quite often just as amazing in bed; and women with forgettable personalities are almost as often totally forgettable sex partners, regardless of their physical charms.

I totally agree. Not that I’m surrounded by gorgeous males all day, but a fascinating person totally transforms what’s on the outside.

I have met incredibly good looking men who were duds in the way of conversation, or who were arrogant. I could not stomach more than 5 minutes with them. I have also met men who would be considered unattractive, or too short or too heavy, but so funny, so smart and fascinating that I couldn’t stay away from them. I never regretted my encounters with them.

 

[hvdude]

I met a guy years ago and was attracted to him and vice-versa. We talked and kept it light, wanting to see if something would "blossom". We had a lot of laughs together and finally decided to go to be together. We got in bed with our undies on, kissed a little, looked at each other and realized we liked being friends but we really weren't sexually attracted to each other. He moved away, but the last time I we met it was nice and not awkward. So, yeah, it happens.