too hard, too rigid?

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  1. buddysattva

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    this isnt a fix my problem thread, i'm just curious about thoughts and experiences on the matter.

    Since they always say, "Oh you are SO hard" in such a pleased tone, I can gather that a rock hard erection is a psychological boost for women (men as well, i'm sure), but do you think it is a factor in soreness afterwards. Are there advantages to an erection that has a bit of "give" to it both to the squeeze and the shape, I'd imagine that there are.

    I don't have much experience with penises but i'm just as rigid as they come, to flick it would be like to flick a kneecap. There's no jiggle, no flexibility, hell, it wont even point more than 45 degrees away from my body. It just seems that more often than not, I cause some soreness. Its not my size, its not foreplay or eagerness, women i've been with have had no lubrication problems, not my agressiveness as all my partners tend to slam it around a lot more than me when they get on top. It just seems like it could be a factor. If it is a problem, unfortunately it could just go away in time.

    Never seen a thread on this and was just curious, men with expertise are certainly welcome to join in.
     
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    I dunno about "psychological boost", a hard cock just feels amazing and appropriate for fucking... unless the guy's aim is off. :mad:

    A super hard guy has never made my vag sore, if anything, we find the right position easier and I'm able to squeeze around him better when it is rigid.

    Definitely one of the reasons I tend to give hand action before moving to sex--I want to make sure the guy can get rock hard before I even bother to take my panties off. :biggrin1:
     
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    Hmmm....
     
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    Perhaps it's the positioning? I have never gotten sore from a guy who really gets hard except in one position. When we are in a missionary position and he is up higher, not going straight in, so the top of his cock is rubbing constantly on the top of my vaginal opening. I will get sore then, so I just move or ask him to move.
     
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    I am normally not "super" hard when fully erect, and if you ask my wife she'll tell you she likes it just fine the way it is. It's hard enough to have fun with and penetrate. It's been this way since my mid-30s. Never saw it as a problem.

    However, around a year ago I dabbled with Viagra, and I seriously don't remember it ever being that hard before. Normally, when erect my penis will not be horizontal with the floor but point downwards. With the little blue pill it was pointing 45 degrees up! I was astounded. Unfortunately, my wife was not. She complained that it was too hard and I was too rough. It could be my imagination, but I think it was longer too. I kept bottoming out, but that may have been from the uncontrollable urge to just go with it.

    After that first time we learned to be very careful with the pharmaceutical assistance.

    I don't think I'm less masculine because I can't get rock hard all of the time. It works just fine the way it is. Sometimes you just want to floor it and burn the carbon out, though.
     
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    Just saying, I give an excellent hand job. If he can't get rock hard for that, then we will not progress to penis in vagina. :yup:
     
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    Hmmm...progress...
     
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    Unless that's an offer - stop teasing. :biggrin1:
     
  9. The Dragon

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    There is no such thing as Too Rigid or Too Hard for me.
     
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    Yep I don't get that either :smile:
     
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    Some sources advise men to do that to 'keep a lot of contact on the clit.'

    I know, it doesn't work very well at all. But that's why some men do it.

    Just tell him your clit is farther down!
     
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    OK, here's another angle (!) to consider.

    I have one of the 'high expansion' cocks. Flaccid it is pathetic - 2" or thereabouts. But when it's time to go to work, the blood arrives by the gallon and it really comes to life in a BIG way - 8.5 x 6 or sometimes more.

    There was one very experienced lady who loved to circle it (the inch that wasn't in) with her thumb and index finger and remark, "It's so HARD!" Happened every time - a ritual.

    So does a 'high expansion' cock get harder than average when fully erect? That lady certainly thought so.

    Now, as someone who has never felt another male cock (and have no plans to do so), I am in no position to offer a comparative opinion. But I throw it open to this astute group just in case there is a connection here that someone might be familiar with.

    I'd like to hear from other men who have the same type of equipment. How rare is it, and what have your experiences been? I certainly have no complaints.
     
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    OK, here's another angle (!) to consider.

    I have one of the 'high expansion' cocks. Flaccid it is pathetic - 2" or thereabouts. But when it's time to go to work, the blood arrives by the gallon and it really comes to life in a BIG way - 8.5 x 6 or sometimes more.

    There was one very experienced lady who loved to circle it (the inch that wasn't in) with her thumb and index finger and remark, "It's so HARD!" Happened every time - a ritual.

    Now, as someone who has never felt another male cock (and have no plans to do so), I am in no position to offer a comparitive opinion. But I throw it open to this astute group just in case there is a connection here that someone might be familiar with.
     
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    I did one time have a girl say to me, my dick was better not as hard as it usually is after sex many times, but her biggest concern was me not giving enough foreplay inorder to get the juices flowing. My conclusion is that women are happy to have a nice size cock that can fit there pussy perfectly and can keep it going to make them cum:smile:!
     
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    'Riding high', as I've heard it called, is as much for stimulating the g-spot as for clitoral contact. It works quite well when used on me.

    I've fucked a lot of dudes, and touched an even larger number of penises. In my experience the hardest ones are usually the smaller ones. Larger ones can get very hard, absolutely. But smaller ones seem to get just that much harder. I can't testify much with regard to a comparison between show-ers and growers, however, because I haven't seen so many flaccid guys. Mostly just erect ones.

    As to my own preferences: Since I will be sore without regard to the rigidity of my partner's erection, I prefer the hardest one if all else is equal. I have never encountered an erection which was too hard. I have, on the other hand, encountered dildos which were too hard.
     
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    Hey, I'm confused. ChockoKittie did you change your name? If you did, nice!
     
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    A cock is at its physical best when its rock hard. It should be, its supposed to be, its meant to be rock hard.
     
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    I have yet to encounter a penis that was either too hard or too rigid. Hardness hasn't been what caused me soreness the next day in the past. That usually comes from exuberant thrusting. :biggrin1:
     
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    I noticed when I was too hard that it made some positions harder to do since there was no give in my cock and it didn't want to bend more than 45 degrees from my body. I would have to angle my hips a certain way so she could be on top.

    It's not a problem I don't think, just takes some getting used to.
     
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